During the period of 1949, Zhou Liquan's love life experienced twists and turns, resulting in a strong suicidal impulse. After Kim knew it, he talked to him several times, half of which was persuasion and half was self-expression. Zhou Liquan summed up Mr. Kim's famous words as two main points: "Love is a process. The ending of love, whether married or not, is only a stage in the whole love process. Therefore, the happiness of love should be viewed from the whole process of love, not just from the ending of love. Love is the sublimation of lovers' spirit and feelings. The object of love, to some extent, is the creation of the lover's spirit and feelings, rather than the real objective existence. Therefore, as long as the lover's spirit and feelings are noble and pure, his love is happy. You shouldn't look at this problem from the secular formula of' marriage and love'. "

Disciples learn from the teacher, and Jin preaches and teaches to solve doubts, and everything is fine. But he never instilled the essence of celibacy in them, but repeatedly encouraged young bachelors: "Whoever gets married first will be rewarded!" " "He thinks that marriage is a law between man and nature. Marriage conforms to human nature and is the completion of human nature. Not getting married goes against the laws of nature and is a defect of human nature. On one occasion, he asked whether Zhou Liquan's marriage and love had solved the problem. Zhou Liquan replied naughtily: "A sunken ship is water, and it will always be amber." Jin immediately retorted: "You should say:' There is no way to doubt, and there are other villages. """Several times, Zhou Liquan's words came to his lips and he swallowed them hard. He almost threw a question: "then why don't you get married?" "

According to Zhao Zaji, in 1924, the couple traveled to Europe and met Jin, who was studying in Europe with his American girlfriend Lillian Taylor. Li Lian Taylor's Chinese name is Qin Lilian, which is vulgar, but it is definitely not Jin's "masterpiece". 1925165438+10, Jin returned to China, and Qin Lilian also came to Beijing. She advocates trial marriage and is very interested in family life in China. 1926, Jin was introduced to Tsinghua University to take over as the former principal. He doesn't live on campus, but lives in the city with Qin Lilian. One day, Kim called to say that he had something urgent to go to town. When asked if the sky would fall, Kim refused to answer. He just kept urging them to start quickly and said that they would eat roast duck when it was over.

Yang Buwei is a doctor. The first thought in her mind was that Qin Lilian was pregnant unexpectedly and immediately announced that she could not do anything illegal. Kim replied that it might not be illegal. Yang Buwei and Zhao Yuanren are skeptical. When they arrived at the Kim family, Qin Lilian came to open the door. Yang Buwei stared at her abdomen, nothing unusual. They soon discovered the whole story, not people but chickens.

Kim keeps a big hen. After three days, the eggs still didn't come down. Very painful. Yang Buwei almost burst out laughing. She caught the chicken. It turns out that the owner often feeds it cod liver oil. This heavy body weighs 18 pounds. The egg was stuck there, half exposed. Use your little hands, Yang Buwei. Kim said with a frown, relieved. After that, he kept his promise and invited Zhao Yuanren and his wife to the roast duck restaurant.

Obviously, Kim and Qin Lilian just lived together, and they lost contact after the failed trial marriage. When King was young, he admired the British philosopher Russell the most. Russell strongly advocated trial marriage. His life is endless. His official wife is three years old. By contrast, Kim is just a nobody, which dwarfs him.

One reason for not getting married: Lin is talented and beautiful.

There are many reasons for not getting married, but one beautiful heroine has been mentioned many times, that is, architect and poet Lin. Lin is famous for her beauty and talent. Translator Wen Jieruo thinks that Lin's "natural beauty and superhuman wisdom complement each other, and the day after tomorrow is a good and profound education" is pertinent. Lin is indeed the best intellectual woman. Zhang Bangmei wrote about Lin in Zhang Youyi's oral autobiography Feet and Clothes. Zhang Youyi's evaluation of this rival in love is worth pondering. Her original words were: "Xu Zhimo's girlfriend is another woman with more complicated thoughts, more beautiful appearance and completely free feet." This lady is only 16 years old. Xu, a fascinated poet, abandoned his wife, who lost her son while pursuing her. It is worth mentioning that the witness of Xu Zhimo's divorce from Zhang Youyi is Jin, who was the best man who later married Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. Xu's reckless behavior is obvious.

The marriage and family relationship between Liang Sicheng and Lin played an important role. Liang Qichao and Lin Changmin have been close friends for many years. Childhood friends, two kids who didn't guess wrong, naturally have a solid emotional foundation. 1923, Liang Sicheng was seriously injured in a car accident. Far from alienating, their relationship has become more intimate, so that they can't inject water or stick needles. The next year, they went to the United States to study architecture courses, and then formed a pair of immortal couples. They not only have the same hobbies, but also have the same hobbies. Xu Zhimo broke a bone, sacrificed his degree, separated his family and got a free man. Despite his best efforts, he failed to catch Lin's heart. He had to give up obediently and settle for second best. He found a breakthrough in the marriage between his good friends Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman, and married a beautiful woman who was sick.

What tricks does Kim have to make this proud swan princess look up to him after being a good wife and mother? It is understandable that he loves Lin silently. Lin loves him, which is a bit strange, beside the point. There are many biographies about Lin, but none of them can solve the mystery. Is it tall or graceful? Gold, talent? Kim is humorous, friendly and kind? Love must have a reason, never without a reason. Lin is too clever to make mistakes.

Lin fell in love with Liang Sicheng and Jin.

The credible record comes from the written record of Liang Sicheng's second wife, Ms. Zhu Lin. She 193 1 came back from a survey in Baodi. Lin told him with a sad face that she was really upset because she fell in love with two people at the same time and didn't know what to do. He didn't hide anything from Liang Sicheng. He didn't treat him like a stupid husband, but asked his brother honestly like a little sister. Liang Sicheng is extremely painful and contradictory. He meditated all night, and the calmness and rationality of philosophers were exactly what he lacked. So he told his wife that she could fully exercise her free will. If she chooses Kim, he hopes they will be happy forever.

Later, I told Kim all this. What is commendable is that Jin did not secretly admire himself, so that the selfishness that most easily breeds in his lover's heart prevailed. His answer is very rational and impressive: "Cheng Si seems to really love you. I can't hurt someone who really loves you. I should quit. "

Since then, the three of them have become good friends. Kim still lives next door to them and trusts each other 100%. The quarrel between Liang Sicheng and Lin is always mediated by Jin, a logic professor who is competent and happy with his rich rationality.

The 88-year-old Jin asked for an old photo of Lin.

1983, he and Chen Zhongying set out to edit Lin's poems. In order to know more about the author's life, they made a special trip to visit 88-year-old Jin. The old man is white-haired and weak. In recent years, due to the repeated attacks of pneumonia and coronary heart disease, he has become a frequent visitor to Union Medical College Hospital. Teacher Jin has limited physical strength. He can't stand long speeches and has a bad memory. Chen Yu and Chen Zhongying soon got to the point. They asked Mr. Jin who knows Lin's works best. The latter said slowly with a hoarse throat: "Unfortunately, someone passed!" Give me a copy of Lin Poetry with a brush, hoping to get the explanation and enlightenment from the old man.

Teacher Jin was very interested and immediately spoke, "Lin, this person is very special. I often don't know what she is thinking. Many times she is in a hurry, as if she didn't write a poem. There is a poem called, oh, it seems to be called Don Juan White Duck. Maybe this poem was not written later. " When he turned to another page, he suddenly shouted, "Oh, the sorrow of August!" " Chen, who was overjoyed, was taken aback and suspected that this high-pitched sigh came from Mr. Jin's weak body. The old man's spirit has recovered. He recited the poem: "White ducks swim in the yellow pond with sorghum stalks on their heads." After reading it carefully, he looked up and said happily, "She finally wrote it, she finally wrote it! '

Excitement can stimulate memory and promote association. From time to time, Mr. Jin thinks of some of Lin's poems and comments on them.

Best of all, take out a yellow photo of Lin, 32 inches wide, and hand it to Jin. The effect was immediate: the old man held it with his fingers and stared at it affectionately. "His mouth gradually bent, as if to cry. His throat moved slightly, as if there were a thousand words in it. He didn't say anything, but clung to the photo for fear that the people in it would fly away. For a long time, he looked up and said to us like a pleading child, "Give it to me! "I'm really worried that the old man made a big mistake, so I quickly explained repeatedly that I borrowed it from cousin Lin in Shanghai, and then I made another one, so I had to give him one.

After he understood, he was worried that we would break our word or forget, and said solemnly, "Well, I'll thank you first!" " " '

Evaluation of Kim: I always feel that he is glib, addicted to emotions and has no disguise.

A few days later, Chen Zhongying visited Kim again. This time, their topic went deeper. Teacher Jin gave a thumbs-up and praised, "Lin is a great man." She wrote an article entitled "Outside the Window" or "Inside the Window" and "Ninety-nine Degrees", which completely reflected the situation of the working people. Her feelings are much faster than ours. She is very talented, and she is also very talented in architectural design. She participated in the design of the national emblem and the monument to the people's heroes. Don't obliterate her other creations. "

Take out another photo of Lin and hand it to Kim. The old man had a clear impression: "It was taken in London, and Xu Zhimo was there at that time. Oh, I forgot to tell you that I know Lin through Xu Zhimo. "Obviously, there is no compliment to Xu Zhimo, a talented poet. He said: "Xu Zhimo is an old friend of mine, but I have always found him glib. Of course, it is not that he is slippery. " Afraid of misunderstanding, he explained that lubricating oil means to indulge emotions, not to stop them.

Kim and his friends.

He then recalled, "After Lin was taken back to China by his father, Xu Zhimo chased Beijing again. When he left London, he said two words. The first one forgot, followed by "I am ecstatic to go to Yanjing today". It seems that his mind is full of forests. I don't think he measured himself! I have known Lin Sicheng for a long time. They are two little guys who don't have to guess. The two families are family friends, even politically. Both fathers are in the research department. Xu Zhimo always follows him in. It's no use digging a hole! Xu zhimo doesn't know his position. Unfortunately, Xu Zhimo is a friend. In contrast, Lin is active and rich in ideas, while Liang Sicheng is an expert in painting. He drew a line without looking at the scale, and he didn't lack a penny. Lin has no skill at all. Their combination is a good combination, not easy! "

The evaluation of Jin Lin can be summed up in five words: What word do you want?

The climax of the interview has not yet arrived. When Professor Hopkin prefaced the new poetry collection, the old man thought for a long time and unexpectedly replied, "I should tell her everything, but I can't." I didn't have a chance to talk to her, I don't want to say it, and I don't want to have such words! "The next year, the king drove west. In heaven, can he and Lin still hold hands and recognize each other?

Xu Zhimo and Lin have emotional entanglements, but their behaviors are quite different. Xu Zhimo was completely driven by the poet's romantic energy, so that the flame of emotion melted his reason. From beginning to end, Du Jin controlled his emotions with the highest consciousness, showing his extraordinary soul and character. Plato tasted: "Reason is the noblest factor in the soul." The evaluation of gold can be summarized as five words-"What is the best word", and Lin's evaluation of gold will never be lower than this scale.

Poetic Chihiro Waterfall, April Day on Earth. This is the elegy of Professor Jin and Lin, two close friends. "April 1st" comes from Lin's poem "You are April 1st in the world". Her death date was actually April 1 year, symbolizing great love and youth. Their great significance lies beyond words and words.

Recalling Kim's memorial service, I once said sadly, "I am very sad that the memorial service was held in Xianliang Temple. One day many years after Lin died, Jin solemnly invited his old friends to Beijing Hotel for western food. Everyone is confused. When Mr. Jin made a toast, the answer was: "Today is Lin's birthday!" " "When I lifted my seat, I couldn't help feeling sorry. This kind of affection has become mature and mellow, and it is really the best in the world!

Lin Ying died young in, and Liang Sicheng was not spared from the Cultural Revolution. Jin lives with Lin's son Liang Congjie, his daughter-in-law Fang Jing and his granddaughter. Liang Congjie and Fang Jing always call him "Jin Dad", while they call him "Jin Grandpa". The profound feelings and friendship of three generations have written a perfect chapter.