When we were young, our parents doted on us and wanted to protect us from all kinds of storms. But when we grow up, we blame our parents and turn us into flowers in the greenhouse. The seedlings in the greenhouse can't grow into towering trees, and the ponies in the courtyard can't grow into swift horses. It is not until we become parents that we understand that doting on children is destroying them.
The life that parents give their children is either born without teaching or raising them, or it is right to hold him in your arms carefully. Instead, let the child know the world, learn various skills, and let him have the ability to survive and develop independently. If you don't let the child fall, he won't know what pain is, let alone get up after falling. So many years later, he was deeply hit by the reality, never recovered, and went home to continue to eat his old money. If the child is not allowed to admit his mistakes and correct them, he will make mistakes again and again, and even make irreparable mistakes. Don't wait for him to commit a crime and go to jail in the future, you will regret it, and blame yourself for your poor upbringing. Educating children, doting is a taboo. Many roads in life can only be taken by children alone, and parents' excessive doting will make children lose the best opportunity to learn and improve.
The importance of family education is to educate children and let them live their own lives better. Many families have several children, the first few are daughters, and the last one wants to be a son. Parents sometimes spoil this son too much. A little bitter, such as writing more questions, reciting more texts and writing more exercises, he shouted "I can't stand it", and both parents were distressed. "It's too difficult", "He is too young to do so much", "He is still a child" ... If you don't let the child suffer, the world will let him suffer. I have a classmate who has not contacted me for many years and suddenly asks me for money. In my impression, his grandparents spoil him very much. At that time, his parents were working outside and would pick him up every day. His schoolbag is carried by his grandmother and he doesn't want to walk on his grandfather's back.
His two sisters at home also protect him. Every time something happens, his sister apologizes to others. According to him, he has no real job now. He relies on his sister's help every month. When you are short of money, you can borrow it from others, not much, only 1000 yuan. Why is there such a name as "second ancestor" and "black sheep"? Presumably, there must be parents who overindulge and are unwilling to let their children suffer, which is the cause of the tragedy. Spoiling will only hurt children. Education without hardship is harmful. The so-called "bitterness" is not to deliberately toss the child, but to awaken the child's inner needs and motivation and exercise his ability and will to compete with the world.