Let us remember that the objects we deal with are not absolutely rational animals, but things full of emotions, prejudices, conceitedness and vanity.

Great men show their greatness through their behavior toward little people.

God himself is unwilling to judge people until the final judgment.

Don’t criticize, blame or complain about others.

The most profound driving force of human nature is the desire to matter.

People with mental disorders seek to affirm their own importance in hallucinations, which cannot be obtained in the cruel real life.

Human life is only once, so any good and kindness we can contribute should be done now. Don't be slow, don't be lazy, because you only live once.

Genuinely appreciate others.

Successful interpersonal relationships lie in your ability to capture the other person's perspective; also, looking at one thing must take into account the different perspectives of both you and the other person.

Those who can put themselves in others' shoes and understand what others are thinking will never have to worry about the future.

Think of the needs of others first.

When two people are of the same mind, their sharpness can break through metal. ——"Book of Changes"

Being kind and kind to your neighbors is a national treasure. ——"Zuo Zhuan? The Sixth Year of Yin Gong"

When it comes to rituals, harmony is the most valuable thing. ——"The Analects of Confucius? Xueer"

Gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are harmonious but not harmonious. ——"The Analects of Confucius? Zilu" A gentleman lives in harmony with others, but has his own opinions; a villain is easy to agree with others, but cannot live in peace with others.

A gentleman is harmonious and not frivolous. (Liu: blind obedience) - "Book of Rites? Doctrine of the Mean"

Those who enjoy the happiness of the people will also enjoy their happiness; those who worry about the worries of the people will also worry about their worries. ——"Mencius, King Hui of Liang"

The weather is not as good as the right place, and the right place is not as good as the people. ——"Mencius? Gongsun Chou"

If a thousand people are of the same mind, they will gain thousands of manpower; if ten thousand people are of different minds, there will be no use for one person. ——"Huainanzi? Military Training"

A single person is easy to break, but a group of people is difficult to destroy. ——Cui Hong, "The Spring and Autumn Period of the Thirty Kingdoms? Records of the Western Qin Dynasty"

To treat others harmoniously, to be lenient to others, and to treat others with forgiveness, that is what a gentleman is. ——Lin Bu's "Records of Saving Heart"

Isn't it a joy to have friends come from afar? ——"The Analects of Confucius? Xueer"

The beauty of a gentleman is not the evil of a man. ——"The Analects of Confucius? Yan Yuan"

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, while the friendship between villains is as sweet as wine. A gentleman is indifferent to intimacy, but a villain is willing to give up. (Pure friendship has no utilitarian color and is as clear and transparent as water.) - "Zhuangzi Mountain Trees"

There are also some popular aphorisms:

1. Respecting others is equal to respecting yourself

2. When you meet a close friend for a long time, a thousand cups will be too little, and a word without speculation will be more.

3. A kind word can warm you in winter, but a bad word can hurt you in June.

4. Sit quietly and think about the past, and don’t talk about people’s faults in small talk.

5. You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must not have the intention to guard against others.

6. Say nice things to suit the mood, but be blunt and annoying.

7. One more friend means more road, one more enemy means more wall.

8. It is better to talk "mysterious" words than "gossip".

9. It’s better to have one “gazi” than ten “fools”.

10. Make friends with useful people, but not with useless people.

11. It is better to make enemies than to dissolve them

12. When we meet, smile and let go of grudges

13. Be patient, the wind will be calm, and the sea and sky will be brighter when you retreat.

14. Where there is sincerity, gold and stone will open.

15. The most valuable thing in life is close friends, who meet each other and have close relatives.

16. Taking advantage of others’ weak hands and shortcomings of others.

17. Talking more is worse than talking less, and talking less is worse than talking well.

18. Everyone sweeps the snow in front of their own door and doesn’t care about the frost on other people’s tiles.

There is also a motto:

If you are misunderstood, blame yourself, not the audience. You are the one delivering the message.

--Roger Ailes

1. Stanford Research Center: 12.5% ??of the money you make comes from knowledge, and 87.5% comes from relationships.

2. International Robert Haifu Company: 34% of employees resigned because their achievements were not recognized or praised,

29% because of low salary, 13% because of confusion about authority, 8% Personnel conflicts.

3. Behavioral research: 20% of success comes from IQ, and 80% comes from other factors, mainly emotional intelligence (EQ).

4. 95% of employees who were fired were due to poor interpersonal relationships and 5% were due to low technical skills.

Roosevelt said: The most important factor in the formula for success is getting along with people.

Rockefeller said: I pay a high salary for the ability to handle interpersonal relationships, far more than any other ability under the sun.

Paul Getty said: A supervisor, no matter how much knowledge he possesses, is worthless if he cannot lead people to complete the mission.

A philosopher once said: "People without communication skills are like ships on land and will never reach the sea of ??life."

Seven dividends of good interpersonal relationships

1. Your network becomes a valuable resource.

2. You have the opportunity to become a good leader and people will be willing to help you.

3. You can focus your wisdom and energy on creative construction.

Troubled and tense relationships often drain all emotional energy.

4. You are more confident in yourself and have a better self-image.

5. The people you work with are more productive.

6. You will be a happy person and mentally healthy.

7. You have a better chance of success.

How does your relationship with yourself affect your relationship with others

(Seven psychological coordinate shift syndromes caused by low self-image)

Seeing others proud is actually a sign of low self-esteem

Suspecting others' rejection is actually a sign of being unable to accept oneself

Judging others is actually a lack of self-affirmation

Playing with other people's feelings is actually one's own feelings Have been hurt

Like to correct others is actually to cover up one's own weaknesses

Seeing others as domineering is actually a sign of fear of authority

Flattery to please others is actually a lack of self-confidence

The difference between winners and losers

Losers and winners

Look at the people around you as competitors and helpers

Look at the enemy as a threat Test

Looking at your boss is a disgusting foreman, but you are a respectable coach

Looking at your opponents is a source of friction and inspiration

Looking at dissidents is a kind of opposition It is a difference

Look at the complainers as problems and people with special needs

Look at the parents as antiques of the previous generation and mentors of this generation

Look Employees are the company’s money-making machine and the company’s family members

Correspondence between inner self-image and external interpersonal relationships

1. If you sincerely affirm yourself, you will be more Be magnanimous and affirm others.

2. If you love yourself sincerely, you can love others sincerely.

3. If you have self-esteem, you can respect the self-esteem of others.

4. If you sincerely accept yourself, you will be more able to sincerely accept others.