How to get along with villains in daily life really tests people's wisdom.
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Villains love to expose people's shortcomings to amuse themselves; The villain doesn't remember the kindness, expecting to be grateful, and after being grateful, he doesn't know gratitude; In the eyes of villains, interests are paramount, and the so-called friendship is only a prop to realize self-interest.
Even if a villain reads widely, it is not for understanding, but for finding more grandiose reasons for his ingratitude. They don't reflect on their own mistakes, think that their words and deeds that are beneficial to them are reasonable, and follow the principle of "Every man for himself, the devil takes the hindmost".
Simply list the actions of villains, and no one wants to tolerate their existence. They are content with the vulgar rules of the world, and they are becoming more and more humble in their pursuit. The more vulgar, the more I like it. What should they do if they really meet the villain?
Hit the nail on the head or be a gentleman? You can complain directly about the villain who hurts yourself, and never deal with him as he deals with you. It sounds reasonable to spend the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain and the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain. I didn't know that when I did that, I also covered my pure heart with dust.
Little people who are useless to reason don't have common sense with them. The best policy is to be smart and comfortable, communicate with them from the inside out, and be fair and aboveboard to the public.
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So how to distinguish who is a reasonable and useless villain? Zeng Guofan's words are praised by the world. He said: "There are no unchangeable gentlemen and no unchangeable villains in the world. It is a gentleman to know the governor today; If you don't know people and things tomorrow, you are a villain. Carving justice and light is a gentleman; Private people are also villains. "
Sharp and accurate words. First of all, they tell us that there are no unchangeable gentlemen or villains in the world. Everyone has shortcomings and makes mistakes. Whether a person is a gentleman or a villain depends on whether he is a governor or not. Moreover, it is difficult for anyone in this world to follow the gentleman's wind all the time. Similarly, no one will always practice the behavior of villains.
How can we know people and make good use of them, so that people with insufficient virtue can give full play to their talents and not make irreparable mistakes? It's hard to control. Even Zeng Guofan made mistakes.
Zhou Tenghu, the brother-in-law of Zhao Liewen, Zeng Guofan's first chief of staff, is a talented person. He had the means to organize Lijin and achieved results. Zeng Guofan once promoted him to a high position to display his talents, but public opinion did not allow him to be impeached jointly. Zhou Tenghu was depressed after his dismissal and died young.
This incident made Zeng Guofan deeply reflect. Later, when promoting talents, he will first consider personal character factors, and only reuse those who are talented and talented, rather than others, to avoid the situation that moral character does not match.
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In history, Ji Kang asked Confucius, is it okay to kill all heartless people when governing the country? Confucius replied, "If you are a politician, why did you kill him?" ? Children are better and people are better. Gentlemen are virtuous, villains are virtuous, and the wind on the grass will be suppressed. "
These remarks show that Confucius believes that there is no need to kill people to govern the territory. If the ruler wants to do good deeds, the people will naturally do good deeds. The character of a gentleman in power is like the wind, and the character of the people is like grass. When the wind blows on the grass, the grass will inevitably fall in the direction of the wind.
The villain is also an unavoidable landscape in secular life. We feel that their existence is not beautiful, so we must restrain and influence them and guide them to be good.
Wang Yangming, a great scholar in the Ming Dynasty, captured Ning Wang during the Zhengde Uprising. Supposedly, he made great contributions to counter-insurgency and neutrality, but he was criticized by many ministers in the DPRK. They jointly played the role of emperor and put him in prison. What made Wang Yangming finally survive this disaster? It was the way he got along with the little people that saved him.
Ning Wang Zhu rebelled in Jiangxi, and Ming Wuzong wrote that he wanted to personally levy, which was actually a pleasure in Jiangnan. Before the emperor arrived, Wang Yangming occupied Wang Ning in one fell swoop. At that time, men were in power, and Wang Yangming knew that it was impossible to defeat all evil forces by himself.
The emperor's two eunuchs who colluded with Wang Ning went to Zhejiang first, and Wang Yangming gave them a banquet. During the dinner, Wang Yangming stepped back and gave them a big box of collusion letters between two father-in-law and Zhu, saying that they would not pursue it. The two fathers-in-law are very grateful to see that there is still a way to go.
Later, when Wang Yangming was vilified by many ministers, two eunuchs mediated and put all the good words of Wang Yangming in the emperor's ear, helping him avoid a difficult situation. If Wang Yangming had been impulsive earlier and wanted to "lead an honest and clean life", he would have killed two birds with one stone, but it was inevitable that the two fathers-in-law hated him and laid a curse for themselves.
Wang Yangming used silent actions to persuade villains to do good, and got himself two umbrellas for doing good. The dusty conscience of the two eunuchs was ignited at the critical moment, and reciprocated, protecting Wang Yangming.
May we all learn from sages, have light in our hands and love in our hearts, and light up the kindness in the hearts of villains.
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