Whether you see this thing or not, whether you care about it or not, whether you care about it or not, it is always there.

Moreover, the closer you are to the center, the more criticism you will receive.

If you don’t believe me, ask the beggars on the street who will criticize them. Most of them may not even have time to pity them.

In this world, people are cheating on them all the time, and no one cares. But Lin Dan was scolded for his cheating, and he was banned from my circle of friends for two days because he was too close to the center of the circle.

According to psychological research, people will subconsciously draw a circle deep in their hearts, and there will be a large number of people in this circle. People you know and don't know, ranging from celebrities and politicians to acquaintances and passers-by, then put various "labels" on this group of people. Celebrities should keep themselves clean and their private lives should not be messed up. Athletes should win more medals and be worthy of the country's training. The village head old Wang's sow climbed up the tree, "Oh, I knew she was not a peaceful sow." She didn't give up her seat to the old man on the bus, "Oh, it's such a bad time to stand there!" (Psychological activity: You must all live according to the labels I gave you, otherwise it is immoral)

There are also some people who are usually indifferent to you and completely ignore your hard work. They are just waiting for something to happen. Once there is a gap with their expectations, they will stand on a certain commanding height and criticize you unceremoniously.

In psychology, there is a rather awkward definition of this "disease", which is called "latent psychological imbalance disorder". There are many people suffering from this disease.

When I first faced criticism, I was still very naive and could not fully understand the various situations in the world, so like most people, I felt that life was worse than death for a long time.

Think about it, the person you think is most worthy of your trust, while having a heart-to-heart relationship with you, actually ignores you, stabs you, and slanders you behind your back. .

How would you react if you were young and inexperienced? It was not that you cried silently and fainted in the toilet, but that you vomited until you fainted.

Then I thought about another thing. If the criticism you are convinced is completely unreasonable, then you must be weak in some way, so that those people think that even if they blame you wrongly, It doesn't matter, you can't make any big waves yet, and then they will use this to turn you into a weak person.

Therefore, when facing criticism, the real problem to be solved is not to defend, but to find ways to make yourself stronger, and then face the criticism in turn. The fact that you need to defend yourself comes from another aspect. One side exposes the other fact that you are not strong enough.

In fact, it is easy to understand the feeling of being unable to stand criticism. Don't worry, it seems to have a big impact. Don't worry, it will affect your mood, flood your mind with negative energy, and make you feel like the world is in a miserable state. Therefore, there is often no way to think about people's moral character, but the fact that they have poor moral character does not seem to affect those people's continued life, and it does not prevent them from living happier, because they often have the upper hand in public opinion, and there will be others Ah Q's spiritual victory method is inspiring.

I have been hesitating about this issue for a long time, studying how I should fight back. I have completely forgotten that I was almost taken to a place full of contempt, suspicion, arrogance, and The secular, jealous world.

This is not the world I should enter.

Later, I asked a great master for advice. He first sneered and then gave some instructions. Let’s start with the unjust, false and wrongful cases of the past dynasties, and then go to the recently released movie “I’m Not Pan Jinlian”. They are all inspirational stories of those who were criticized and ignored them, but finally became awesome.

In fact, who has no shortcomings, who can be loved by thousands of people, and no one can blame him?

If the criticism is too great, it means that how you handled it yourself is not appropriate enough. There is no need to spend so much time worrying about this matter. If you have that time and energy, it is better to do something really useful. So I developed another habit, admitting when I was wrong and finding a way to bear the consequences. I feel that this is what a man should be like, and if others are wrong, it is their business to admit and take responsibility, and I don’t need to worry about it.

Because I believe that my time is more precious and should not be wasted in such a place. There is no need to even be angry. A great life is waiting for me, so I have no time to care about it.