British Prime Minister Winston Churchill famously said: Perfectionism equals paralysis-which brilliantly illustrates the harm of perfectionists. Psychological perfectionists are those who set the standards of individuals and things too high and unrealistic, and have an obvious tendency to force themselves to do the impossible. They pay too much attention to thinking and planning, so they lack the motivation to act-"do your best" is their criterion, but his action is very slow. A perfectionist dare not get too close to everything, let alone see the truth when he is eager to get close to his goal, because the truth is always imperfect. The essence of inaction is the subconscious behavior of inner self-distrust and unwillingness to act. Perfectionism is a personality trait, that is, there is a tendency to "pursue perfection in everything" in personality. Psychologist Pascal believes that perfectionists usually have these characteristics: paying attention to details; Need rules and lack of flexibility; High standards; Pay attention to the presentation of appearance; No errors are allowed; Low self-confidence; Pursue order and neatness; Self-doubt; You can't trust others. Psychologist Hewitt once divided perfectionism into three categories: the first category is "self-demanding", he set high standards for himself, and the motivation to pursue perfection comes entirely from himself, that is, those who are strict with themselves. The second is "demanding others". He sets high standards for others, and he is strict with others by not allowing others' mistakes. The third category is "being asked". His motivation for pursuing perfection is to meet the expectations of others (usually parents, teachers and partners), so he always feels that he has always been expected to be perfect. Long-term perfectionism will have a great impact on people's physical and mental health, such as: depression (dissatisfaction with one's performance), anxiety (fear of one's failure), anger (inability to let go of imperfections), procrastination (fear of not meeting standards and escaping), compulsive behavior (having to be perfect) ... Perfectionism is another synonym for fantasy. Perfection can represent a kind of holiness to some extent, but a perfectionist who always pursues perfection will be dissatisfied with many things and think that he is more or less defective and has all reasons to change. Perfectionists have an eternal goal in their hearts-the pursuit of perfection. Perfectionism refers to people who are excessively pursuing perfection, demanding that everything they do be perfect, so they put all their energy into things. In fact, what they want to do may not be useful. On the other hand, they are possessive and controlling. In medicine, they are often called obsessive-compulsive disorder. Perfectionists usually have high IQ, while people with high IQ tend to be stubborn, especially perfectionists, some of whom are paranoid. It was the perfectionist's stubbornness that cut off their retreat. They would rather believe in illusion than the real world in their eyes. Deep down, they always believe that the world is perfect. However, they never seem to think about whether their beliefs are based, but they just go their own way, regardless of the actual situation. Psychologists believe that the pursuit of complete perfection is absurd, and there is no complete perfection in the real world. The so-called perfection in film and television dramas is carefully processed. The world cannot be as perfect as people define it. However, stubborn people cannot be flexible, and perfectionists cannot extricate themselves. The pursuit of perfection is doomed to failure. No matter how hard they try, how hard they ask themselves and how hard they force themselves, they will inevitably fail, so depression comes. Unfortunately, when they are depressed, they will still stick to their own opinions. They still don't want to believe what others say or their eyes. They are obsessed with the perfection of art, but they can never understand it. They always adhere to the principle of quality first. The tighter the string, the easier it is to break. Can you still play beautiful music when the strings are broken? So perfectionism sometimes collapses. Perfectionists themselves are not perfect, but they actually have many or even more advantages, but their weaknesses are also fatal. Their biggest weakness is that they can't see their own advantages, and because of this, they often walk like a melancholy dead end.