I really like what psychologist Dr. Hai Lan said:

Lowering yourself will not help the world;

Being shy will not help the world around you. People feel safer.

You have to remember,

The real you shines brightly!

Many times a powerful word can influence us for many, many years. I believe in the positive power, and under the guidance of this power, we will grow into a better version of ourselves.

Please believe in positive verbal cues and do not succumb to the intentional or unintentional negative influence of others. If you believe that I am great, I will become a person of achievement and can shine every day; and if you believe that you are just a vulgar mortal, and every day is like a monk hitting the clock every day, these two things are different. Two people in this mentality will inevitably show completely different life trajectories and living conditions, and mentality is the beginning of all differences. So I believe in the realist view, I define me, I shape me, I make me. So please be sure to believe "I can" and don't set limits for yourself.

When we are young and lack the ability to discern and make decisions, we are easily influenced by other people’s ideas.

For example, when I was a child, I was very chubby. People would say, just follow your mother. Such people have a good appetite and gain weight easily after eating. I believed that I was fat for more than ten years until I was twenty-three or four years old.

I used to be afraid to talk to strangers. I overheard my mother saying to others, "She doesn't like me. I was like this when I was a kid." It made me feel that my shyness was innate and I couldn't help it. Get rid of.

When I was a child, my academic performance was pretty good, but I often heard my mother tell others that my good grades were because of my hard work. But when I heard this, I felt that saying I worked hard was like saying I was not smart. Performance. Therefore, I developed a rebellious mentality. I stopped studying, didn’t read when I should read, and didn’t write the homework I needed to complete. Therefore, in junior high school, because I didn’t study hard, there were gaps in my academic performance.

When I was choosing a major in college, I wasn’t sure what major I should choose. An aunt who has been engaged in accounting all her life said that since you have a quiet personality and can sit still, it is very suitable for you to study accounting. It will be easier for girls to find a job in the future. I was originally not sensitive to numbers, so I studied accounting, which I neither liked nor was good at.

Speaking of this, I think of Socrates' famous saying "Know thyself". You must know that other people's words are never your own thoughts. You must know yourself, follow your own heart, and have your own thinking. and make decisions instead of blindly listening to other people’s opinions and opinions.

In my memory, I used to be "easy to gain weight", "shy", "working hard is not smart", "the most suitable career for girls is to be an accountant". These stubborn ideas once firmly controlled me. It was like a solid yet transparent glass dome above my head, trapping me in it without even realizing it. This negative influence followed me for many years, and it was not until my mind slowly opened up and became sound that I gradually got rid of it. The person I am now is a reflection of the choices I made in the past, and the person I am now can choose to do what I want to do, and become the person I imagined and wanted in the future. Never underestimate yourself and never ignore the tremendous power you possess.

After all, a person's good luck is the result of his own choices, and so is his bad luck.

Please don’t set limits for yourself, please believe that the real you shines brightly!