Thinking is the ability to think about things. A person's thinking mode determines the height of his thinking, the pattern of his life, and the success or failure of his destiny.

Ordinary people always make the mistake of one-way thinking. They only think about things from their own perspective. They feel that what they think is correct and do not think from other people's perspective. Such people often make things difficult for themselves and make others less favorable to them. Sometimes their good intentions lead to bad things.

The last article on Wu Zhihong’s public account wrote, is it good for a girl to be independent? The benevolent sees benevolence, the wise see wisdom.

Some people think it is good to be independent, not dependent on anyone, strong and courageous. Some people may also say that girls are too independent, preventing others from walking in, and making people around them have no sense of existence.

These two opposite ideas are one-way thinking, only considering one aspect of the matter itself.

Everything has two sides, there is good among bad, and there is good among bad. Just as it is good for a girl to be independent, she must also be aware of the environment. You can be independent and independent at work, but you can't push others in life. Only by being moderately gentle and weak can you be happy.

This is two-way thinking, that is, considering the pros and cons. Two-way thinking is much more comprehensive than one-way thinking. When you think about problems with two-way thinking, you will feel much calmer and no longer be so obsessed with one thing.

You know that there is no right or wrong in everything, it is just a different perspective, and the perspective determines the outcome. Therefore, I will no longer argue with others about right or wrong. I can disagree with others, but I will also respect other people's ideas.

In addition to one-way and two-way thinking, there is also multiple thinking. We will always encounter ourselves or others who get into a big fight because of one thing, and then the more they vent, the more they deviate from the thing itself.

This is the real reason why the thing itself is not a vent, but the true feelings hidden deep in the heart.

My boyfriend forgets his girlfriend’s birthday, and then they quarrel over what to eat. My boyfriend will definitely be very depressed, and this little thing can cause arguments.

In fact, we should look beyond the matter itself and see what she really thinks. What she really thinks is that if she forgets her birthday, she doesn't care about her? Is she not important? Don't you love her? Did you forget on purpose?

Look, a small thing, if you look at it to see the true meaning behind it, you will have many different ideas. This is multiple thinking. Looking for real ideas through multiple thinking will lead to different results.

If you understand what she really wants to say, it will be easier to solve the problem.

We ourselves must also calmly consider our true inner thoughts and express our demands to others accurately and clearly. In this way, others will understand what you really want.