His works include Inferiority and Transcendence, Study of Human Nature, Theory and Practice of Individual Psychology and Inferiority and Life, which are of great significance to the later development of western psychology.
Adler's psychology surprisingly denies people's thoughts and behaviors of seeking others' approval. He believes that people who are too eager to be recognized by others often live according to others' expectations and abandon their true self.
He encouraged people not to live to meet other people's expectations, but to choose the lifestyle they love instead of catering to others' sense of identity. To live a more confident and valuable life, you must have the courage to be hated and envied by others.
Many people say that they didn't realize that they were so tired, unhappy, depressed and disgusted with themselves because of such complicated factors before they came into contact with alfred adler's teleology.
Adler's theory clearly encourages people to choose their own lives and not to be afraid of other people's gossip. There is no harm in living without an ideal, but it takes courage to be content with the ordinary.
Adler believes that "you don't have to force yourself to be sure, don't use a straight line to measure where you have reached, but look at and focus on how each moment is spent."
Your misfortunes are all your own "choices"! This is the original title of the eighth section of the first chapter in the book. Did you feel uncomfortable after reading it? Yes, according to Adler's individual psychology, what we should consider is not the "cause" of the past, but the "purpose" of the present.
According to teleology, our misfortunes at this stage are all our own choices for the purpose of a certain stage. Maybe the initial choice was unconscious. But as long as we realize that we have the right to choose independently, we can choose again in our future life. Life lies not in what you give, but in how you use what you give.
Human beings have a universal desire to pursue superiority. In order to attract the attention of others, they break away from the "ordinary" state and become "special beings". Therefore, in the process of pursuing superiority, some people will go to extremes. After the "excellent" dream was frustrated, it turned to "bad" extremely.
People are born equal, even though they may have different family backgrounds and different growth environments, they are still equal in essence. Life is not to compete with others, so we don't have to compete with others and lose ourselves in the competition. Because we are bound by the heart of winning or losing, it is more difficult to get real freedom. The pursuit of Excellence is not achieved by competing with others.
The only opponent in life should be the self, constantly surpassing itself and getting closer to the ideal self instead of becoming someone else. We all know that we can never be others, everyone is unique, and we will eventually become better ourselves.
All emotions can be controlled by ourselves. Our life should be a dance without a destination. Your mind must focus on every action you want to do now, not on the past or looking forward to the future.
There is no universal meaning of life in the world, which is given by ourselves. We should learn to accept that our inner world, including inferiority, confusion, depression and fear, will appear in front of everyone. In fact, ordinary doesn't mean incompetent. It means not to show off your superiority, not to be lazy, not to be cowardly, not to stagnate. After reading this book, you will have the courage to choose your own lifestyle again!
In addition, Adler's Contribution of the Other is not self-sacrifice, nor is it a scene in which he kills himself in exchange for victory in the war. On the contrary, he opposed such behavior. The contribution of the other is not to give up oneself and serve others, on the contrary, it is a way to realize one's own value, and then realize the value of one's own existence.
Stay real surpassed himself in the present and finally became the best self.