In the past few days, Gu Ailing has become the main target of everyone's chat. Her inheritance of super high IQ, super self-disciplined work and rest habits, superhuman mother's education method, and super popular endorsements are all enviable. Falling to the ground. But then I thought about it, how did such an outstanding child come out? Can we raise such children? The answer is no, Gu Ailing’s model cannot be copied.

Spinning, jumping, tumbling in the air, and finally landing steadily... In the snow-covered vast world, a girl in red is as agile as an elf.

This is the scene of the women’s double-board slopestyle competition at the Aspen Station of the 2021 World Extreme Games (X Games). The 17-year-old Chinese player Gu Ailing performed well and added another gold medal to her motherland!

Previously, she had just won the women's double board super U-shaped track competition and won third place in the double board platform competition.

X Games is known as the "Oscars" of the skiing industry and is recognized as one of the highest level and most influential traditional events in global extreme sports.

Gu Ailing’s good results this time made history, breaking the record of Chinese players not having a gold medal in this major event for many years; and she herself also became the person who won the most medals in a single X Games competition. Chinese players.

Speaking of Gu Ailing, the most promising star in the Chinese ski industry, he is definitely a legendary existence.

She is a Chinese-American mixed race and a skiing prodigy. She started skiing at the age of 3 and won the National Junior Championship at the age of 9. She has won various awards. In 2019, she announced that she would become a Chinese national and became the first naturalized athlete in the Chinese skiing industry.

In addition to skiing, she is also well-developed morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically. She is not only good at track and field, football, basketball, equestrian, surfing, rock climbing, ballet, piano, etc., but she is also a proper academic. He was admitted to Stanford University with an SAT score of 1580 (out of 1600). At the end of last year, she was also listed on the "2020 Forbes China Under 30 Elite List".

Gu Ailing has countless fans due to his outstanding strength, outstanding appearance, and sunny and cheerful personality. Many people have fallen in love with this beautiful girl with unlimited positive energy.

People can’t help but ask, how did such a radiant ski princess develop?

In fact, after understanding her growth background, we will find that all success is not accidental. Behind every child who is born, there is often a pair of equally outstanding parents.

In 2003, Gu Ailing was born in San Francisco, California, USA. Her father is American and graduated from Harvard University; her mother was a top student at Peking University and later went to Stanford University for further study.

The elite family of double academic masters has had a positive influence on Ailing since she was a child. The most obvious aspects are two points.

Firstly, her parents are relatively hands-off in her studies and never interfere with her.

Ai Ling once revealed: "My mother never gives me questions." Indeed, compared with getting high scores in exams, they value cultivating children's efficient and self-disciplined learning ability and being able to "spend time" On the edge of a knife.”

Because of this, Ailing’s learning efficiency is very high. In order to prepare for the 2022 Winter Olympics, she completed two years of high school courses in one year and handed in an almost perfect answer sheet in the American College Entrance Examination (SAT).

The second point is that her parents set an example by encouraging her to be exposed to new things from an early age, thus cultivating her rich interests and hobbies.

It is understood that Ailing’s whole family loves sports, and her mother was once a part-time ski instructor. When she was three months old, her mother would drive four hours a week to take her to the ski resort, but the reason was not to deliberately train her:

“I drive you there because I I like skiing. If I like golf, you may already be a golf star.”

Her mother’s love for skiing made Ailing fall in love with this sport from the bottom of her heart. Showed extraordinary talent.

It was this unintentional move that laid the foundation for her subsequent brilliant achievements.

In addition, in order to give her a greater sense of identity with the Chinese blood flowing through her, her mother paid special attention to her education in traditional Chinese culture.

In the past ten years, Ai Ling would return to China every summer vacation accompanied by her mother to experience the most authentic life in old Beijing. Visiting the Forbidden City, tasting Chinese food, learning ancient poetry... Subtly, Ailing not only speaks Chinese very fluently, but also has a growing affection for China.

She once said: "Since I can remember, I have been thinking about when I can go back to Beijing every year to play and eat. I don't even remember when I went back to Beijing for the first time, but it is Part of my life.”

So in 2019, she announced that she would give up her American citizenship and compete as a Chinese athlete.

I have to say that Gu Ailing has too many beautiful qualities: optimism, persistence, self-discipline, independence of mind, good planning...

What makes such a treasure girl, No doubt her parents.

It was the power of example conveyed by their words and deeds that allowed Gu Ailing to live her most wonderful life.

I can’t help but think of a wise saying from the educator Suhomlinsky:

“Every moment you see your children, you see yourself; when you educate your children, you also see yourself. Educate yourself and test your own personality. ”

For parents, what your children will be like. The influence of parents on their children is greater than we imagine.

In South Korea, there is a super hard-core family. Not only are their parents graduated from prestigious schools, but all of their six children are also talented people. That is the family of Jeon Hye-sung, who is known as "Korea's Chief Mom".

Quan Hye-sung is a former professor at Yale University and first served as the chairman of the Dongam Cultural Research Institute. Her husband is a Ph.D. from Harvard Law School and has served as South Korea’s Minister Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary to the United States and its representative to the United Nations.

And her children also have extremely outstanding resumes:

The eldest daughter Qingxin graduated from Harvard, received a Ph.D. in Science from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, and is currently a professor in the Department of Chemistry at Chung-Ang University in South Korea. .

The eldest son, Jingzhu, graduated from Yale University School of Medicine and is currently the associate dean of the Harvard School of Public Health.

The second son, Dongzhu, won the U.S. Presidential Award in high school; he has a doctorate in medicine from Harvard University and a doctorate in philosophy from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

The second daughter, Qing En, has a doctorate in law from Harvard University; she is currently a visiting professor of clinical law at Yale Law School and is the first non-white female visiting professor hired by Yale University.

The third son, Hong Zhu, has a doctorate in law from Harvard University; he is currently the dean of Yale Law School and served as assistant secretary of state in charge of human rights affairs.

The younger son Dingzhu, after graduating from the Sociology Department of Harvard University, received the highest degree in the field of fine arts - MFA (Master of Fine Arts) from the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston and the School of Visual Arts in New York.

Each one graduated from one of the world's top universities and achieved worldly success. People can't help but wonder: How does such a fairy family educate their children?

But in fact, Quan Huixing and his wife have only one educational secret, and that is to play the role of role models as good parents.

She once mentioned in an interview that she and her husband would never force their children to study because they both love reading and there is a strong sense of learning in every corner of the home. atmosphere.

Because parents always take the initiative to read books, their children inadvertently regard reading as the most normal thing. From this, the good habit of being sensitive and eager to learn is naturally developed.

It is said that parents are the starting point for children, and this is absolutely true! There is no need to deliberately create a positive family atmosphere; our efforts and excellence will be seen by all our children, and will eventually become a guiding light for their growth.

Some people may say that looking at these elite families, their social status and financial capital are not comparable to ordinary people.

As ordinary people, can their educational experience be replicated?

It is undeniable that they may have more resources and opportunities than most people, but who is born to be able to succeed casually? The birth of any elite must go through a process from zero to one.

For us, the most important thing is to learn from and summarize the advanced concepts of these families in raising children, and finally use them for our own use.

American psychologist Diana Baumrind once divided family parenting styles into four types: authoritarian, doting, neglectful, and democratic authoritative.

In her opinion, many successful people are cultivated through a democratic and authoritative upbringing, so this can be considered an ideal parenting model and worthy of admiration.

To be specific, most parents who adopt democratic authoritative parenting have the following characteristics:

“They will set clear bottom lines for their children and have strict control over their children’s behavior. Clear expectations and constant encouragement.

They are willing to communicate with their children as equals, explain the reasons for their decisions, and support them even when they make mistakes. ”

So, even if the educational experience of elite families cannot be copied, and the training experience of every cow child cannot be replicated, the underlying logic of parenting will always be the same.

In the final analysis, a child’s future is contained in the actions of his parents; and our current attitude towards education will surely produce a butterfly effect, which ultimately determines the direction of a child’s life.

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