Parents should make it clear to their children that modesty makes people progress and pride makes people fall behind. Modest people will continue to learn new knowledge and new things, learn the strengths and advanced experience of others, and make continuous progress; And a proud person will be complacent and unwilling to learn other people's strengths and new knowledge and new things. He will not only stand still, but also fall behind.
In addition, humble people often know how to respect others and unite with others. The result of unity and humility can often gather greater strength and make greater progress.
A blind and arrogant person is like a frog in the well. They have a narrow vision and look down on others, which often affects unity and leads to failure. So modesty will lead to success, and pride will lead to failure.
Of course, parents should also let their children distinguish between self-confidence and pride.
Self-confidence is a positive attitude towards life, which can make people optimistic and enterprising; And pride is an incomplete understanding of oneself, a blind optimism, which often makes people fail to make progress. For parents, it is necessary to cultivate their children's self-confidence, but they should not be complacent. There are great similarities in form between the two, which are often confusing. Children often regard their little pride as self-confidence, so parents should help their children distinguish the difference.
2. Help children fully understand themselves.
Children's pride is often due to their own specialties and advantages. Parents should help their children analyze the root causes of pride: whether they have good academic performance, artistic potential in a certain aspect, and athletic talent.
Then let the children realize that there are mountains outside the mountains and people outside. His advantage is limited to a small scope, and it is nothing in a larger scope; The correct attitude should be positive and enterprising, not arrogant and slack, because advantages and disadvantages often coexist, so we should try our best to make up for the shortcomings and constantly improve ourselves.
Parents have made some achievements in educating their children, which is really the result of their own efforts, but don't forget that this also includes the cultivation of parents, the teaching of teachers and the help of classmates.
In addition, incorrect ones are more likely to breed pride. Comparing one's own strengths with others' weaknesses, it is easy to be complacent and think that everything is better than others, thus looking down on others.
Parents should broaden their children's horizons and guide them out of the narrow circle of themselves. Take them to a wider place to cultivate their sentiments; Let them know more about the achievements and talents of historical celebrities, enrich their hearts with rich knowledge, and let them become the driving force of pride.
3. Let children face criticism and suggestions correctly.
Correctly facing criticism and suggestions is lifelong learning, and complacency is often related to not being able to handle others' criticisms and suggestions well.
A child with good grades is very conceited and doesn't take his teachers and classmates seriously at school.
One day, the head teacher criticized him. He went home unhappy and said angrily, "What's the big deal about being a teacher?" ! I'm not going to school! "The mother asked about the situation and told the child:" Parents and teachers criticize you, not because they look down on you, but because they want you to make progress. Of course, we know that if we criticize you, you will be unhappy and even resent us, so why do we choose to criticize you? Children, adults want you to make progress! So does the teacher. "
Under the mother's education, the child admitted his mistake to the teacher and slowly corrected his conceit.
Let children understand that criticism often points directly at a person's shortcomings. If a person can accept criticism, he can see his shortcomings more clearly. If you can always listen to other people's opinions or suggestions, you can constantly enrich and improve yourself.
4. Avoid praising children too much
In order to avoid children's pride, Carl Witt, as an educator, attaches great importance to cultivating his son's modest character and tries to avoid others praising his son easily. Because he knows that once a child becomes complacent, his future will be ruined.
Once, a supervisor who had heard for a long time that Little Witt was good at mathematics wanted to test him. As usual, Mr. Witt asked the other party to agree to his own condition, that is, "No matter how you do the exam, never praise my son." After discussion, Mr. Witt called in his son who had been sent out specially, and the exam began.
The more you test the inspector, the more surprised you are, because little Witt can solve every problem in two or three ways, and he can also solve the problem according to his requirements. So he couldn't help but want to praise Witt. Mr. Witt gave him a quick wink and he stopped.
After the exam, he entered the depth of knowledge and finally went to the unfamiliar field of inspector. At this time, he couldn't help crying: "Oh dear! It' s really a scholar than a scholar! "
Mr. Witt thought it was not good, and immediately poured cold water on it: "No, no, because my son listened to math class at school for half a year, and I still remember." The inspector refused to give up and said to Little Witt, "Look at this problem again. It took Mr. Euler three days to work it out. If you can do it, it will be even more remarkable. "
However, it didn't take long for little Witt to succeed. At this time, the inspector said unhappily, "You know this problem in advance." Little Witt felt very wronged and repeatedly declared that he didn't know with tears in his eyes.
At this time, the inspector said, "If you haven't seen this problem, you are better than the great mathematician Euler." Mr. Witt squeezed his hand and immediately said, "Blind birds can sometimes pick up beans, which is also accidental."
Only then did the inspector understand Mr. Witt's intention and nodded and said, "Yes, yes." Then the ear whispered to Mr. Witt, "Alas! I really admire your education law. Such an education, no matter how learned your son is, will never be proud. "
Too good children often can't stand praise, too much praise often leads to children's complacency. When parents praise their children, they should pay attention to praising their behavior, not the children themselves-this is a skill of praise.
5. Give your child a reason, for example.
The educational method of "being diligent in learning, being strict with points and being good at comparison" is worth learning by parents.
Diligence in learning means that when a child has achieved something in a certain field, he must be encouraged to continue learning. Tell your children that what you have achieved is nothing remarkable. As long as you continue to study, you will find that you know nothing about this and that, and you will know your own shortcomings.
Parents can help their children constantly set new goals and let him know that there are still so many things he can't do, and his achievements are really not worth mentioning. Might as well be modest.
To be strict with the score is to be strict with your own analysis. When children get grades, parents must calmly analyze with their children, treat themselves with the "two-point theory", and tell their children that the inch is long and the foot is short to prevent the breeding of pride.
Being good at comparison means educating children to be good at finding out the gap between themselves and others. After finding the gap, children can determine what they should learn from others.
Pride will make children exaggerate their own advantages, ignore their own problems, and treat others as waste instead. Such children are always in a blind sense of superiority, thus gradually relaxing their requirements, leading to a decline in their grades and finally becoming less outstanding.
Parents can consciously create some difficulties for their children to overcome, so that children can realize that it is not so easy to do well and the road of life is not so smooth, thus prompting children to learn with an open mind, learn from the strengths of others, avoid their own shortcomings and make continuous progress.