Don't worry at the age of ten: it is children's nature to love to play, so why worry about those who like to play? Including adults who are idle for fun, most of them are called heartless dance academy. Exactly: players who are not worried don't play. People who are really worried go to play, that's not playing, it's noisy, it's venting.
It is natural for children to like to play, but they love to play too much. China people call it stubbornness, because they think it's frustrating to play with things. That's right: if a teenager is natural, growth will make it natural. Children are all shaped.
Twenty regrets: China people like to talk about heroes since ancient times. Throughout history, young talents have emerged in large numbers. They fought bloody battles for the country and the people or inspired words to give directions and became the most touching part of the Chinese nation. No wonder the great man lamented that the world is yours and ours, but in the final analysis it is yours. You young people are full of vigor and vitality. You are in the prime of life, and the world depends on you.
"Twenty" is flawless? Of course not. Young people in their twenties are rich in youth, gambling and academic stubbornness, claiming to be hot-blooded. There are indeed many people who vacillate between good and evil. No matter how you fall and bump your head, you will always say: no regrets. Then use my favorite love declaration when I was young-I love you so much. If I love you x, then I don't want me to √. If I lose you because of √, then I would rather spend my whole life-I will never think that life is limited, life is impermanent, and young people who don't work hard will suffer. The gambling money of youth is limited, not unlimited. Those who have accomplished nothing and are poor in their later years have almost used their limited youth to unlimited gambling.
Standing at the age of 30: Since Old Master Q said more than 2,000 years ago that he had made great achievements at the age of 30, 30 has become the yardstick for China people, especially their parents, to measure whether men (future generations) can settle down. Standing at thirty doesn't mean that a person can support himself. In the long years after Confucius, many Confucian scholars have turned it into a benchmark to consider the success of men who have brought up their children behind their ancestors for generations, and to inherit China's cultural traditions. Men in ancient times must have married earlier than men today. They can get married at 15 or 16. More than 20 years old, children around the knee, less than 40 years old, full of children and grandchildren. Standing at thirty is a matter of course. Today's young people are in trouble. Even after finishing college in their twenties, they still try to find jobs and live in humble abode to buy a house. In order to reduce the burden of life, Dink occasionally lives together to avoid disputes in the world. Their wandering life determines their wandering life.
Forty is not confused: I like to say that half my life has passed, and I have heard more and seen more. There is nothing in this world that I can't understand. This phrase is a bit like the northern proverb "Mid-Autumn Festival is half a year", which means that one year after the Mid-Autumn Festival, the remaining years have passed in the blink of an eye, which makes the deceased feel so worried day and night. If you have feelings, you have feelings. The passage of more than 40 years will leave an indelible memory mark on his body and mind. Just as western psychologists describe memory as trace line segments, these line segment memories help people with 40 years of experience to understand life and gain insight into the right and wrong of the world and its surroundings, and will not be boiled by temptation or decadent by false words.
For most people, 40% work and a stable home are the last line of defense. Forty years without marriage is the sorrow of his wife and children. In fact, a stable career means not falling behind the times and not being marginalized by society. That is, it can create a rich and safe living environment for his wife and children. In the age of no doubt, no confusion, mother does not beat her chest, wife does not cry at night, and children do not twitch. That's what Weiss is like. He's never stubborn.
Fifty people know their destiny: fifty people will always feel life. In my understanding, I will find that the life path I am taking today is actually both accidental and inevitable. From small to large, God is just. It gives everyone equal opportunities as fairly as possible, but we realize and seize some opportunities, and it takes us a long time to realize the preciousness of those opportunities, especially when our companions with the same conditions are in front of the same opportunities and have embarked on different life paths because of their different grasp and control. At this time, the feeling will be deeply painful. Therefore, life has taken the road of looking back at the age of 50, which is bound to be intertwined with chance into the cognition that "personality determines fate".
When you know your destiny at the age of 50, you should look back and see if you have settled down. Learning and writing are not waiting for you, but something you can rely on when you lie down in the future. Industry, not the richest man, the wife is well-off and carefree, and the old mother does not sigh for help.
Industries such as duckweed, the family is surrounded by walls, the wife and mother are injured, the children are in short supply, the grandson has no education, and the fate of fifty is very poor.
Sixty-year-old people still have the spirit of "an old ox knows its dusk, so it is not necessary to whip itself", and those who have the ambition of "an old horse has a thousand miles of heart, and a martyr has courage in his twilight years" are even more extraordinary, either great men or people who try to become great men.
At the age of 60, he just wants to do ordinary things with an ordinary heart, spend his old age safely and enjoy life. In addition, he gained insight into life in the dust of 60 years. You say, such a person, is there any proverb in the world that can make him blush and impatient? So, listen, everything should be calm. Accurately speaking, people in their fifties and sixties are generally life-oriented, enjoying a happy life, persuading their children and making them happy. In fact, Confucian scholars in China have long realized that people of this age are the most stable social cornerstone of China cultural circle, so they advocate the Confucian ethics of monarch, minister, father and son, that is, the monarch is the minister's outline and the father is the child's outline. You see, in ancient times, once a boy became an outlaw, he couldn't be caught by the bandits. He usually called his parents to persuade him, and few of them were ineffective. Only by reviewing the 3,300-year written history of civilization in China can we truly understand the people's feelings in China. Every social revolution or innovation relies on and mobilizes the masses, and a revolution in which the whole people participate in overthrowing the old system breaks out. His wife sent lang and his mother sent children, and he was even more vigorous. The old man went to the battlefield with a gun, and the aunt wrapped the local correspondent at his feet. Even when the most stable class in China was in violent turmoil, even the Kuomintang, which claimed to have eight million troops and was the most modern weapon at that time, could not fail. So, it's not those two and a half people who really understand China and skillfully mobilize this emotion. Why? I remember an old gentleman in the academic circle said that those who have the ability can't write, those who can write can't say, and those who can say can't do it are few and far between. Actually, this is not the old man's own words. China people like to evaluate the abilities of people around them in this way. In this way, the ability to write, speak and successfully transform China-this sentence is not finished. Similarly, from another perspective, only one of the two people recognized by the world as making China have the greatest influence in the world is a master of doing, writing and speaking, and has successfully established a new society, thus promoting the development of human society-not just one person, so there is only one person in 3,000 years.
Seventy years old is rare: Du Fu's poem said that people live seventy years old. In fact, more people in China agree that 70 years old is due to the death of 73-year-old Confucius and 84-year-old Meng. People in the old country, especially the elderly, like to say, "The ghost king came uninvited." Do you think the two saints will live to be seventy or eighty years old? How long do we ordinary people want to live? This thousand-year-old family relationship has both comfort and transcendence; In fact, at the age of 70, you should think about whether your studies are successful when you are young, whether your career is successful when you are middle-aged, and whether your children are successful when you are old. Doing these three things is the peace of heaven and earth. If you don't do these three things, there will be some regrets in life.
Over 70 years old, Confucius' legacy cannot be forgotten. The old man said that at the age of 70, it is not too much to do what you want. The old gentleman is a saint, and he has reached the realm of practice. Naturally, he did whatever he wanted within the definition of various statutory laws, and erected a historical monument for the feudal Confucian orthodoxy that ruled China for more than two thousand years. But ordinary people are another matter. It seems a little difficult to achieve what you want from the heart without exceeding the present. As the saying goes, there are always three treasures, love money and fear death, and sleep less. Times are different. Just be happy, be healthy, be alive, and do what you can for the society.
People in their eighties: I admire the sages who coined the word "people in their eighties". These two words are like a picture, so vivid that even if you don't know the pronunciation, you can see the unkempt image of the old man in your mind. Of course, Cang Xie didn't create octupole, but it is a typical disyllabic phrase composed of compound words, which should be created by the combination of sound and shape in the mature period of Chinese characters. I have seen ink paintings of the Song, Yuan, Ming and Qing Dynasties in some local museums, and I have also carefully studied the collection reproduction exhibition of the Forbidden City in Taiwan. I admire the amazing observation and expression of ancient painters. They used several straws to sketch the hair of an old man who was fishing and playing games in the river under a banana leaf, which perfectly showed the characteristics of the rings on his head. The original meaning of the old man is his sparse white hair. The ancients divided the parts of the human body very finely, and the same thing was hairy above and hairy below. Hair can't be called hair, there are many below, collectively called hair. For example, the eyebrow arch and armpit, no matter how long, can not be called hair, only hair, such as eyebrows; Another word that also means hair is temminick, which refers to short hair from forehead to eyebrows. It is also called temminick handsome in short hair, and it also refers to elites, that is, talents in the crowd. This word has been forgotten and is rarely used. China's words are mostly boasting about octogenarians. Respecting the elderly and loving the virtuous has always been the virtue of the Chinese nation, except for immoral people who scold the old man. Of course, there are generations of old heroes, such as Jiang Taigong, Huang Zhong, She Taijun, and even more. If we don't talk about the Gang of Four and change the fate of China, there will be an old coach.