All parents in the world hope that their children can have a good life in the future, so they use all their connections to pave the way for their children's future, gradually forming a bad trend. As the saying goes, "The deep love parents have for their children means they have far-reaching plans." However, sometimes giving blindly is not a good thing. Everything should have a degree. Only by mastering this degree can we maintain the balance of life.

In the author's opinion, parents do not need to worry about their children's future. On the contrary, they should focus on their children's education. Only children who have skills can stand in this ever-changing society. In the eyes of our ancestors, everyone has his or her own destiny, which is exactly what the saying goes: "Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings."

This sentence actually comes from "Zengguang Xianwen". This book contains many famous aphorisms related to all aspects of life, in order to alert the world and let people Your descendants will avoid detours. "Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings." What I want to tell parents is not to care too much about their children's future.

Because no one can actually predict the future. There are too many variables. Just like your life has not come to an end, you are not qualified to say it will be the same forever. It is every parent's wish to give their children a better life and a better future, but the way forward depends on the children's own wishes.

If a child follows the path arranged by his parents throughout his life, then he will be no different from a puppet in this life. Because they have no chance to express their thoughts and make the choices they want to make. Is this what parents want to see? I don't think so.

The author feels that if parents want to contribute to their children's future, the most important thing is to cultivate their children's ability to deal with setbacks, so that no matter what kind of hardships they encounter in the future, they will be able to solve them on their own. From then on, life will be smoother. Some parents want to protect their children from wind and rain all their lives. In fact, this is not very realistic, because you will die before your children one day. When you leave, what will they do? What to do? You still have to face things that you should face by yourself.

There is a second half to this sentence, but the latter half is not as well-known as the first half. But the second half of the sentence is very reasonable, and it is also a piece of advice for some parents. This sentence is "Don't be a horse or a horse for your children and grandchildren." That is to say, don't be a cow or a horse for your children and grandchildren.

In fact, the current situation in our country is that after parents raise their children and their children have children, many people will choose to help their children take care of them. To put it simply, you spend the first half of your life worrying about your children, and the second half of your life worrying about your grandchildren. There are only a few decades in this life, so why can’t you leave more time for yourself?

So, our ancestors told us not to act like cattle or horses for our children and grandchildren. Nowadays, there are many old people who are nibbling. They are already older young people, but they don’t have a decent job. They live on their parents’ salary and do nothing all day long. It is actually very tiring to raise such a child, and the elderly parents always have to worry about their future life and marriage. It's okay if the family is rich, but if the family is not rich, then the parents can only complain endlessly.

Therefore, the author feels that this sentence is beneficial to both children and parents. As parents, we should educate our children with a longer-term perspective. Sometimes arranging everything is not the best choice.

The most important thing is not to over-indulge your children. Although the flowers in the greenhouse are beautiful, they cannot withstand the wind and rain after all.

As a child, the first thing you have to do is to improve your abilities and share the burden with your parents