50 Rules for Interpersonal Communication

1. Don’t worry about everything - it will not only destroy your emotions but also damage your interpersonal relationships

Caring about everything is a kind of mentality, and its manifestation is Everything must be more realistic, and it must be divided into ugly and Yinmao. In fact, there are many things that are irrelevant and have no conflict of interest with you. It is a waste of time to worry about everything. The relationship between them may even affect their own future.

2. Avoid arguing with others - meaningless disputes that hurt others and are not beneficial to yourself

If you argue with others, you will definitely hurt the other party, and all you will gain is It is an empty victory; and when you argue, you will be at a disadvantage, and you will feel depressed. Both outcomes are of no benefit to you. It can be seen that arguing and fighting is really a meaningless fight.

3. Don’t act out of emotion - a hot head can easily cause trouble

There is an old Chinese saying: If you endure for a while, the sea will be calm; if you step back, the sea and the sky will be brighter. It talks about people not being impulsive or acting impulsively under certain special circumstances, because in the absence of careful consideration, it is very easy to cause trouble if the mind is overheated and things are done without thinking.

4. Don’t be aggressive and competitive - excessive ostentation will only make people annoying

Being competitive and trying to do your best in everything shows that there is nothing wrong with a person’s desire to make progress. , but everything has a "degree". If you change from being strong to being strong, you will go to the opposite direction. You will not only do things poorly, but also be annoying by being too ostentatious and showing off, and even provoke a murderer. disaster.

5. Be complacent but not forgetful - maintain a clear and rational state

When you encounter something happy, you can't help but be happy and forget about it. This is a sign of being complacent. It is a taboo in life to get carried away when you are proud. Being carried away by small victories and joy is destined to be difficult to accomplish big things. Therefore, I advise you to get carried away when you are proud.

6. You must dare to suffer small losses - only by taking small losses can you have the opportunity to take advantage of big things

Suffering losses means damaging your own interests, so no one wants to suffer losses. Hope to gain benefits. Little do you know, if you take a small loss appropriately and take the initiative to give up part of your deserved benefits in normal times, you can often take advantage of it at critical moments.

7. Make more friends - the more friends you have, the easier your journey

There are many variables in a person's life, so you must plan for the long term and be considerate of yourself. Leave a way out. In the ever-flowing social life and complex interpersonal relationships, only by forming more connections and making more friends will your life path become easier and wider.

8. Be merciful and merciful - killing everyone will never benefit anyone

Today's friends may become tomorrow's enemies, and today's opponents may become tomorrow's friends. . Therefore, when dealing with others, you must be merciful and forgiving, be reasonable and do not try to kill your opponents, otherwise it will be of no benefit to both parties.

9. Put yourself in others' shoes - don't just make your own calculations

Only those who dedicate their love to others and think about others can receive help from all directions in times of crisis; But if you do everything by yourself and are selfish, you will inevitably be isolated and helpless, making your life path narrower and narrower.

10. Respect other people’s interests and hobbies - making others happy is the easiest way to get convenience

Everyone has their own things or topics that they are interested in, and we need to be discerning to cater to them. If you take the initiative to help others do what they want to do, you will get the favor of others, get more help, and get twice the result with half the effort.

11. Save enough face for others - face is given to each other

Face is given by others, and face is lost by yourself, so you must be careful when it comes to face. No one is stupid. If you give him face, he will reciprocate by giving you face, because face is given to each other.

12. Peace is golden - extreme and stubbornness will inevitably lead to becoming more and more narrow-minded

A person who has his own opinion and brains and does not follow others and does not follow the world is undoubtedly worthy of praise. of good quality. However, this must be based on the premise of not being stubborn and not being extreme and stubborn. Extremism in personality and emotions is a flaw that should not be underestimated in life. When interacting with others, you should focus on peace. Being extreme and stubborn has many disadvantages.

13. Don’t use others as stepping stones - be careful if you climb up or fall down

There are many people who like to take shortcuts, and there are also many people who use stepping stones to improve themselves. It is reasonable. There is nothing wrong with using external things to improve yourself, but do not use others as stepping stones

because those who step on others will sooner or later be stepped down by others.

14. Don’t expose someone’s shortcomings to their face – planting trouble can easily lead to future troubles

As the saying goes: “You don’t slap someone in the face, you don’t expose your shortcomings when you scold someone.” If you want to get along well with others, , we must try our best to be considerate of others, maintain their self-esteem, avoid language "minefields", and never expose others' shortcomings or hurt others, because temporary happiness may lay the foundation for future troubles.

15. Don’t add insult to injury - a dangerous game that outweighs the gain

Adding insult to injury is a behavior of stabbing others in the back when they are in trouble. This is a way of taking advantage of others’ danger. It's not something a man does. Because when people are down, what they need most is understanding and help. If there is no grudge against you, you should understand him even if you don't help him, and there is no need to add insult to injury.

16. Stay away from harmful friends - reduce the probability of going astray

As the name suggests, harmful friends are friends who are not good for you and will only hurt you. If we have similar friends around us, we advise you to stay away from them as soon as possible, or cut off contact with them, so as not to be influenced by them and go astray, and regret it later.

17. Talking too much is easy to suffer - right and wrong just because you speak more

Speaking is a science, so you cannot blurt it out, you must think it over before speaking. Don't talk too much, because many disputes and conflicts are caused by talking too much. As the saying goes, right and wrong only come from speaking more. This is what is being said.

18. Keep your words to your lips - stop talking and protect yourself

As the saying goes, good medicine is bitter to the mouth and good for the disease, and good advice is hard to the ear and good for action. But after all, advice is hard to hear and difficult for people to accept. Therefore, when you want to give advice, criticism or accusation to others, you must control your mouth. What you say must be to the point, but cannot be broken at once. Keep your words until they are on your lips. The principle of three points and one point at a time can not only persuade others but also protect yourself.

19. Don’t talk about other people’s rights and wrongs behind their backs - a woman with a long tongue is annoying

The best test of a person’s moral character is small talk. If a person is chatting, he will always Catching rumors and gossiping indicates that the person's character is not perfect, and this can also detect his attitude towards life. Therefore, don’t talk about people’s rights and wrongs in casual conversations, or show off your rhetoric, so as not to become a loquacious woman that everyone hates

20. Jokes must be measured - it’s not worth hurting others unintentionally

Jokes can liven up the atmosphere and enhance each other's feelings, but the jokes must be measured and should not involve personal privacy or embarrassing things. Otherwise, the joke will become a slander and will hurt others unintentionally, which violates the original intention of the joke. Inflict trouble on yourself for no reason.

21. When entering a country, you must follow the customs - you must be able to adapt to various environments

Different ethnic groups and different regions have fixed customs and habits. Only by doing things according to customs will you be popular; In the same way, you should do as the locals do in different situations and environments, so that you can communicate and do things with ease and ease.

22. Don’t make promises easily—don’t take your dignity seriously

You shouldn’t make promises easily, and you can’t make promises on the spur of the moment when you’re happy, regardless of the consequences. Because promises are easy to keep but difficult to keep, the consequence of making casual promises is to lose one's credibility. And if one loses credibility, it will be difficult to gain a foothold in society and it is very easy to be eliminated by society.

23. Put an end to deception - one lie requires hundreds of lies to cover it

A lie is told for temporary gain and temporary needs, and in order to maintain this lie Although the words were true, he had to use a hundred lies to cover up the lie, which made him physically and mentally exhausted. It can be seen that it is very uneconomical to deceive people.

24. Burn incense more often - there will be someone to help you in times of trouble

As the saying goes: If you sow melons, you will reap melons; if you sow beans, you will reap beans. Then sow feelings and you will reap close relationships. China is a country of etiquette, which has always paid attention to human relationships and courtesy. So burn incense more often, show kindness to others, and treat others with sincerity, and someone will definitely lend a helping hand at critical moments.

25. Remember to provide help in times of need - the lowest-cost emotional investment

It is inevitable to encounter ups and downs in life. If you lend a helping hand to others when they are in extremely difficult times, it will be a good thing for them. It's like providing help in times of need. He will remember your kindness and repay you twice as much. If you try to add icing on the cake when others are successful and famous, they will not be taken seriously, and you may even get the reputation of clinging to them.

26. Usually, you owe less debt to favors - it is difficult to ask for help when you are in a hurry

Favors are like deposits and cannot be abused. Once the deposits are abused, it will not be possible to actually use the money. It's time to catch him blind. The same goes for favors. If you usually owe a lot of favors to others, how can you open your mouth to others when you are in trouble?

27. Be brave enough to admit your mistakes - save face with magnanimity and courage

Don’t be too empathetic. If you stick to your feelings, you will be afraid of doing something wrong and losing face. They are afraid of losing face, so nothing can be done. It's not terrible to be wrong. Only by having the courage to admit your mistakes can you truly win face.

28. Don’t judge people by their appearance - people cannot be judged by their appearance, and sea water cannot be measured by their appearance.

As the saying goes: People cannot be judged by their appearance, and sea water cannot be measured by their appearance. To evaluate a person, you can't just look at the appearance, you have to look at his true abilities. How he learns has nothing to do with his appearance.

29. Don’t be a good guy - be careful not to please both sides

Many people like to be a good guy and don’t offend anyone. They don’t have their own opinions and principles. No matter what others say, they don’t want to be a good guy. No objection either. But it is very tiring to be such a good person, and sometimes a rat will get into the bellows - getting angry from both sides.

30. Don’t seek false fame - why live too hard

No one wants to be an unknown star to accompany others, they all want to be a striking and dazzling sun and The bright moon supported by all the stars. so. People are all on the road to seeking fame, and some people even do whatever it takes to gain fame, and go astray just to gain a false reputation.

31. Pay attention to small things - big things are composed of small things

In the living environment of each of us, countless small things are performed every day. The death of a small fish in the fish tank, the falling of an apple, and a dazzling lightning. There are so many little things happening naturally. However, it is these small things that have achieved great things for many thoughtful people and laid the foundation for their great things.

32. Don’t take advantage of others - if you take advantage of others, you will suffer big losses

Taking advantage of others is a kind of greed that takes someone else’s needle today and steals someone else’s melon tomorrow. Small profit behavior. Over time, you will develop a habit of wanting to take advantage of good things when you see them. And if this greedy mentality becomes stronger and stronger, it will lead to another serious consequence - taking advantage of small things and eating big. deficit.

33. Spend money wisely - money should be used wisely

There is a saying: Success comes from frugality and failure comes from extravagance. This means that most people who are successful and rich have good habits of frugality, while some people who are down and out may spend money extravagantly. People who have no calculations do not use their money in the right way. Spend money without a plan and squander it randomly, even if you guard a gold mountain, you will lose everything.

34. When you are embarrassed, you might as well laugh at yourself - create a step for yourself

Humor has always been called a language art that only smart people can master, and self-deprecation is also called humor. the highest state. Laughing at yourself doesn't hurt anyone, it's the safest thing to do. You can use it to liven up the conversation and eliminate tension; you can also use it to find a way out of embarrassment and save face.

35. Remember other people’s names - only when you value others will you be valued by others

Everyone is interested in their own names. Therefore, remembering other people's names and being able to call them out easily is a very clever and effective compliment. Remembering their names shows that you value them, and only those who value others will be valued.

36. Listen more and speak less - always take the initiative

As the saying goes: Talking too much will lead to failure; talking too much will lead to failure. If you talk too much, your inner thoughts will naturally leak out. Therefore, only listening is the best way. You can know what others are thinking without revealing your own secrets, and you can also show your respect for the speaker. Kill three birds with one stone, why not?

37. Look at the problem from the other party's perspective - know this and the other, be thorough and clear

People are usually used to looking at problems from their own perspective, so their vision is not enough

Broad, comprehensive, and one-sided. So how about looking at the issue from another perspective and looking at it from the other party’s standpoint? You will discover aspects that Xu Lao could not see or fully understand before. In this way, you will know this and that, and you will be able to handle things at the right time.

38. Don’t act smarter than others - comparing others is short-sighted

People can accept differences in appearance, height, income, and status, but rarely accept differences in intelligence. on the gap. Therefore, you can be smarter than others, but don't show it, lest you compare yourself to others. Because comparing yourself to others does not mean how smart you are, but it shows your immaturity in dealing with others, which will make your image ugly.

39. Think carefully before doing everything---increase the probability of success

Think before you act. This is a truth learned through countless practices over thousands of years. If you do something after careful consideration, you will naturally succeed. Thinking everything through before doing it and avoiding hasty decisions and blind actions will undoubtedly increase the probability of success.

40. Complain less and complain less - it is better to strive for success than to be angry

When you are dissatisfied with people, things, and life, you will be full of complaints, complain, and even be passive and slack. , but these will not change the problem at all. Complaining will only make others upset. It is better to take positive actions than to express dissatisfaction. Only by changing yourself can the problem be solved.

41. Don’t be too weak - good people are bullied by others, and weakness does not solve the problem

The law of the jungle is a common phenomenon in the animal kingdom. Weak animals are always bullied by powerful animals - fM barrier-. This phenomenon also exists in human society. Weak people are always oppressed and bullied by others, and play the role of a doormat everywhere. In real life, being too weak is not enough. Weak people will always be exploited or exploited by others. Bully.

42. Stay restrained and don’t brag - bragging will only destroy your prestige

A truly successful person will not brag, because other people’s eyes are bright, so if you have the ability, you will Let others say it, Lao Wang cannot brag about himself. People who don’t know how to restrain themselves and brag about themselves will only lose face and lose their prestige when the truth is revealed.

43. Don’t turn your eyes upward - treat others as equals, and have many friends.

People who turn their eyes upward and have their eyes higher than the top are nothing more than a little bit powerful. Money is just a bit of self-righteous capital, so I say that there is no one in the world, and I assume a self-centered attitude. Who knows that the higher you think of yourself, the harder you will fall. Only by lowering your head and treating others equally can you make friends all over the world.

44. A man who can bend and stretch himself - to save face and suffer the consequences

People love face, so sometimes they insist on doing things that are difficult for them to do just for the sake of face. Considering the actual situation, it is not worth it to exhaust yourself and suffer. A real man should be able to bend and stretch, do what he can, and don't torture himself for the sake of "face."

45. Smile to others - Smiling is the most effective way of communication between people

We cannot completely change our appearance, but we can choose to decorate ourselves with a smile, because smiling It is the easiest gift to accept, the most valuable intangible asset, and a magic weapon that can make your career successful. If you always smile at others, you will receive smiles from others.

46. Don’t compare yourself with others in everything - don’t set a trap for yourself

When you see others wearing gold and silver, drinking foreign wine, and driving nice cars, you don’t care whether it suits you or not. Regardless of one's own financial ability, people follow suit or want to surpass others. This is a kind of comparison mentality at work. If things go on like this, you will lose your own nature and become the shadow of others.

47. You can’t be too honest - you must be on guard against others

Everything should have a certain limit. If it exceeds this limit, it will be counterproductive. We advocate being honest people, doing honest things, treating others honestly, and treating others with due diligence. But honesty should not exceed the limit. If you are too honest, you will become a target of being used and slaughtered by others.

48. Fangyuan is moderate and not cunning - cunning and hypocritical will be despised

Fangyuan is an art of living in the world, an indispensable survival skill for human beings, and a This is great wisdom in life. Cunning is synonymous with treachery and untrustworthiness. Therefore, one can be measured but not cunning. No one will welcome or like cunning people.

49. You can say nothing but don’t tell nonsense - good reputation is the cornerstone of success

It is very important to keep your word and keep your promises when dealing with others. Those who are popular often display their characteristics in front of people in various ways, the most obvious of which is to comply with promises and keep promises at all times, because good reputation is the cornerstone of success.

50. Start with the topics that the other person cares about - a good way to shorten the distance between each other

Everyone hopes to get the attention of others and hopes that others will focus on themselves. . If you can value others first, pay enough attention to the things and issues that others care about, or pay attention to topics that others are interested in, then others will be interested in you and value you, and then your goals will be easily achieved.