First of all, I would like to express my personal opinion: taking care of children is not a necessary responsibility of the elderly. It is better to leave the children to the parents themselves. Because children are their parents’ treasures, and parents should not miss every minute of their children’s growth; at the same time, not letting the elderly take care of their children does not mean that the elderly are incompetent or deny the elderly, but that the elderly should not be misunderstood that they have responsibilities and must Taking care of children, after all, they also have the right to arrange their own lives.

In the United States, most parents in native families will let their children become independent and have more experiences in society after their children grow up, while the elderly generally do not take care of their children. Therefore, the burden of taking care of children generally falls on the parents themselves, and raising children by themselves has always been a process of growth and transformation for the parents themselves.

Compared with the traditional concept in many areas of China, I don’t agree with the idea that the elderly at home have the obligation to help take care of their children. I don’t rule out the elderly who volunteer to help take care of their grandchildren, calling it the time of their children and grandchildren’s care and support in their old age. But more often than not, we should consider more aspects.

First, the reason why the elderly retire is because they are old and their physical condition can no longer cope with and support work well, so they need to retire and take good care of their own health at the same time. If we put the burden of taking care of children on the elderly, is it considered a burden to the elderly at home? Although you take it for granted, have you really thought about whether the other person is really willing? If the other person disagrees, are you going to scold him directly, "This old guy is so free at home every day and doesn't help take care of the children." .." I believe that many things are just taken for granted in the eyes of new parents.

Secondly, if we let the elderly take care of the children because we are too busy at work, the elderly will be willing to do so from the bottom of their hearts. I know and believe that this is absolutely very good and everyone is happy. However, there is one thing I must mention, and that is: if the elderly are allowed to take care of their children, the children may accidentally bump or fall and get injured, or even have a very small chance of serious accidents (you can’t rule it out, right? On the news So many, albeit a small chance), would you blame the old man for the child's injury? Many people say, I definitely don’t know how. It’s not easy for my parents to help me take care of their children at such an old age. It’s inevitable for children to have bumps and bruises as they grow up. I don’t blame my parents for this. But, to be honest, we still find that when some parents discover that their children are injured, they will point the finger at the elderly first, or they will become angry, or unreasonable, and they will even say, "You old man, you can't even take care of a child." No!" I want to ask, you can't deny that there are such people in society, so what do you think?

Thirdly, it is said that parents are their children’s best teachers. This sentence is indeed a wise saying. We also know that parents have always accompanied their children to grow up, which is their most ardent expectation. This can be seen in the eyes of those left-behind children. At the same time, we can also find that because the elderly in the family and the parents are from two generations, there is a gap in educational concepts, and the children are taken care of by the elderly after they are born. When it comes to educational concepts, the gap is even greater, and it is not even difficult for us to It is found that the elderly always dote on their children, which is not necessarily a good thing for the children's growth. Therefore, we must admit this. Parents educating their children and accompanying them to grow will be more beneficial to their education, growth, and physical and mental health.

Of course, we should also understand that sometimes parents are too busy at home, working overtime and traveling on business, and it is inevitable that they cannot take care of their children.

At this time, it is also best to discuss with the elderly at home and let the children be taken care of by the elderly for a period of time. It can not only relieve parents' life and work pressure, but also allow the elderly to have a good relationship with their children. Of course, the most important thing is that the family communicates more, takes more responsibilities, and understands and tolerates each other.