Concentrate on the most important things, never distribute time evenly, and concentrate on one thing at a time.

The biggest enemy in life is your negative attitude. At the moment when sperm and egg meet, hundreds of millions of sperm rush to the only egg, so every fertilized egg is the best, so everyone can succeed. If you want to succeed in your career and live a happy life, it is important to have a positive attitude and dare to say to yourself: I can do it! I believe in myself! I am a unique person in the world!

Only by relying on ourselves can we win the final victory. When we give up the idea of asking for help from others and become self-reliant, you have already set foot on the road to success. You can help yourself without external help, and you can also exert your unexpected strength. Outside help seems to be a kind of happiness at that time, but in the end it is a kind of "scourge" because it can stop you from making progress.

There are many people in the world who are physically aging or even disabled. They can make a living by themselves. Do young people with sound skills have to rely on others for help instead?

When a person depends on others, he doesn't feel that he is a "complete person". When he has a certain occupation and status and can stand on his own feet, he can feel that he is a person without defects and feel a kind of glory and satisfaction, which nothing else can give.

There is a natural inertia in your bones, because you lack confidence and courage. Compromise, retreat and give up when encountering difficulties. Winners are not like this. They dare to fight against fate and keep moving forward until they get satisfactory results. We will never stop when others don't accept us. We should face this problem bravely and solve it with all our intelligence.

Bodo Fisher, a German financial writer, famously said, "The struggler doesn't need to retreat, he must overcome all difficulties to win." In order to save her son, an old lady actually stopped the falling car with her hand. If you don't leave a retreat for yourself and cut off the retreat in times of crisis, it is very likely to force yourself and even the whole team to exert their greatest potential and create miracles.

Successful people know how to work overtime when necessary. If there is pressure of time limit, they will even work on weekends. They don't look at the clock, they just bury themselves in it until the work is finished and done well. Winners are proud of what they can achieve in a day full of action. I have neither strength nor popularity, and I have to convince others by patience. Tell yourself: "Please rest assured that I will succeed."

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Some people fail, not because they have no skills, but because they set the wrong goals. Persistence means persistence, giving up means giving up, and choosing the right direction to work hard. Persistence is a good character, but in some things, excessive persistence will lead to greater waste. The best way to quit smoking is "hour after hour". When this hour passed, he changed his resolution to the next hour. It doesn't help my goal. If the answer is no, I will stop immediately. If it is positive, I will redouble my efforts.

Jones Hayes is the man of the hour in the hurdle race. His training is three hours a day, seven days a week. In the next few years, he set a new record for hurdling. Goethe has such a saying: "Stick to it and drive yourself to go on. Even the smallest of us do this, and rarely fail to achieve our goals. Because the silent power of persistence will grow to an extent that no one can resist over time. "

A poem by Canadian writer savis: Diligence will win,

Running away from cold feet 2 is not a hero.

After all, it is too easy to give up. It's hard to summon up the courage to move on.

Crying for you, death is too easy,

Retreat and crawl are too easy,

But when there is no hope, you have to fight again.

This is the best drama in life.

Although you have experienced every fierce battle,

Everything is painful, but try again,

After all, death is too easy,

It's not easy to keep your head up and move on.

Maybe you are not as smart as others, maybe you have some defects, but you are not necessarily less successful than others, as long as you are more persistent and patient.

How can we cultivate this indomitable spirit? Never say failure, because if you fail repeatedly, you are likely to convince yourself to accept giving up.

No matter how far you are from your goal, don't worry, concentrate on the distance of 5 blocks, and don't let that distant future bother you.

The reason why I can't be brave when I ring the bell is because I've been here seven or eight times and the other party feels impatient. If I bother others again this time, I will definitely lose face. I didn't know that the other party was going to insure. Always let yourself smile, and the staged success adds up to the ultimate success.

There is an important rule when setting goals, that is, it must be difficult. If you have confidence in success, you will be halfway there. What kind of goals, what kind of life, goals are like seeds planted in our lives. Please stick to it today and set a life goal worth pursuing!

When setting goals, we should avoid being blind, following the crowd, following the fashion and following others' advice. In this sense, an important prerequisite for setting goals is a correct understanding of the present.

In order to better understand the status quo, you can accept a "status satisfaction test". This method can be divided into the following three steps:

The first step is to write down what you don't like in your current life (that is, what you intend to change) on paper. When you answer this question, you can make a list of things you don't like at present, such as: "Too little income, too much expenditure, making ends meet." "I feel that I am too rich to use my talents in my current position." "I work too long and spend too little time with my family." "The accommodation environment is too noisy." ……

Step two, answer what you like in your current life (what you plan to keep). We should also give a specific and clear answer to this question. For example, you can write on paper: "Friendship." "The working hours are very flexible." "The work unit is good and the leaders are trustworthy." "The housing is ok." "City life is rich and colorful."

Goals can also be designed to be closer. If you get close, you will succeed. Bidding for the center will be ambitious.

The growth of every life has a mature and natural process. Dr Maxwell Morz, a famous plastic surgeon, said in The Pillar of Life: "Everyone is a pursuer of a goal. Once he has achieved his goal, he must start the second goal the next day. ...... Life is about starting, galloping and correcting the direction, just like driving on the highway. Sometimes we can take a nap on the fork and then continue to run on the highway. "

Everyone's success can only be like this: paying the price is time, patience and hard work.

Great goals can never be achieved overnight. In order to achieve great goals, you must establish corresponding medium-term goals and short-term goals. Short-term goals are your daily planning and implementation.

Half a century ago, Mao Yong, a boy who had seen the world in the suburbs of Los Angeles, was only 15 years old. He drew up a form entitled "Lifelong Volunteers", and he numbered each item, with a total of 127 goals. When he solemnly wrote his dream on paper, he began to realize it step by step. If you can be like him, one day, you will find yourself the farthest person! Goals are the blueprint of one's future life and the pillar of one's spiritual life.

Once you have set a clear goal, you should start to budget your time and money and arrange how much effort you should make every day to achieve this goal.

Consciousness of success

An advantage closely related to self-confidence is the sense of success, which can fill your mind with the belief of success and refuse to accept any failure.

The first great advantage is that your subconscious mind begins to follow a universal law, that is, "what people can imagine and believe, people can accomplish with a positive attitude." Spend the greatest effort to achieve their goals, and only by discovering their strong desires can they succeed. Advantages such as self-reliance, personal initiative and imagination will develop from clear goals and be integrated into successful plans.

There are two ways to change behavior: one is to force yourself to follow the newly designed behavior until it becomes a habit, and the other is to use rewards to gradually form new habits.

If you want to completely change your original behavior, you must take some countermeasures to help yourself strengthen or eliminate some habits. You'd better draw a table to help you evaluate your progress correctly.

For most people, one thing to realize is that any behavior that can make us feel happy after doing it often encourages us to do it faster and is more likely to make us do it again. You can get encouragement from others or give yourself some kind of reward to encourage yourself. This kind of reward may be insignificant, but as long as it makes you feel happy. You should reward yourself for every "small" success, instead of waiting for the "big" success.

Once you start a job, do it well, don't give up halfway.

You can use the method of divide and conquer. It is to divide the work into several sections, preferably written down in words, and then force yourself to finish it for a while before taking a rest. In this way, every time you come to the end, you will not feel confused, you will feel that success is not far away, and you can work hard at any time.

For example, to write a long work report, how to arrange the progress? Don't follow the timetable of "only writing for about an hour at a time", write an outline first, or do a good job of investigation and research, or write an introduction and arrange the progress in stages, so that when you take a step forward, you will feel that you have completed something and know exactly what you should do next. Then when you write again, you don't need to sort out those messy things, so you won't waste time and energy.

For example, you put off making a phone call for a long time, but it may make you unhappy. In this case, "phased implementation method" can be adopted. You can do this:

First, find out the phone number and write it down.

Second, set a time to make this call.

Third, find some relevant information to see what this phone call is related to and what is going on.

Fourth, think about what you want to say in your mind first.

Fifth, get through this phone.

If this is a major task and there are many stages of subdivision, then make a detailed timetable. But make every little thing as simple as a few minutes.

Please remember: the first stage of this work-the first small work that can be completed immediately-is to list many steps in the whole work process in words.

Another good way to get you out of trouble is to analyze what you want to do with words.

On the left side of a piece of paper, list all the reasons why you put off a job, and on the right side, list all the benefits you may get from starting to finish the job.

This effect is very rapid and dramatic. You will wake up from laziness, start working, and get many benefits listed in your form. Starting from tomorrow, every morning, do one thing that makes you feel most unhappy.

Although you only forced yourself to do it once on the first day, you will soon find that it will affect your decision all day. Every time someone gives you an unpleasant chore, you are eager to get rid of it first, so that you can quickly get rid of that sense of relief and happiness after such a job.

Sometimes, if you are a little stressed, you will give up, or wait until tomorrow. One way to get rid of this problem is to order yourself: "I'm fine now, I can start right away, and then I'll be finished."

Write a plan

Why write a plan? Because you have to set yourself a reasonable deadline before you act, actions without a certain deadline are often ineffective or extremely inefficient. With the time limit, you can always remind yourself that you must act immediately, otherwise, you will not be able to complete the fixed action plan within the agreed time limit.

The story of Monroe and Sun Quan: Monroe said: My army is very busy, so I have no time to study! Sun Quan listened to the criticism and said, "You are wrong. I am in charge of state affairs, much busier than you, but I will take time out to study and gain a lot. Emperor Guangwu of Han Dynasty led troops to fight, but he still couldn't let go in a tense and hard environment. Why can't you study hard? " Later, Lu Meng read all the poems, books, history and art of war. Gradually, Monroe's official position continued to rise, and he became a very resourceful person.

Bristol uses "free termites" to express the discouraging side, because it is a "function" that eats itself in a self-destructive way-until all the termites are eaten, nothing remains.

When you run away from life, you are gnawing at yourself and destroying your spirit, just like the injured person will lose blood and devour your vitality.

Suffering from "chronic depression", the patient kept gnawing at his brain until there was a "fracture", and then added "plaster dressing" to deliberately limit his life. He will make excuses for his failure. He blamed others for his lack of communication, thinking that others misunderstood him and were unfair to him, which limited his communication with others. In the end, he just sat around and thought and thought. If you want to live an active life, you must go forward bravely-no matter what difficulties you encounter, otherwise, your mind will form a hotbed suitable for termites to breed, and they will invade your mind and destroy you.

Don't be trapped in stagnant water like a bug, don't sink like this, learn how to sail on the channel of life.

One must learn to compete with oneself every day in order to set off a real confidence revolution! First of all, we should not make excuses for mistakes, but admit and improve them. When we avoid setting valuable goals, we will live in the old way.

Excessive caution and lack of self-confidence are taboos in doing things. Doing something when your enthusiasm is high is completely different from doing something after your enthusiasm disappears. For example, it is easiest to write a letter and reply as soon as it is received. But if it is delayed any longer, it will be difficult to reply.

A famous writer once said that a bed is something that people love and hate. Before going to bed at night, we always think it's too early to go to bed when we think of unfinished work. However, the next morning, we didn't want to get up early, although we made up our minds to get up early the next morning last night. Many outstanding people get up early in the morning, and by breakfast time, they have finished the most important work of the day.

If it is a challenge for you to take action, then design a "10 minute plan", do the work you are afraid of for 10 minutes, and then decide whether to continue.

If you encounter some obstacles in your work, change your work place or posture, have a rest, or change your work content.

However, don't forget that once you make a decision, even if it is a wrong decision, you are already on the road to success. Wrong decisions can be corrected, and the final result of never making a decision will never be successful.

If you really want to customer service your procrastination, then, from now on, don't delay, list your action plan as soon as possible! (1) Procrastination will make entrepreneurs fail, may make wives too lazy to wash dishes and make beds in time, and may also lead to the dissolution of a marriage. Patients may have an irreparable impact on people's lives.

(2) Find a specific aspect that makes you feel distressed and used to procrastination, and then conquer it.

(3) Set a deadline for yourself, let others know your deadline, and expect you to finish it on time.

(4) It is human nature to avoid the important, but it will only make the problem more difficult in the end. (5) Don't stop pursuing perfection.

(6) Grasp the five minutes in front of you and live hard. Don't think about long-term plans, but try to make full use of the five minutes in front of you to do what you want to do.

7. Do what you have been putting off now.

(8) Ask yourself: "If I do what I have been putting off until now, what will be the worst result?" The result is often negligible, and you can do it actively.

(9) Set a fixed time for yourself, such as Monday night 10 to 10 to do something delayed. You will find that as long as you concentrate on your work in this 15 minute, you can often finish many things that have been put off.

(10) Cherish yourself and don't worry about wasting time. You know, people who cherish themselves will not torture themselves mentally like this.

(1 1) Seriously examine the reality. Procrastinate and think that you are worried about the future in real life. If you turn the future into reality, this anxiety will disappear.

(12) Go on a diet, quit smoking and give up drinking-from now on! Now you can put down your books, do a set of push-ups immediately and start your exercise plan. The solution to the problem is-from now on! Take immediate action! It was you who stopped you from acting, because you didn't believe in your own strength before and made some wrong choices. Look how simple it is. Just do it.

(13) When you are bored, learn to use your brain actively. Take the initiative to ask some questions in a boring meeting to adjust the boring atmosphere, or use your brain to do something interesting, such as writing a poem, or try to speed up a bunch of numbers to enhance your memory.

(14) When someone comments on you, ask him, "Do you think I need to comment now?" When you are talking about others, ask the people around you if they are willing to listen to your comments: if so, you can ask him why. Doing so will help you change from a critic to a doer.

(15) Take your life seriously. If you had six months left in your life, would you still do what you are doing now?

If not, you'd better adjust your life as soon as possible and do what you think is the most urgent and necessary now. In the long river of time, 30 years and 6 months are almost the same, and your life is only a short moment, so it is unreasonable to delay the time anyway.

(16) Get up the courage to do one or two things you have been avoiding-a brave action can eliminate all kinds of fears. Don't force yourself to do it well, because doing it itself is the key.

(17) Try to eliminate all fatigue before going to bed at night. Don't use fatigue and illness as an excuse to delay doing anything, and act immediately.

(18) Stop using words like "hope", "hope" and "possibility". For example, you should say: I want things to be solved, not "I will try to solve this matter." Change "I hope my mood will get better" to "I want to do something to make my mood happy." Replace "it may not be a big problem" with "I want to make sure there is no problem."

(19) Record your complaints and comments every day. Making this recording can achieve two purposes. On the one hand, it can make you aware of your comments in life. On the other hand, it is a headache to make such records, which will also prompt you not to comment and complain at ordinary times.

(20) If your procrastination involves other people, you should discuss with them, listen to their opinions, and dare to express your worries, which will help you realize whether the procrastination is entirely due to subjective reasons. With the help of intimate friends, we can analyze and solve problems together. Soon, you will completely eliminate the troubles caused by procrastination.

(2 1) Make an agreement with your family and clearly put forward what you want to do but don't do it; Let's play games together, go out for dinner, go to the movies, go on vacation ... let everyone keep a copy and stipulate the punishment in case of breach of contract. You will find this method very effective and you can benefit from it, because you often get pleasure from these activities.

If you want to change the status quo, you don't have to complain, but you must do something practical. You don't always have to worry about procrastination and laziness. You should try your best to get rid of this annoying personality, devote yourself to real life and be a doer, not a visionary, visionary or critic.