Many parents may encounter such a situation: reasoning with their children over and over again, the children will listen at first, and then they will not listen much. I believe many parents are troubled by this problem. In fact, educating children should not only be reasonable, but also learn to raise children wisely.
Why can't you always be reasonable?
In the process of communication, there is a Merrabin's Law in psychology: 55% depends on watching, 38% depends on listening, and only 7% of the content is obtained through speaking, so only 7% of children will listen. If the remaining 93% of your body and tone are angry and impatient, then the child will only want to escape and resist.
Why can't you always be reasonable?
So in the eyes of children, your reason may be that you are dissatisfied with them or critical of them, and they will feel hit and hurt.
And children have their own ideas and reasons. We can't impose our reasons on them, otherwise it will only make them more and more resistant.
Educate children correctly
Learn to understand children's behavior.
Teaching children also needs methods. They are eager for recognition and praise from their parents. Therefore, we should learn to understand children's behavior, accept their imperfections, appreciate their bright spots, praise them correctly, and help them build up their self-esteem and self-confidence.
Educate children correctly
Help children improve their overall quality.
Helping children to improve their comprehensive quality is not only learning, but also some soft power: healthy psychology, ability to resist stress, good interpersonal relationship, ability to complete tasks independently, and always want to know everything. These inner things can affect children's life and make them grow better and better.
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There is a saying in positive discipline: only when a child feels better can he do better.
Let children feel that their parents discipline themselves in love and learn to praise their children. It's hard to tell whether a child is good or not.