Ideas

Sometimes giving up is to achieve greater success

Only when you lose can you gain

Smart people persevere , give up

Put down your baggage and travel lightly

Give up yesterday’s honor and create greater glory

Rather than cling to your laurels, give up decisively

Correct giving up requires determination and wisdom

Quotes

Never give up the opportunity to create history. ——Yao Ming

The whole secret of life is to give up survival in order to survive. ——Goethe

Those who give up time will also give up on him. ——Shakespeare

Don’t give up the goal you were originally determined to achieve just because of one failure. ————Shakespeare

The sooner you give up the old cheese, the sooner you will discover the new cheese. ——Spencer Johnson

We should never abandon a cause. If it takes twenty years, thirty years, or even a lifetime or several generations, we will dedicate it to it without any hesitation. ——Zola

When you have reached the highest happiness, you should not sit idle with your hands, you should work non-stop. ——Rudaki

If you persevere, the rotten wood will not break; if you persevere, the metal and stone can be carved. ——Xunzi

A life of contentment is self-abandonment. ——Cheng Yi

When others give up, you still persevere; when others retreat, you still move forward; when there is no light or hope in front of you, you still work hard. ——Maarten

The succeeding generations have abandoned the undertakings of the previous generations, just like abandoning several stranded ships. ——Anonymous

Classic material

Ellison's speech

(Abandoning glory)

On the 300th anniversary of Yale University, Ellison, CEO of the world's second largest software company "Oracle" and the world's fourth richest man, was invited to attend the school celebration ceremony. Ellison made some shocking remarks in front of all Yale alumni. He said: "All teachers and students at prestigious universities such as Harvard University and Yale University think that you are winners. In fact, you are all losers because you are proud to study in a university that has outstanding students such as Bill Gates. But Bill ?Gates is not proud to have studied at Harvard."

The audience was stunned. Ellison continued: "Many of the best talents are not only not proud of Harvard or Yale, but often resolutely give up that honor. Bill Gates, the world's richest man, dropped out of Harvard midway; Paul Eyre, the world's second richest man, Ellen, never went to college; the fourth richest person in the world, Ellison, was expelled from Yale University; Dell, the eighth richest person in the world, only attended college for one year; Microsoft President Steve Ballmer is on the wealth list He was ranked outside the tenth place on the list. He was a classmate of Bill Gates. Why was his achievement lower? Because he reluctantly dropped out of graduate school after one year..."

Of course he said that. A bit extreme, but not completely unreasonable. We all have a strong sense of "status glory." However, if we never forget our past glory, we will lose the motivation to move forward. In order to create new glory, maybe you should make up your mind to give up the glory you once had.

1850 rejections

(You can only succeed if you don’t give up)

In the United States, there is a poor young man who even has all the money he has. When he didn't have enough money to buy a decent suit, he still insisted on his dream wholeheartedly. He wanted to be an actor, make movies, and become a star.

At that time, there were 500 film companies in Hollywood. He counted them one by one, and more than once. Later, based on the route he carefully planned and the order of the list, he went to visit with a tailor-made script he wrote. But after the first pass, none of the 500 film companies were willing to hire him.

Faced with 100% rejection, this young man did not lose heart. After leaving the last rejected film company, he started from the first one and continued his second round of visits and self-recommendations. .

In the second round of visits, 500 film companies still rejected him.

The results of the third round of visits were still the same as those of the second round. The young man gritted his teeth and started his fourth round of visits. After visiting the 349th film company, the boss of the 350th film company for the first time agreed to let him leave the script for a first look.

A few days later, the young man was notified and invited to discuss in detail.

In this discussion, the company decided to invest in the filming of the movie and asked the young man to be the leading actor in the script he wrote.

The movie is called "Rocky".

This young man’s name is Sylvester Stallone. Now looking at the history of movies, this movie called "Rocky" and this superstar who will become famous all over the world are both on the list.

Qian Xuesen’s giving up

(Indifferent to fame and wealth)

In 1950, in order to return to China to participate in the scientific construction of the motherland, Qian Xuesen resolutely gave up the generous living conditions abroad. He gave up his popular academic status and academic title in the foreign scientific and technological circles, broke through all kinds of persecution and attacks by the American reactionary forces, and finally returned to his homeland after five years of unyielding struggle. After returning to China, he turned his patriotic enthusiasm into selfless work day and night, dedicating all his blood and wisdom to the rocket, missile and aerospace industry of the motherland. Today, he has made great contributions to China's national defense science and technology, and is hailed as China's "Father of Missiles" by some newspapers and magazines. This was originally well-deserved, but Qian Xuesen gave up again. He said: The missile was developed by everyone, and it is definitely not my fault alone, so I don’t want the press to publicize me like this. Many people wanted to interview him and write his biography and reportage, but he declined. The old scientist is open-minded and faces honor indifferently.

Mr. Qian not only gave up his honor, but also gave up many material benefits. When his employer wanted to build him a house, he firmly disagreed because "I can't be separated from the vast number of scientific and technical personnel." He didn't even read the huge check of 1 million Hong Kong dollars, and donated it all to the desertification control cause in the west. As for writing inscriptions, writing prefaces, participating in appraisal meetings, attending opening ceremonies, ribbon-cutting ceremonies, overseas inspections, and serving as honorary consultants and honorary professors, he declined all the good things that others could only dream of, which could bring him both fame and fortune. Because, firstly, he takes these things very lightly, and secondly, he wants to calm down, seize all the time, and concentrate on working for the motherland's scientific and technological undertakings and modernization construction. This was his greatest pleasure and his lifelong pursuit.

Pain builds strength

(You should not give up your dream)

There was a girl who had a dream when she was very young: to become an excellent skier. . However, she unfortunately developed bone cancer. In order to save her life, she was forced to have her right foot amputated. Later, the cancer spread and she lost her breasts and uterus.

Time and time again, misfortune befell her. She cried and grieved, but she never gave up on her dream. She kept telling herself: "Giving up lightly means nothing." If I fail, I have to take responsibility for my own life.”

In the end, not only was she not defeated by the disease, on the contrary, she overcame all difficulties with her tenacious fighting spirit and incomparable courage, and finally created many world records for herself. Records, including winning the 1988 Winter Olympics, and winning 29 gold medals in all previous U.S. Ski Championships. Later, she also became an expert in climbing dangerous peaks. She is the most legendary and famous skier in the history of American sports--Diana Gordon.

The Apocalypse of the Spider

(Persistence is Victory)

In the early 19th century, a British army was defeated by an army led by Napoleon. The generals of this army They fled. One of them hid in the haystack of the farmhouse to take shelter from the wind and rain, feeling miserable and depressed. In a daze, he suddenly found a spider at the foot of the wall struggling to build a web in the wind. The silk was blown off time and time again, but the spider pulled the silk and re-knitted it again and again, not giving up, and finally completed the web. The general was shocked and encouraged by this elf. Later, he regrouped and fought hard, finally defeating his opponent Napoleon at the Battle of Waterloo.

This general is the famous General Wellington in history.

Everyone will always encounter difficulties of one kind or another in his life. The great musician Beethoven lost his mother at the age of 17 and became deaf at the age of 32. Successive blows did not knock him down. Most of his major works were created after he became deaf. Newton only attended elementary school for three months before dropping out and staying home. But he has also become a messenger of light for mankind and a discoverer of some of the most important laws of nature.

Failure is the biggest difficulty for generals, deafness is for musicians, and dropping out of school is the biggest difficulty for inventors. However, they were not intimidated by difficulties, but faced them head on and finally succeeded.

Take off the other shoe

(Sometimes it is helpful to give up)

There is such a story: On a fast-moving train, an old man did not He accidentally dropped one of his newly bought shoes from the window, and all the tourists around him felt sorry for it. Unexpectedly, the old man resolutely threw the remaining shoe away. While everyone was puzzled, the old man smiled calmly: "No matter how expensive the shoes are, the remaining one is of no use to me. Throw it down, and maybe someone who picks it up can get a pair." The old man's seemingly abnormal behavior reflects the idea that it is better to give up decisively than to cling to one's limitations.

When Xing Huina, the 10,000-meter women’s long-distance running champion at the Athens Olympic Games, was a teenager, she once participated in an 800-meter race and lost one of her shoes. She decisively took off the remaining one and ran with her bare feet. Finished the race and won first place. Perhaps it was her sobriety and determination that allowed her not to be discouraged after her failure in the 5,000-meter event, but to give it a try. At the last moment, she achieved her unexpected glory today.

Although most of us understand these principles in life, when it comes to our own interests, we often cannot act rationally. I still have unreasonable thoughts about some things that I should have given up decisively, and I am obsessed with the value of the original "pair of shoes", but cannot clearly see the current situation of only "one shoe" remaining. Tired of it.

Maria's Broken Love

(Another Sky After Giving Up)

As a girl, Maria was from a poor family and had no money to go to university in Paris, so she had to go to a A noble family works as a tutor. Soon, she fell in love with Casimir, the eldest son of this noble family. When they planned to get married, they were strongly opposed by Casimir's parents. How could a poor governess be a match for the aristocratic Casimir? Casimir's father was furious and his mother threatened to die. The cowardly Casimir succumbed to his parents' will.

The pain of lovelorn tortured Maria, and she even had the idea of ??committing suicide to die in love. However, Maria is not an ordinary woman after all. In addition to her personal love, she also loves science and her relatives. She has her own career. Therefore, she put aside her complexion, studied hard on her own, and helped the children of local poor farmers study. A year later, she had the last conversation with Casimir. Casimir was still so indecisive, which prompted Maria to make up her mind to cut off the cord of love and go to Paris to study. When she came to Paris, she not only learned profound knowledge of chemistry, but also met her lifelong partner.

Without this letting go, Maria’s history would have been written in a different way, and the world might have lost a great scientist——Madame Curie.

Manage your own strengths

(Give up things that do not belong to you)

Einstein received a letter in the 1950s inviting him To be president of Israel. To people's surprise, Einstein refused and gave up this opportunity. He said: "I have been dealing with objective materials my whole life, so I lack both the natural intelligence and the experience to handle administrative affairs and treat others fairly. Therefore, I am not suitable for such a high-ranking official position."

The great writer Mark Twain once engaged in economic activities. The first time he invested in typewriters, he lost $190,000 because he was deceived. The second time he set up a publishing company, he lost money again because he was a layman and did not understand business. nearly $100,000. He lost nearly 300,000 US dollars in two bankruptcies. Not only did he lose all the royalties he had earned over many years of hard work, but he also owed a huge amount of debt.

Mark Twain's wife, Olivia, knew that her husband had no business skills but had a talent for literature, so she helped him to muster up the courage and spirit to resume his creative career. Finally, Mark Twain quickly got rid of the pain of failure and achieved brilliant achievements in literary creation.

The trick in life is to manage your own strengths. This is because managing your own strengths can add value to your life, while managing your own shortcomings will devalue your life.

Yilin Story

Travellers in the Desert

Two travelers are trapped in the desert due to lack of water. One traveler must seize the last glimmer of hope to go there. When looking for water, he handed his water bag to his companion and said, "You must wait patiently." Before leaving, he pulled out a pistol: "There are 5 bullets in it. You shoot into the sky every hour, so that I will not lose my way, and I can follow the sound of the gunshots back to you when I find water." "

The companion waited and waited. When there was still the last bullet left in the gun, he had not come back yet. A deep fear and despair consumed his spirit and soul, and he put the last bullet into his own chest. At that time, his companion had just asked for water from an old camel driver. When he looked for the direction of the gunshot and found the place, he saw the body of his companion. It was just one step away, but he didn't wait.

A report said that a laid-off couple fell into a "desperate situation" after experiencing the ups and downs of the business world. The last customer who had made a deal was still unable to pay their payment, and they gathered under various heavy pressures. At that time, they became desperate, turned on the gas, held their three-year-old daughter in their arms, and committed suicide. A few days later, a man came to the house and felt something was wrong, so he called the police and discovered the tragedy. This person is their last customer. It turned out that he had just transferred a large amount of arrears to their account, and when he wanted to notify them, he couldn't be contacted by phone, so he went to the door in person. This amount of money was enough for the couple to make a comeback...it was just one step away, but they didn't wait.

Most of the time the light is only one step away from us, we just need to hold on a little longer.

Smart Giving Up

There is an entertainment program on TV, the content of which is a money counting competition.

The host took out a large wad of banknotes. Banknotes of various denominations of different sizes overlapped in a messy manner. The game allows four spectators to be selected on site for a money counting competition. Whoever counts the most and the most accurately among the four participating spectators within the prescribed three minutes will get the cash he just counted.

The game started, and the four people began to count the banknotes "rustling". Of course, during these three minutes, the host will not let you count money at ease. He takes the microphone and takes turns asking the contestants brain teasers to interrupt their normal thinking. Moreover, they must answer the questions correctly to win. Then count down. After a few rounds, the time was up, and each of the four participating spectators took a handful of banknotes of different thicknesses. The host took out a pen and asked them to write down the amount of the banknotes they just counted.

The first place: 3472 yuan; the second place: 5836 yuan; the third place, 4889 yuan; and the fourth place, only counted 500 yuan.

The host counted the banknotes counted by the four contestants again, and the results were: 3372, 5831, 4879, 500. In other words, the top three participating spectators with higher numbers were charged an extra 100 yuan, 5 yuan, and 10 yuan respectively, which was only one "vote" away from the correct amount. Only the fourth number with the lowest number is completely correct.

The audience in the audience was silent at first, and then burst into warm applause.

At this time, the host told everyone a secret: since the start of this program, no one has ever made more than 1,000 yuan.

The entire audience may have realized something: Sometimes, giving up wisely is actually a strategy for managing life.

The Way to Success

A young man asked a billionaire for advice on the way to success. The rich man didn’t explain anything, but he took three watermelons of different sizes and placed them in front of the young man. If each piece of watermelon represents a certain level of benefit, which piece would you choose?"

"Of course it is the biggest piece!" the young man answered without hesitation.

The rich man smiled: "Okay, please!" The rich man handed the biggest piece of watermelon to the young man, but he ate the smallest piece.

Soon, the rich man He finished eating, then picked up the last piece of watermelon on the table, waved it proudly in front of the young man, and started eating.

The young man immediately understood what the rich man meant: Although the melons the rich man ate were not as big as the melons of the young man, he ate more than the young man.

If each piece of watermelon represents a certain degree of benefit, then the rich man will naturally have more benefits than the young man.

After eating the watermelon, the rich man said to the young man earnestly: "If you want to succeed, you must learn to give up. Only by giving up immediate interests can you obtain long-term benefits. This is my way to success."

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Let go when it’s time to let go

The African natives have a trick for catching baboons: they put the food that the baboons like to eat into a hole that is small in size and large in size, and at the same time deliberately let the baboons hide. The baboons in the distance saw it and then walked away. After the people walked away, the baboon came jumping happily. It put its paws into the hole and grabbed the food tightly. However, because the hole was too small, it couldn't pull it out from the hole after clenching its paws into a fist. At this time, the person walked back slowly, just harvesting the prey calmly, without worrying that it would run away. Because baboons are reluctant to part with those delicious food, the more panicked and impatient they are, the tighter they hold on to the food, and the harder it is to pull their claws out of the hole.

If you think about it carefully, baboons are really stupid. As long as they let go, they can escape, but they just don't do that. The problem is that the baboons are too greedy and fail to give up decisively when they should. Sometimes, human beings are like those silly baboons, holding on to some greed and not letting go.

Carrying the boat and rushing on the road

A young man came all the way to see Master Wuji with a big package on his back. He said: "Master, I am so lonely, painful and lonely. I have traveled a long distance. The trek made me extremely tired; my shoes were torn and the thorns cut my feet; my hands were injured and bleeding; my throat was hoarse from shouting for a long time... Why can't I find the sunshine in my heart?"

The master asked: "What is in your big package?" The young man said: "It is very important to me. It contains the pain every time I fall, every cry after being injured, every loneliness The troubles of the time... I relied on it to come to you."

So Master Wuji took the young man to the river, and they crossed the river by boat. After landing, the master said: "You carry the boat and go on your way!" "What, carry the boat and go on your way?" The young man was surprised, "It is so heavy, can I carry it?" "Yes, kid, you can't carry it. "The master smiled slightly and said: "When crossing the river, the boat is useful, but after crossing the river, we have to put down the boat and hurry up, otherwise it will become our burden, loneliness, disaster, and tears. These are all useful in life. They can sublimate life, but if you don’t forget them for a moment, they will become a burden in life! Children, life cannot be too burdensome. Continuing on his way, he found that his pace was relaxed and pleasant, much faster than before. It turns out that life doesn’t have to be so heavy.

The biggest misfortune

A man was framed when he was 23 years old and stayed in a cell for 9 years. Later, the unjust case was solved and he finally walked out of prison. After he was released from prison, he began to accuse and curse repeatedly all year round: "It is so unfortunate for me that I was wronged when I was the youngest and most promising, and I spent what should have been the best time in prison. Such a prison is simply inhumane. The place where I live is so narrow that it is difficult to even turn around. There is almost no bright sunshine in the only small window. It is unbearably cold in winter and bitten by mosquitoes in summer... I really don’t understand why God doesn’t punish the guy who framed me. Cutting him into pieces will not relieve the hatred in my heart!"

At the age of 73, he was finally bedridden due to poverty and illness.

When he was dying, the pastor came to his bedside: "Poor child, before you go to heaven, repent of all your sins in this world..." As soon as the pastor finished speaking, he shouted hoarsely on the hospital bed: "I There is nothing to repent, what I need is a curse, a curse on those who gave me my unfortunate fate..."

The priest asked: "How many years have you been in prison for being wronged and how long have you lived after leaving prison? How many years?" He told the number to the priest viciously.

The pastor sighed: "Poor man, you are really the most unfortunate person in the world. I really feel extremely sympathetic and sad for your misfortune! But others imprisoned you for only 9 years, and When you were supposed to be free forever when you walked out of prison, you imprisoned yourself for 41 years with the hatred, complaints and curses in your heart!"

Learn to give up

In a cold place! In winter, a hungry donkey found two piles of grass on the dry grassland. However, the donkey didn't know which pile to eat first, and starved to death in the long process of choosing and wandering.

This is a very philosophical fable. It tells us that when two opportunities come, you must first learn to give up before you can choose. Otherwise, you will starve to death in hesitation like the stupid donkey in the story.

In the long journey of life, beautiful things always flash by like shooting stars. Therefore, at the critical moment when you need to choose or give up, never look forward or backward or hesitate. The world is beautiful and life is gorgeous. No one can enjoy all the beautiful things in the world and must always give up. If you gain something, you must lose something, and if you don't do something, you can do something. Only by constantly giving up in life can we approach the other side of our ideal step by step.

Application and Innovation

Why insist?

There was an anaerobic mountaineer who participated in climbing Mount Everest. Finally he climbed to a height of 6,400 meters, but at this time he gradually felt exhausted. So, he stopped, said hello to his teammates, and went down the mountain leisurely. Afterwards, some people felt sorry for him: Why didn't he just persist and climb a little higher to cross the 6,500-meter mountaineering death line? He answered simply: "No, I know best. The altitude of 6,400 meters is the highest point of my mountaineering career. I have no regrets at all."

In reality, we are often not afraid of elevating ourselves. I am afraid that my height cannot surpass others. In fact, there is a breakthrough in everything, but not everyone can find and cross the breakthrough to reach a higher level. Therefore, learn to stop, learn to give up, go down the mountain leisurely, and enjoy another scenery.

Some people spare no effort to climb up, stepping on the slope and thinking about the slope, climbing the slope and thinking about the mountain, and climbing to the top of the mountain and thinking about the moon, completely regardless of how thick the foundation stone is under their feet and whether it can withstand the height of desire. Even the legs that should have been supported were left empty, and only the fantasy of morning flowers and dusk branches was twisted into an upward climbing rope, regardless of the dangers of the situation.

Some people are trying their best to spread out, crossing the fence to think of the ditch, crossing the ditch to think of the shore, and jumping onto the shore to think of the sea in the horizon. It doesn’t matter whether the reeds in the pocket are enough to weave an overwhelming mat. Even ignoring people’s anger and disdain. If we are unable to meet our own abilities, why not simply give up and let life take its time?

Giving up is for success

There is a small river flowing down from the mountains, passing through many villages and forests, and finally it comes to a desert. It found that its river water gradually disappeared into the sand. It tried again and again, but in vain. So, it became discouraged and said to itself dejectedly: "Maybe this is my destiny. I will never reach the vast sea in the legend."

At this time, the low sound of the desert sounded all around. The voice: "If the breeze can still fly across the desert, then the river can too." Xiaohe replied unconvincingly: "That's because the breeze can fly across the desert, but I can't." "Because you insist on your original appearance , so you can never cross this desert. You must let the breeze carry you across this desert to your destination. As long as you are willing to give up your current appearance and let yourself evaporate into the breeze, it will reach the appropriate place. Release you and you become rain again.

"Desert said this in a low voice. Xiaohe hesitated.

Giving up everything we have now and the achievements we have made, in fact, each of us will face such a situation. Giving up everything now, is it okay? Isn’t it tantamount to self-destruction? People will have such questions. But as Desert said, in order to reach a higher level of life and achieve greater success in the future, sometimes we must give up the honor and status we have now. Wait, maybe this takes a lot of courage, but after giving up, we will achieve greater success.