Male love and female love

Article/Zhuxi Yunshan

The great Israeli poet Amihai wrote in his poem: "He said to her: Man The soul of a woman is a woman, she said to him: The soul of a woman is always a man, so we can never break up."

There can be two explanations here, one is the hand holding the son, and the other is the opponent.

One of the tasks of men is to know how to praise women, and never be stingy with the best words. For example, woman is love. Nobel Peace Prize winner Mother Teresa said: "We often cannot Do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” This is the glory of women’s greatness.

Women are "truth, goodness, and beauty." Bing Xin said: "If there were no women in the world, the world would lose at least five-tenths of its "truth" and six-tenths of its "goodness." Seven out of ten "beautiful"

Su Dongpo's married wife Wang Fu is such a goddess in Dongpo's eyes, a young couple aged 19 and 16, who are deeply in love, but it is a pity that The loving couple did not end, and they only stayed together for eleven years. His wife Wang Fu died young, and Dongpo lost his lover. In the eighth year of Xining (1075), the 38-year-old Dongpo came to Mizhou. On the 20th of the first month of this year , he dreamed of his beloved wife Wang, so he wrote the eternal masterpiece "Jiangchengzi":

"Ten years of life and death are so vast, without thinking about it, I will never forget it.

Thousands of miles of lonely grave, no place to speak of desolation"...

Unfortunately and fortunately, this "Jiangchengzi" is not Su Shi's only mourning poem.

If his wife Wang Fu is his favorite, the prostitute Wang Chaoyun is the woman who understands him best.

In the fourth year of Xining (AD 1071), Emperor Shenzong of the Song Dynasty, Su Dongpo wrote a letter against Wang Anshi. As a result, he was sent to Hangzhou as a judge. In an entertainment place, he met Wang Chaoyun, a young woman who sang and danced. He fell in love with her and married her as his concubine.

Su Dongpo had a bold character and a troubled career. , was repeatedly demoted throughout his life. Among his wives and concubines, Wang Chaoyun was the woman who understood him best.

Su Dongpo returned home one day, and on a whim, he pointed at his belly and asked his concubines what they were hiding. What? Some people answered the article, and some said it was knowledge. Su Dongpo shook his head. At this time, Wang Chaoyun laughed and said that he was just pretending to be inappropriate.

When Su Dongpo heard this, he said: "I know. The only one is Chaoyun. "

When Su Dongpo was in his sixties, his first wife had already passed away, and his concubines gradually dispersed. Only Wang Chaoyun was always with him, and later died of illness at the age of only 34.

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Su Dongpo buried her in West Lake, Huizhou, Guangdong, and built a pavilion in the cemetery to commemorate her. There is a couplet engraved on the pavilion pillar, which is engraved:

"Untimely, only Chaoyun can recognize me; I play alone in ancient times" Tune, every time it rains, I miss you more than ever. ”

Thinking about a prostitute who won Dongpo’s heart the most, it can be seen that no matter how high or low one’s background is, the famous Mrs. Hua Rui of Hou Shu also came from a singing prostitute, but she was deeply loved by Meng Chang, the Lord of Shu.

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Mrs. Hua Rui, a beautiful and talented woman, is a famous female poet and the author of "Palace of Mrs. Hua Rui". It is said that she loved hibiscus and peonies the most, so Meng Chang ordered the officials and people to plant hibiscus and peonies in large quantities in Chengdu. Chengdu's nickname "Furong City" comes from this.

Su Shi once wrote a poem about Mrs. Huarui, "Dong Xian Song", and wrote the preface to the poem: "When I was seven years old, I met an old nun from Meizhou. His surname was Zhu. I forgot his name. He was ninety years old. He said that he had followed his teacher into the palace of Meng Chang, the Lord of Shu. One day it was very hot. The Lord of Shu and his wife Huarui were cooling off at the Maha Pond at night and wrote a word, which they could remember with a piece of ink. Forty years ago, Zhu has been dead for a long time. People who know nothing about this poem can just remember the first two sentences and ponder it in their spare time. How can this be the order of "Dongxian Song"? It's the cloud of feet."

The general idea is that when Su Dongpo was seven years old, he listened to an old nun dictating a poem by Mrs. Huarui. When Su Dongpo was forty years old, he only remembered the opening two sentences and thought about it. It should be the tune of "Dong Xian Song", so I imagined Mrs. Huarui's summer vacation at that time and completed the poem:

"Icy muscles and jade bones, naturally cool and sweatless. The water palace is full of fragrance when the wind blows. The embroidered curtain is open, and a bright moon peeks at people. They are not sleeping, and their hairpins are messy on their hair.

Standing up and holding hands, there is no sound in the courtyard, and sometimes I see sparse stars crossing the river. How was the night? It's the third watch of the night, the golden waves are light, and the jade rope is turning low. But when the west wind comes, it doesn’t change secretly in the fleeting time.”

This song "Dong Xian Song" depicts the scene of the late Shu Lord Meng Chang and Mrs. Hua Rui spending a summer night on the Maha Pond: On a hot night, when it was hard to sleep, Mrs. Hua Rui and the Shu Lord got up and came hand in hand. In the courtyard, watching the night, the bright moon and the stars, looking forward to the early arrival of autumn, but without knowing it, when the autumn wind arrives, time will quietly disappear!

In addition, Yan Rui, a talented girl in the Southern Song Dynasty, was a beauty but had a poor life. She was also a prostitute in the military camp. Tang Zhongyou, the local governor of Taizhou, admired her very much. The Neo-Confucian scholar Zhu Xi and Tang Zhongyou had a personal feud and happened to be inspecting Taizhou. Although Zhu Xi She was a scholar, but her personal ethics were somewhat questionable. He wanted to attack Tang Zhongyou, so he falsely accused her of having an improper relationship with Tang Zhongyou, put her in jail, and tortured her to extract a confession. She was determined not to be slandered and was almost killed until Zhu Xi transferred her away. Later, Yue Lin sympathized with her and asked her to write a complaint. She wrote the famous "Business Master. It's not about love for the wind and dust":

"It's not about the love for the wind and dust, it seems to have been misled by the past. When flowers fall and bloom, they always rely on the emperor of the East.

Even if you go, you must go, and how can you live? If you have a head full of mountain flowers, don't ask where you are going."

This poem asked for an escape from the suffering of being a military prostitute, and also expressed the desire to handle and control one's own destiny by oneself. The words were tactful and sincere. After reading it, Yue Lin released her.

The above are all positive stories. Of course, a coin always has two sides. You can also learn one or two from some contradictory stories.

The famous writer Xu Dishan said: "A woman's love is the hardest to give and the easiest to take back."

The King of Operas - a passage from Verdi's opera "Rigoletto", a song called "The Fickleness of Women":

"Women love to change their minds, their feathers flutter in the wind , constantly changing her mind

Constantly changing her tone, she looks cute, and she has a good kung fu

Sometimes she uses tears, sometimes she smiles, women love to change their minds

She She is watery and has a temperament that is hard to figure out. There is nothing you can do against her

There is nothing you can do about her. There is nothing you can do about her..."

Not long after the Rebellion of the Eight Kings occurred, King Zhao Sima Lun killed After marrying Jia, Emperor Hui appointed Yang as his queen. In the fifth year of Yongjia (311), Shi Le, a barbarian, defeated more than 100,000 Jin troops. Liu Yao, the leader of the Huns, invaded Luoyang City, which was the "disaster of Yongjia".

When Liu Yao entered the inner palace, he saw the flowery and jade-like Sheep Queen at a glance, and fell in love at first sight. The Sheep Queen also changed in an instant, and immediately came forward to greet her lovingly.

Soon, Liu Yao became the emperor, and Queen Sheep became the queen for the second time. One day, Liu Yao curiously asked: "How do I compare to your predecessor's husband, the man named Sima?" Queen Sheep answered simply: "How can the emperor compare with that idiot Sima?" "Your Majesty is the founder of the country. That Sima who cut off Lao Ke can't even protect himself, his son and me. God is wise, and since I met you, I understand what it means to be a real man!" As he said this, he stuck to Liu Yao.

It seems to be in response to the famous saying of foreigner Mérimée: "You men, all of you think you are Don Juan. You think you have deceived others, but you don't know that the people you meet are often more debauched than you." "The daughter of Don Juan" ("Ancient Vase")

A noble and knowledgeable person is like the Sheep Queen. Ordinary women can fall out of love faster than they can read a book. Su Qin's sister-in-law is the first.

In 207 AD, Su Qin, a commoner, traveled around the country, selling his political strategies to the monarchs of various countries, but no monarch appreciated him.

Su Qin had no choice but to return to his hometown of Luoyang in disgrace. Seeing that he was in such a miserable state, his family did not look down upon him. Su Qin's sister-in-law refused to cook for him and even scolded him severely. This incident greatly stimulated Su Qin. After a year of hard work and hard work, Su Qin accurately grasped the situation and took action for the second time, finally convincing the six kingdoms of Qi, Chu, Yan, Han, Zhao, and Wei to "join forces to fight against Qin".

Su Qin returned to his hometown in rich clothes and was named "Zongyue Chang".

Su Qin returned to his hometown in rich clothes. "My parents heard about it, cleared the palace, set up a banquet hall, and welcomed him thirty miles away in the suburbs; my wife looked sideways. Look and listen; my sister-in-law is walking like a snake and prostrates herself, bowing four times and kneeling down to thank her. Su Qin asked, "Why did my sister-in-law become arrogant before and then become humble later?" The sister-in-law said, "Given the position of Ji Zi, he has so much wealth." Su Qin said, "Wow! If you are poor, your parents will not have children, and if you are rich, your relatives will be afraid. In life, power and position are important. Wealth and honor are so sudden!" ("Warring States Policy·Qin Ceyi" by Liu Xiang of the Western Han Dynasty)

The key to the great reversal of Su Qin's attitude from "being arrogant at first and humble at the end" lies in five words: "With a high position and a lot of gold", it became even bigger this time.

Feng Menglong of the Ming Dynasty also wrote a piece of black humor in "Warning to the World":

It is said that one day, Zhuangzi was traveling and saw a new tomb with a young woman waving a fan. He was fanning the grave vigorously. Zhuangzi was very surprised and asked: "Why are you fanning the grave?" The young woman replied: "My husband is buried in this grave. Before he died, he made a promise to me that I could not remarry someone else until the soil in the grave dried, so I thought Fan it dry as soon as possible."

So, sometimes, don't be obsessed with brother, brother is just a legend; and don't be too obsessed with beauty, "beauty is like a flower separated by clouds", there is a song "Jiajie". "Said" poem: "No matter how beautiful a woman is, she is just a handful of ashes in the end." Hehe!

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