In our teaching life, we often encounter such interesting educational phenomena: some teachers are gentle, but they can make naughty students obey; Some teachers criticize students, which can convince them, while others criticize students, which leads to students' rebellious psychology. These phenomena are thought-provoking. Apart from explaining the ways to pay attention to ideological education, it is very important that teachers are in the eyes of students. Teachers love students and sincerely help them with enthusiasm. Students understand the teacher's painstaking efforts and are willing to accept the teacher's teaching. This is a new type of mutual understanding between teachers and students, which embodies psychological communication. Therefore, it can be affirmed that psychological communication between teachers and students is the key for teachers to open the skylight of students' minds and one of the secrets of educational success. What should a teacher do to achieve psychological communication between teachers and students? Based on many years of teaching experience, I think the following points are particularly important. 1. Understanding students is the basis of educating students. Understanding students is an essential work for teachers to educate students well and make them become cross-century talents. Pay attention to small things, like parents, and send warmth to every student's heart. For example, if a student has a headache and lies on the table, you send a cup of boiled water and medicine to the table in time. If a student forgets to be on duty, you go to him and remind him in a low voice instead of criticizing the whole class. When a student consciously sits upright in class, and you smile approvingly, these little things will make the students feel your affectionate love for them, and they will have respect and gratitude for you. In the class I teach, there is a very naughty child whose parents are divorced. Living in a single-parent family for a long time, he is lazy and grumpy, and always fights with his classmates. I give him meticulous care and walk past me. I will help him straighten his hat and collar, straighten his red scarf, or ask with concern: Have you had breakfast? Once I heard that he didn't have breakfast, I quickly took out my bread for breakfast and handed it to him. He looked at me, blushing and turned away. Eat, and the teacher will buy it again. Be careful not to choke. I filled a cup of boiling water, blew it cool and handed it to him. I caressed his head and said, The teacher has been paying attention to you these days. You are really obedient these days. If you can do this again in the future, the teacher will be so happy. After listening to my words, his eyes were moist. After all, he hasn't enjoyed his mother's love for a long time, and because of this, he began to change and became very sensible. Later, he became the labor Committee member of the class and my effective general. Besides cordial care, students should also be fully understood. Children are in the growth stage, society is developing, and children's ideological development is not as simple as we used to be. There are many novel things and novel problems in their minds. If we criticize and stop some new ideas and practices they have, the effect will only be counterproductive. Students need to understand. Without understanding students, education will not be effective. Some teachers have been complaining to students all day, but they have caused students' rebellious psychology, so that the relationship between teachers and students is tense. As soon as the teacher opens his mouth, the students deliberately talk back and ignore the existence of the teacher. There are many ways to understand students, and I mainly use the methods of asking more questions, talking skillfully and being kind. Ask more questions. Teachers should ask more questions in their work. When forming a new class, they should ask them what their new plans are, whether they will adapt to the new class and new environment, whether they can keep up with their studies, their interests and hobbies, etc. In contact with parents, they should often ask their children about their life at home, study habits, personality characteristics, family education, etc., and also take the initiative to learn from the original teachers and subject teachers in order to understand each student's situation in all aspects and master their thoughts. Good outlook. Teachers should have a pair of observant eyes, not only to observe the changes of the class, but also to discover the essence of each student's thoughts through the subtle performance, so as to truly understand them. Only in this way can we find problems in time, handle them properly and put our work ahead. 2. Love is another name for understanding. Only by loving students can students be educated. For students, the love of teachers is a magical and great power, and it is another great love in the world besides maternal love. This kind of love is selfless. But teacher's love is different from maternal love, because teacher's love is a blend of reason and soul, and it is a bridge to communicate the hearts of teachers and students. Teacher's love can guide students to generate great internal motivation and take the initiative to follow the direction pointed out by the teacher. Only by understanding students can we grasp the pulse of students' thoughts and let them open their hearts to you. For example, in a new class I just took over, the children in the class were full of vigilance against me, and the class atmosphere was quite tense. When I walked in, I immediately felt the pressure. So, I smiled and said: I want to ask you to do a connection problem, teachers and students, friends and enemies. The air was no longer so tense at once, and everyone made a clear choice. I took the opportunity to say: Since we are friends, what I want to say when we meet is: Happy cooperation. In this way, my classmates will no longer shut me out, but become bosom friends. The monitor found several students smoking in the classroom. I called them to the office, and their faces turned white with fear. Seeing a storm coming, I didn't do this, but asked them one by one what it felt like to smoke. The children don't know what medicine I sell in my pot, so they have to answer truthfully; Spicy choking nose. I smiled and said, since it's so uncomfortable, why do you smoke? The teacher knows that you are curious when you see adults smoking and want to try. But you have made a serious mistake. Don't you know the harm of smoking? A little man shouldn't have these bad behaviors. You say, how should I tell your parents? The children pleaded repeatedly, and I said, OK! I hope this is a secret that will never happen between us again. The children didn't expect me to be like this, and they were all very grateful. Therefore, they never made similar mistakes again and completely regarded me as a bosom friend. Only when teachers give students sincere love, give them a sense of closeness, trust and expectation, will students have an attachment and admiration for teachers, open their inner world to teachers, and we can prescribe the right medicine and receive the due results. Therefore, teachers must use their love to influence students, so as to achieve emotional effect and receive better moral education. 3. Clear rewards and punishments, and promote the smooth progress of counseling. In addition to pouring love into students, we must always restrain them and strictly demand them to receive good results. In class management, there are three kinds of students who need to deal with their relationship well. First, class cadres, second, poor students, and third, excellent students. We should be strict with the class cadres, and ask them to actively serve the classmates while doing a good job in their studies. We should perform their duties, do their part, praise them well, criticize them if they violate discipline, and never tolerate them. Of course, we should pay attention to the methods and methods of their criticism, affirm their achievements, and safeguard their prestige among the classmates. However, as a teacher, it is not difficult to love gifted students, and it is rare to love poor students, especially double poor students. Teachers love education, love the school, and love every student in the school. They should treat students equally, not because of their good academic performance, nor because of their poor academic performance and bad behavior. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, once said a famous saying to teachers: Watt is under your pointer, Newton is in your cold eyes, and Edison is in your ridicule. This sentence tells us that poor students can't be regarded as dead. With the growth of age, the change of environment and the improvement of teachers' working methods, they will also develop and change. Even if they don't become Watt, Newton and Edison, they should be shaped into people who are beneficial to society. Poor students often show negative emotions such as pessimism, depression and melancholy because of their academic achievements or being inferior to others in some aspects, so we should pay special attention to respecting and understanding them and never hurt their self-esteem. Instead, we should affirm their strengths, point out the direction of their efforts, mobilize their enthusiasm and motivate them to overcome their own shortcomings. We should be more strict with outstanding students, otherwise they will think they are favored by heaven, so that they will have an inexplicable sense of superiority and even look down on their classmates until they ignore the teacher's education. If it is a difficult job for every teacher to educate poor students, it is not necessarily difficult to find the hidden shortcomings of excellent students and give them strict and effective education. Therefore, it is very important to educate outstanding students about self-esteem and self-love. Only when teachers handle it this way can students feel that teachers are fair and not partial to anyone, thus clearing the psychological barriers for psychological communication between teachers and students. In education and guidance, I pay attention to guiding them to participate in various meaningful activities, which can not only cultivate students' practical ability, but also improve students' ideological concept of serving the society, cultivate their sentiments and promote mutual understanding between teachers and students.