Fate goes through good times and bad times, just like three sections of grass, I don't know which one is better.

A person's life, like a rough sea, can't always be sunny and stormy. There are always good and bad luck, and there are naturally adversity in good times. The two often appear alternately and go hand in hand.

The rule of living a good life is to be kind to others in prosperity and to yourself in adversity.

Wealth without showing off is wisdom.

Everyone wants to be kind to others when they are prosperous. Sometimes, it is a kind of kindness not to be arrogant or impetuous, not to show off or show off.

Don't show off, not that happiness can't be shared, but that you can't be happy for yourself and make others unhappy.

Zhang Ailing once had a good friend Yan Ying. Originally, they were very close. Later, Zhang Ailing couldn't stand Yan Ying's unintentional showing off and broke up.

After Zhang Ailing went to America, she was in financial difficulties, but Yan Ying often boasted about how much money she had earned.

Zhang Ailing has been widowed for many years, but Yan Ying shows off her sweet love with her husband.

Zhang ailing couldn't stand it, so she drifted away and finally cut off contact.

"Caigen Tan" said: "People who are indifferent are mostly suspected by people with heavy makeup; Most censors are jealous of those who are presumptuous. If a gentleman is here, he must change his behavior and not be too sharp. "

Some people get carried away and think that after they have made some achievements, they are eager to find every opportunity to show off their different identities and status, so as to gain a sense of psychological superiority.

As we all know, "the sky is not high, the earth is not thick, and we can see our own shortcomings by taking everything as a reference."

The more ostentatious a person is, the more lacking he is. A truly powerful person must also be a humble and low-key person.

When the spring breeze is proud, don't leave the state of complacency.

It is self-cultivation not to be overbearing in prosperity.

Zhuge Liang said, "Don't be expensive and cheap."

Zeng Guofan also said: "I am arrogant today, and I expect others to bully me in the future."

In fact, the level of a person's self-cultivation often does not depend on his attitude towards his superiors, dignitaries and friends, but on whether he can always be humble and respect those who are "lower than him".

A truly cultivated person will not be overbearing, because he does not need to "step down" others to raise himself.

Zhang Mu was kind to Zeng Guofan, so Zeng Guofan has always been a disciple of Zhang Mu and called him a mentor.

Zhang Mu went out to Beijing, and Zeng Guofan was going to meet him at Azhai. For Zhang Mu's birthday, Zeng Guofan will carefully write birthday couplets as birthday gifts.

Later, Zeng Guofan was promoted and Zhang Mu was demoted because of something, and their status changed greatly. Zeng Guofan still respectfully visited Zhang Mu and often visited his family.

After Zhang Mu's death, Zeng Guofan also took his son to visit the descendants of Zhang Mu.

As the saying goes, "People who respect others will always respect others". Most people above the officialdom are lofty and low. Zeng Guofan has always been respectful to people, and soon won himself a good reputation of "valuing friendship and being kind to others".

"Zhu Xi's motto of managing the family": "Those who are poor and arrogant are shameless."

When you see the poor and helpless, nothing is more despicable than showing arrogance.

Respecting others is actually respecting yourself, and respecting others is respecting yourself.

Respect for yourself in adversity is the bottom line.

There is an old saying: "above others, treat others like people;" Under people, treat yourself as a person. "

People are indomitable, don't underestimate yourself. Self-respect and self-love are the foundation of being a man and the most basic kindness to oneself.

There are three attitudes in interpersonal communication: looking down, looking up and looking up.

Looking down on people is crazy, arrogant and underestimates each other; People who look up are weak, they are afraid of worship and despise themselves; Look at people who are peaceful, neither humble nor supercilious, and respect each other as well as themselves.

Only those who respect themselves can remain humble and calm in front of people who are better than themselves.

Confucius praised Luz: "What's the point of being ashamed of those who wear robes?" What's the use of not asking? "

The so-called robes are clothes made of tangled linen, which is naturally difficult to compare with fox fur coats. Self-respecting people are willing to be poor, enjoy themselves, stand in front of people wearing clothes and foxes, and have no inferiority. Their hearts are naive, frank, carefree and fearless.

There is a saying in "A gentleman with a watchful eye": "People must love themselves, and later people will love others; People should respect themselves, and later people should respect them. "

People must love themselves before they can be loved by others; People must respect themselves before they can be respected by others.

How can a person who doesn't even respect himself have room to respect others?

Self-improvement in adversity is courage.

The setbacks experienced in life determine the height that a person can reach. When encountering difficulties, it is also the best value-added period. Learn from experience and grow in the process of overcoming difficulties.

Someone asked the Zen master, "What did the carp do when it didn't jump over the Longmen?"

The Zen master replied, "Cultivate one's morality in the cold water of a deep pool."

He asked again, "What will happen after jumping over the dragon gate?"

The Zen master replied, "After jumping over the Longmen, it is difficult for the fish to catch up."

Ask again: "So what?"

The Zen master replied: "The dragon travels in the clouds, and the rain moistens the world. Everyone has his own situation. When diving, you should be able to withstand loneliness, and after you achieve it, you should bless the world. It doesn't matter whether it is a fish or a dragon. What matters is what you do in what environment. "

There is no eternal adversity in life, only those who feel desperate in the face of adversity.

Adversity can be the root of defeating a person, or it can be an opportunity to achieve a person.

The core of breaking through oneself in adversity is to have the spirit of self-improvement and turn adversity into motivation, not decadence and depression in difficulties.

People who have been able to achieve great things since ancient times can go forward bravely in the storm and still take their time in difficulties and hardships. No matter how bad the environment is, you can define your goals and make unremitting efforts for them!

As Tagore said, "What you have suffered today, what you have suffered, what you have suffered, what you have shouldered, and what you have endured will turn into light and light your way."

Break through adversity and you will see the light.