I once saw a news, which was very painful.

One day, Yang suddenly came up with a plan to make money, that is, buy high insurance for his parents, then kill them and get high compensation.

That day, he personally cooked for his parents, mixed the nitrite prepared in advance into the bought beef, and took the initiative to put the poisonous beef into his parents' bowl when eating.

But his parents love their son too much to eat beef. If they want to leave it to him, they won't eat it.

At this time, Yang was not moved by his parents' actions. Instead, he became angry from embarrassment and mixed nitrite in the water and served it to his parents.

He watched his parents struggle, then died, and finally opened the gas tank to create a scene of gas poisoning.

It's hard for you to imagine that there are people in this world who kill their biological parents for money.

Why is this happening? The reason is the education of parents.

Yang, a 32-year-old graduate of Weinan Normal University, is the only child of his parents. He has been the apple of his family since he was a child. His parents love him very much and don't want him to suffer any injustice. In fact, his family's situation is very bad, but his parents still support him to finish college.

Because his parents protected him too well, after graduating from college, Yang didn't know the hardships and difficulties of life until he entered the society. At the thought of his cold reception and supercilious look, he was extremely distorted psychologically, thinking about how to make money quickly every day, so he made up his parents' minds.

His parents were "afraid of falling into their hands and putting them in their mouths". I didn't expect to raise a baiwenhang, which was really chilling.

Remember Wang Jiajing, a Japanese student who killed his mother at the airport?

He studied in Japan for five years, and his family was poor, but he never worked. His tuition and living expenses are supplemented by his mother's monthly salary. Mom borrowed money everywhere, but she couldn't get it. He stabbed her nine times at the airport.

The mother could not bear the child's hardship, indulged him infinitely, and would rather bear all the debts herself, but in exchange for the child's confrontation, which was really chilling.

02.

I once saw such a story on the Internet.

My father is a bricklayer on a construction site and has no skills at all. Every month, he relies on a little hard-earned money to support the family's income. One day, his daughter wants to buy a mobile phone. He came to the mobile phone shop with a crumpled stack of bills with body temperature.

However, his daughter insisted on buying an Apple mobile phone. He felt very helpless. A mobile phone with several thousand dollars may be hopeless after working for several months.

Finally, my father really dotes on his daughter, but he bought it for her, but he never smiled.

Fortunately, my father can collect so much money, but my mother is not so lucky.

She really has no money to buy an Apple mobile phone for her children, so she can only kneel down to her daughter and beg her children not to buy an Apple mobile phone.

However, instead of getting her conscience, her daughter knelt down and scolded her mother, pointing and saying something.

There are too many such examples, no matter how I write them, I can't finish them. ...

There is a strange phenomenon in China today: the poorer a family is, the more it needs to support its children financially. Parents can do whatever it takes, even if they sell blood, as long as they can give their children the best.

Those children, obviously born in poverty, don't like to do housework and farm work, and can't bear hardships at all. The reason is that they are all only children, and their parents spoil them when they grow up.

It is a strange thing that poor children can't bear hardships, but they are desperately spoiled.

Why is this happening?

In fact, it's all parents' cognitive mistakes. In their generation, they suffered a lot. They don't want their children to suffer this crime again, so they will spoil their children. In particular, they think that children are suffering and owe them.

"No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and you can't suffer from children." This has formed a huge hole in their hearts, which needs to be filled little by little by desperately making up for their children.

However, everything goes too far, and parents do everything, so that children can enjoy special treatment from an early age, taking children as the center and protecting him unconditionally. Such a child has no gratitude, does not know the hardships of his parents' lives, and will only become a baiwenhang.

Many parents lament why my children don't understand me at all.

Why should he be considerate of you?

He picked up a broom to sweep the floor. You are afraid that he will suffer. You just have to do his study well. When he picked up the dirty clothes to wash, you saw the distress of his little hands and arms, so he said, I'll help you wash them; When he worked part-time outside for 60 yuan, you said sadly, "Don't work part-time, my parents are rich." .

These processes, which require him to feel, experience and suffer hardships, are all necessary, but they are all artificially avoided by you, and people often cannot empathize with things they have not experienced. How can he understand you at this time?

Sorry, if you want him to have a childhood without suffering, he will certainly make you have a difficult old age.

03.

Many poor people choose not to let their children suffer, while the rich desperately want to let their children suffer.

Dong Mingzhu paid attention to cultivating his son's spirit of suffering from hardship since he was a child. One afternoon, after school, her son came home half an hour late.

Dong Mingzhu asked him why he was late, and he replied, "Mom, because I was waiting for a one-yuan bus. The buses that used to come to our house were all from 2 yuan. "

When she grows up, although her son is rich, he only drives his own car of several hundred thousand to work. At first, his monthly salary was only 5 thousand, even the house was rented. He said to his mother, "Mom, you started from scratch. I am your son, so I can start from scratch! " "

Li Ka-shing, the richest man in Asia, set up a special seat on the board of directors for his two children when they were only eight or nine years old.

Every time there is a board meeting, the two brothers will sit in their small chairs and listen. At first, the two brothers thought it was novel and interesting. Later, the board of directors quarreled over some issues, and the two children would be scared to tears.

But Li Ka-shing didn't blind them to the cruelty of business, because they were scared to cry.

When Li Zeju and Li Zekai were studying at Stanford, Li Ka-shing only gave them the most basic living expenses. Who would have thought that Li Zekai once sold hamburgers at McDonald's, caddied at a golf course, and even injured his shoulder blades while carrying golf clubs, and these injuries will happen from time to time.

For example, He Youjun, the son of the gambling king who became a hit on the super brain, won the first place among many masters, which was really domineering.

/kloc-when he was 0/8 years old, he was admitted to Oxford and MIT at the same time, and finally chose MIT. That year, he was the only person in Hong Kong who was admitted to MIT.

After I arrived at the university, my four-year course took only three years to graduate early, breaking the record and becoming the youngest master in the history of MIT!

When studying, it is common to study until 5 am.

After starting a business, he chose to rent only an office of 5 square meters. In order to save money, he started his business at the lowest cost.

All along, we have a misunderstanding that the rich second generation is a dude who refuses to work hard and only eats his parents' money. But do you really think that the rich second generation will not work hard?

The most terrible thing in this world is that people who are richer than you are smarter and work harder than you.

Because they have long understood that knowledge, experience and ability can't be bought with money and need to be earned through hard work.

Spending 10000000 yuan can't buy the piano level of 10, spending 1000000 yuan can't buy the admission notice of a famous school, and spending 100 million yuan can't buy the wisdom brain.

Knowledge and ability can't be like drinks. You just need to install a tube on your head. As long as you pay, it will be delivered to you. Children in poor families have to sweat, and children in rich families will not be less.

The rich children, due to their unique resources and their own efforts and diligence, can be said to be flying forward in a rocket.

However, many children from poor families are born without such superior conditions. Coupled with the pampering of their acquired parents, they have lost many abilities, especially the most precious ability to bear hardships.

One is to accelerate and the other is to go backwards. The gap between the rich and the poor has exceeded eight generations.

It's a naked reality. It's sad that rich families work hard and their educational methods go to two extremes!