If I love you, I will never be like the climbing flower in the sky, borrowing your high branches to show off myself;

If I love you, I will never be like the infatuated bird, repeating for the green shade Monotonous songs.

I must be a kapok tree next to you, standing with you as the image of a tree.

The roots are tightly held in the ground; the leaves are touching in the clouds.

——Shu Ting's "To the Oak"

President Yu Minhong's remarks during his speech two days ago aroused heated discussion among netizens. He said: "China is now due to the degradation of women. , leading to the degeneration of the entire country. "Later he issued an apology and gave an explanation, saying that what he really meant was" The level of women in a country represents the level of the country. The quality of women and mothers are high. Can educate high-quality children. Men are also guided by women's values. If women pursue intellectual life, men will definitely become wiser; if women only see money, men will work hard to make money and ignore spirituality. Practice. If women are strong, men will be strong, and the country will be strong. We will not comment on whether his words are correct. I think what he meant is that women are very important, and the quality of women determines the quality of men. , which in turn affects the quality of the entire country. But I feel that men and women should promote and achieve each other. It is obviously unfair to women if we only attribute men's successes and failures, or even men's depravity, to women.

It is true that in a family, the behavior of women will affect the development of men and the growth of children. But in the same way, what men do also controls women's emotions and affects the sensory formation of children. Because a family is formed jointly by women and men, women's responsibilities and obligations cannot be infinitely magnified while ignoring the existence of men.

It seems that there are still many families who think that it is a woman’s responsibility to take care of children, it is a woman’s duty to do housework, it is a woman’s duty to serve her husband and in-laws, and a man only needs to marry a woman and keep her at home. All is well. Dare I ask, why? In the old days, although women had a low status and could not go out to the public, let alone go out and work hard to compete with men, they could only stay at home to raise their husbands and children, and take care of the housework, but the division of labor was still clear. Men were responsible for the outside and women were responsible for the domestic affairs. All have clear positioning. And now there are still some men who not only want to enjoy the treatment of the old era, but also use the standards of the new era to demand that women be independent and self-reliant. Let me ask, where are the men in such a family? Or how it is different from not having a man. Such women are just like the women in the movie "Finding You", they are heartbreaking!

Of course, it is undeniable that the concept of most families has changed. Men and women share housework, raise children together, work hard together, and women work together. Create a warm home and create a harmonious atmosphere. This will form a virtuous cycle. Children will see what their parents do and when they grow up, they will follow their parents' example and move closer to their parents' model.

The strength of men and the gentleness of women are inherently complementary. When yin is strong, yang is weak, and when yang is strong, yin is weak. Only when the two are balanced can healthy and sustainable development be achieved. Therefore, two people should promote and achieve each other, just like two trees, standing side by side, sharing the cold waves, wind and thunder, and thunderbolts, and enjoying the mist, mist, and neon together.

Women should strengthen themselves. Only in this way can they win respect, be recognized, and realize their own value.