There is a famous saying in the west: "The fate of a country is not so much in the hands of politicians as in the hands of parents, who push the cradle and push the future of mankind." How should parents educate their children? What space and conditions should be provided for children's growth? I think: first of all, we should create a warm, harmonious and rational family atmosphere for our children. The whole family should establish good family relationships, have consistent educational goals for children, be strict with children, and set an example for children everywhere. Secondly, we should care for and help children study hard, give them a comfortable learning environment and cultivate their good study habits. Third, we should cultivate children to develop good moral character, so that they can respect their elders, honor their parents, be honest and upright, and be responsible. Fourth, parents must protect their children's mental health and develop a good personality. These factors are very important for children's healthy growth and will affect and accompany their lives. In modern society, family education, school education and social education are the three indispensable educations in life. In the face of children's growth, many parents think that school is a place to educate people. There are special venues, facilities, courses and teachers who understand education. Therefore, as long as children study hard and listen to the teacher, they are sent to school. Family education is irrelevant, or irrelevant, one-sided and irresponsible. School education is really important, but family education is no exception. In many places, family education is a promotion and transformation of school education in many cases, even exceeding the effect of school education. Because the family is the children's natural school and the parents are the children's first teachers, what parents say and do has a subtle influence on the children. If parents love reading, children will inevitably form good reading habits due to long-term contact. If parents are indifferent to society and others, then the children who have been nurtured for a long time will be indifferent to the collective and classmates ... All these are enough to show that the children's words and deeds are a reflection of family education and a mirror of parents' behavior. It can be seen that family education is very important for a child's healthy growth. So how to be a qualified parent and cultivate qualified talents? An equal, understanding and warm family environment can give children courage and confidence. To overcome children's shyness, there must be such an environment. Don't abuse the authority of parents in front of children. As a parent, you must lead by example in everything, set a good example for your children, and stay in their hearts as an upright person. An upright person should be an upright person, a responsible person, a person who is consistent in words and deeds, a person who is punctual and cherishes time … especially for shy children. In family affairs, especially those related to children, children's opinions should be solicited and respected. With democracy, there is "self-reliance". Good steel is made, excellent children and healthy personality are cultivated. Seed germination needs air, sunshine and water, and the healthy growth of children needs the atmosphere of family democracy. Equality and respect are the life of family democracy. Therefore, children must be respected in the family and treated as equal people. Respect his ideas and listen to his opinions carefully, even if their opinions are naive and immature. We should have full trust in the child, believe in his ambition and believe in his judgment of right and wrong. For example, if you take your child to the park, you should ask the child which park to go to and what to bring to make him feel that he is the organizer and owner of this small garden. In this way, he will appear as a master and build up his self-confidence. In the family, parents should also use more democratic language to their children, such as: "What do you think" and "Is this ok?" If the child does something for you, you should say "thank you!" " "Let children feel that they are equal in the family, which is conducive to overcoming their inferiority complex. In addition, when children make mistakes, they should show their parents' democracy, allow them to defend their actions and feelings, and then give rational help and education after listening clearly and clearly. At this time, simply venting blame and insults is a "self-destruction" of the image of parents, and there will never be any educational gains. A few days ago, one of my students suddenly disappeared after school in the afternoon and didn't go home until dark. Many relatives and friends gathered at home to look around for hours, but they couldn't find him. His mother is crying. Not bad. At ten o'clock in the evening, the children went home by themselves, and everyone was finally relieved. It is thought-provoking to ask the reason afterwards. Usually we only look at scores, not ideological reasons. A few days ago, a unit test miscalculated several questions and his parents slapped him. Today, he was criticized by the teacher because he didn't finish his homework last weekend, and he didn't go home for fear of being punished by his family. Home is a warm harbor, where a day's fatigue and tiredness, a day's confusion and doubts will be unloaded. Children, in particular, are confused because they are physically and mentally underdeveloped, have limited strength, and are most afraid of punishment and discrimination from their families. Can a slap have a good result? Encourage children to make friends. Making friends is a manifestation of children's socialization. Shy children don't make friends for fear that others will look down on them. At this time, parents should encourage him, let relatives and friends or familiar children play with him first, overcome his communication fear, and then encourage him to make friends among his classmates. When a child brings a friend home, parents should show enthusiasm and not take it seriously to increase his courage. Make friends with children. In front of children, it is the easiest to be "strict with strict father". For example, if you wrap yourself in majesty, you will stay away from your children. A famous psychologist believes that it is the greatest protection for children for parents to let their children express all their feelings-positive and negative-through language. In fact, this is also the first requirement for parents and children to make friends-sit down and listen to their children and communicate with them. Sometimes it is not necessary for parents to say it themselves. As long as you listen to the child quietly, let the child feel that you really understand his thoughts and realize that parents respect him, the child will be satisfied. Parents, as listeners, give their children attention, respect and time, which is the most effective help for their children. Children want all their parents to be their friends. Only in this way can children's sense of self-reliance be born in the practice of democracy. Therefore, according to the needs of children's growth, family life should be arranged reasonably. The whole activities of children at home should be clearly included in the plan, so that children can understand the significance of this arrangement, and let children gradually participate consciously and form habits. The ultimate goal of strictness is to enhance the educational effect, so in the process of enforcing strictness, it is particularly important to have clear goals and implement them. If the requirements for children are correct and appropriate, we must persist, especially some habits that need to be cultivated for a long time. Persistence itself is victory. Being strict with children is a wise expression of love. Therefore, we should shape our own image and be the "first teacher" of children. 2. Caring for and helping children to learn and live good study habits can only be formed through day-to-day and year-to-year training and education. Must not be intermittent, only perseverance can gain something. Care and help children learn life and give them appropriate "learning" space. As parents, we should educate our children to consciously abide by discipline and study hard. No matter whether the homework is interesting or not, we should complete it according to the teacher's requirements. At home, children should be arranged with some fixed learning places. If it is best to have your own house, there should be a table for children to read and do their homework. There is a cupboard where children can put their extracurricular reading materials and small items. Parents should work out a schedule with their children, arrange the time for reading, studying, resting and sleeping, and ask the children to implement it consciously. The cultivation of study habits needs a process, so parents should arrange some time to accompany their children to study when they start school, preferably before and after dinner, asking about their school situation and new things happening in the class, so that parents' care and help will help strengthen their children's attention to learning. Cultivate good study habits and achieve a child's life. Learning is a kind of intellectual labor, and its success is the comprehensive result of intellectual activities. As a habit of non-intelligence factors, it affects all aspects of learning and learning effect. Therefore, as parents, we need to join hands with schools wisely and sow the seeds of children's good study habits when they start learning. For children, finishing homework is an inevitable part of daily learning activities, and it is an important aspect of reflecting learning attitude and learning habits. When you get home, the first thing to do is to finish the homework for the day. Don't change it for general reasons. When you do your homework, you should be as strict as you are in class. Don't talk, don't do anything, don't eat or leave your place, and don't watch TV. Check carefully after you finish your homework, and you can't be satisfied. After finishing your homework, you should put away your books, stationery and schoolbag. In addition, parents should encourage their children to listen carefully in class, actively raise their hands to speak, and cultivate their enthusiasm for learning. Encourage children to read more books after class, and form the habit of using their brains and consulting reference books. Years of teaching practice have proved that if children don't care about their own study and pay attention to the cultivation of their study habits, it will be more difficult to learn from an early age. With the growth of grade, learning will become more and more difficult, and even become something that children can't catch up with. Therefore, caring, paying attention to and helping children learn will become a booster for children's learning. Third, cultivate children's good moral character and strengthen their sense of social responsibility. China has an excellent tradition of family moral education. Meng Mu's three tricks and his mother-in-law's tattoo are all beautiful talks about family moral education. Letters from Zeng and Fu Lei are immortal works on family moral education. Although family moral education in each era has its historical limitations, this fine tradition has been deeply integrated into China's family concept. Three generations of gentlemen. As parents, cultivating children's good moral character from an early age will benefit them for life. It is necessary to cultivate children's virtue of honesty and integrity. If children want to be truly productive and contribute to the country and society when they grow up, they should be taught to tell the truth, do practical things, and face everything honestly and honestly. To educate children to be honest and upright, of course, we must preach the truth, but we must not talk empty talk and scratch our heads. After all, they are children, and they are more willing to receive education in their work and life. Therefore, after dinner and tea, I might as well tell my children the stories of countless upright people in Chinese and foreign history. For example, Lenin, Zhou Enlai, Darwin, Newton, Li Siguang ... Parents are the children's first teachers, and parents need to set an example in their bright eyes. Only in this way can the family become the first positive education classroom for children to be human. Educating children to be honest and upright people requires them to practice and form habits in thousands of ordinary things in their study and life. Let children respect their elders and honor their parents. Nowadays, many children only have themselves in their hearts and no one else. They only know how to accept love and don't know how to love others. This is not a simple family relationship, but a major event related to moral feelings and how to behave. Let children know how to repay their debts from an early age, enhance their sense of obligation and responsibility to their parents and families, and cultivate their sense of responsibility and obligation to the motherland and the people. First of all, we should educate children to greet their elders actively, learn to use honorific and polite expressions, and know how to be orderly. Elders and parents should take the initiative to stand up when going out or going home, say hello and help deliver bags, reminding them to bring good things; Listen carefully to the elders, don't look around, don't interrupt; Speak kindly and politely to your elders, don't talk loudly, greet your parents when you go out or go home, and let your children form the habit of informing. Listen to the elders' teaching with an open mind and do it seriously. Elders criticize, do not refute, and are inaccurate. We must cultivate the habit of listening to criticism with an open mind. Parents must stick to the correct opinion and don't compromise when their children are noisy. Of course, parents should also pay attention to the ways and means of criticism, ask their children to abide by school discipline, and don't worry parents. Do what you can at home and take care of yourself in daily life. The sense of responsibility is manifested in concrete practice and also needs to be cultivated in concrete implementation, from action to thought, and finally form thought. Most of children's lives are either at school or at home, so the family has become an important position to cultivate children's sense of responsibility. First of all, let the children do things by themselves as much as possible, and do everything for them. This is not really caring about children. The consequence is that children are deprived of exercise opportunities and lack the ability to live independently and adapt to the living environment. Secondly, let children do what they can, which can not only make them experience the joy of success, but also help to cultivate their sense of responsibility for their families and themselves. Labor can also cultivate their independent spirit, exercise their tenacious will, improve their psychological quality, and enable them to develop good work habits and good qualities of hard work. Therefore, according to children's age and reality, it is necessary and appropriate for children to undertake certain labor tasks at home. We must have a clear task, stick to it for a long time, form a family labor system, strengthen it repeatedly, and let others do it until they take the initiative to form a "power stereotype" and become their own needs. Fourth, protect children's mental health and cultivate a good personality. Parents should not only care about their children's diet and nutrition, arrange their children's lives, encourage their children to actively participate in activities and physical exercise, and make their bodies grow healthily. More importantly, protect children's mental health and develop a good and sound personality. To protect children's mental health, we must first understand children's psychology and follow the law of children's psychological development. Secondly, in life, children should be taught to know themselves correctly, neither belittling themselves nor belittling themselves, so as to treat people correctly. Otherwise, children will know others one-sidedly, overestimate themselves, and always be unhappy when encountering things, not only because they are jealous of others, but also because they are worried and resentful, and will be shrouded in some unhealthy emotions and lose happiness. Cultivate children to believe that "I can do it." "Self-confidence is a positive mental state. The basic point of self-confidence is to believe that you have the strength to complete a certain task. Even though this task is challenging, self-confidence comes from successful experience and parents' educational methods. Appreciating children is the basic attitude that every parent should have towards their children. Everything about children is a big deal. If a child really has any difficulties in life and study, the help and cordial care extended by his parents are the wind for him to sail forward and the best booster of self-confidence. Teach children to treat "stress" correctly. Studies and exams are often the reasons that make "stress" worse or disappear. Therefore, parents' reasonable expectations and help for their children's study will make them study hard and treat "pressure" correctly. Educate children to face failures and setbacks correctly. In the world, there is no road paved with flowers in front of children, only waiting for them to harvest one fruit after another and experience the joy of success. No one can avoid the inevitable failures and setbacks in life. As parents, we should first allow and accept children's failures and setbacks, which is the first step to help children face and accept failures and setbacks. Secondly, tell children that failure and frustration are not terrible. Failure is a successful parent. Every failure and setback means an experience and a lesson. Children should be taught to make good use of it. Thirdly, we should guide children to analyze the causes of failure or frustration and teach them how to deal with similar problems in the future. In short, as young parents, we should let our children grow up healthily. We must improve the quality of education in an all-round way, so that we can establish a correct educational thought, a noble outlook on life, a correct standard for evaluating children, a combination of respecting children and strict requirements, and a good family style. We should also constantly enrich our knowledge, pay attention to the art of education and set an example for teaching. Be a qualified parent and cultivate pillars for the country.