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Dear parents and friends, if you have children at home who are transitioning from early childhood to primary school, as a mother you may have some confusions. Many mothers may feel a little stressed and anxious when their children face the upcoming primary school life. What preparations should mothers and children make, and what countermeasures should be taken to help children start primary school life smoothly and spend the new period calmly?

Today we will discuss these issues with you.

Your child is about to enter primary school. What pressures and difficulties may your child and parents face?

1. Parents are afraid that their children will lose at the starting line

We must correctly realize that going to elementary school is definitely not the starting line of a child’s life. Every stage of a child’s life is very important. From the day a child comes to this world, from the day the child conveys the message of life to his mother, he has already started his life. Why do we understand that going to school is the starting line for children? That's because parents misunderstand their children's life growth and the essential meaning of education.

In fact, education is not something that can only be completed in school. Family, society, and all the details of life are all education. Therefore, going to elementary school is not the starting line for a child’s life. Therefore, if there is pressure, it is not There is pressure only when children go to elementary school. The pressure at this time comes more from the uncertainty about the children's upcoming elementary school life. However, it is certain that education and parents play an important role in a child's life. We parents can, and of course should, provide some help to our children.

Second, children may face the pressure of increasing subjects

The courses offered in the first grade include Chinese, mathematics, music, physical education, art, morals and life, life and technology, and expanded courses, etc. Life and technology will be added in September this year. This course is closely centered around children's life experience, such as how to learn science, perceive things through eyes, ears, tongue, and skin, and understand weather, life, and stationery. Science, including the science of tools, the science surrounding plant-based diets, and more.

3. A kind of physiological adaptation pressure caused by the difference in life schedule and kindergarten etc., so it is important for children to get adequate rest at home.

4. Pressure caused by a strange environment

When children move from kindergarten to elementary school, they will face new classmates, new teachers, new places, etc. These will cause a certain amount of pressure for children.

Regarding the issues listed above, how should children and parents deal with these difficulties and resolve these pressures?

First of all, there is no need to be too anxious psychologically. Parents must be calm, overcome anxiety, and believe in themselves and their children, because these difficulties can be solved and are not an insurmountable gap. Parents who are anxious and express stress through words and deeds will have a bad influence on their children and make them mistakenly think that going to school is a scary and difficult thing. Therefore, parents should not put their Anxiety is unintentionally passed on to children.

When children enter elementary school, they also have an adaptation period just like entering kindergarten. At this time, parents are often in a state of anxiety. It is not so much the child's lack of connection as it is the parents' uneasiness. At this time, the parents expect more. High and full of energy, but the children may not be able to find the answer. In the early days of school, they were deceived by winning the starting point, vying for their children to become academic champions, and even unrealistically giving their children extra meals to supplement their food. Later, they discovered that this Everything is wrong, but a regular life, solid study, and proper physical exercise are what children need most.

Secondly, don’t exaggerate your child’s abilities.

Some parents, who were top academics when they were students and were successful at work, feel that their children's learning ability is poor and they are not like themselves, and they feel very frustrated inside. In fact, there is not much problem with the child itself. It is because the parents' expectations are too high. The parents are disappointed and the children are under great pressure. In fact, it is the parents' mentality that is the problem. Although the child comes from you, he is not you, let alone a copy of you. , he is an independent individual with his own thoughts and life path.

Before their children enter primary school, most parents do not realize the differences between their children and other children because there is no academic pressure. Many parents even think that their children are child prodigies. In fact, there are indeed many very smart children in reality, but there are still very few who can be called child prodigies.

If parents do not correctly understand this, when their children encounter difficulties in primary school life, parents will feel a strong sense of loss and frustration. Therefore, as mothers, we must be mentally prepared:

1. Accept children’s ordinaryness and even imperfection, because imperfection is precisely perfection.

2. Allow your children to fall behind temporarily. Being temporarily behind in some aspects does not mean that the child has no hope. It determines that the child will have no future in the future. A large number of facts have proved that children who are temporarily behind in primary school will Not all children are necessarily weak.

Of course, it cannot be said that parents will not intervene and help their children when they are in primary school. Close communication and cooperation between parents and schools are very important. This does not mean that teachers and schools have no responsibility if their children are left to them. In fact, the burden on parents' shoulders is as heavy as that of teachers. Many parents have also realized that in fact, if you want to trace the root causes of some problems in their children, most of them can be traced back to the children's families.

The above is psychological construction. Next, let’s talk about some specific coping strategies.

① What should parents do first when connecting children to primary school?

Because parents are very anxious at this time and want to do something to help their children, they often don’t get the point. It’s hard to say which one is the most important, but there must be one thing to do at this stage. The great benefit is reading with your children. I believe everyone knows the importance of reading to children. Reading at this stage can open up children's wisdom, accumulate language, cultivate language sense, and enhance children's observation ability, thinking ability, expression ability, etc. Don’t watch too many cartoons for your children at this stage, and don’t let the Ipad become your child’s nanny.

Many parents spend time with their children, looking at their mobile phones, checking WeChat, and watching the news. It is a pity for parents every time they see such a scene, because the good time with their children is wasted and good educational opportunities are missed. There are many things that you can do with your children, and reading with your children is one of them. We need to let our children read those wonderful books in the most precious initial stage of their lives.

There is a famous saying that goes like this: There is a child who walks forward every day, and the first thing he sees becomes that thing, and that thing becomes a part of the child.

So we have to choose some beautiful books for our children, and the beauty in these books will become a part of the children. But children at this stage cannot read independently. This requires parents and children to read together, which is called parent-child reading. When children enter elementary school, those children with good expression and thinking skills often have good parent-child reading habits in their families. Nowadays, the first-grade Chinese language textbooks in primary schools have specially designed courses for reading with adults. In fact, they also advocate parent-child independent reading.

Those wonderful times of reading with children are precious and unforgettable for children and parents in their lifetime, and such time will never come back, because children quickly About to grow up.

Giving children good classic books is an important principle and the first principle. Under this premise, we should pay attention to the interests of each child and the different needs of each age group, and find books that each child likes. They are different, and the books that each age group needs to read are also different. Don’t use adult vision and judgment to force children to read what books.

Picture books are of course a very good choice. Picture books are an ensemble of pictures and text, which are naturally suitable for children. In addition to picture books, you can also read some myths, fairy tales, folk stories, children's poems and nursery rhymes to your children. You must read it with your children, not just throw it to them. Not only should you read it to your children, but you should also let your children read it to you. This helps to cultivate children's interests and expressive skills, and even unknowingly, children can learn more words without any burden.

② Should children be allowed to recite poems and the Analects of Confucius in connection with early childhood?

What is certain is that children at this stage can recite some ancient poems. Primary school Chinese textbooks include ancient poems and essays in the first grade. There are 12 volumes in the entire sixth grade of elementary school. There are 124 selected ancient poems and essays in the first grade, accounting for 30% of all selected articles.

Reciting poems is not limited to ancient poems, modern nursery rhymes, folk proverbs, simple and interesting couplets, etc. can be recited, which helps to cultivate children's literary literacy, cultivate their spiritual world, and improve their thinking. Ability, expression ability, cultivating language sense, etc. This is the purpose of letting children recite poetry, not to cultivate another Wu Yishu.

A very important premise is that parents should choose some high-quality ancient poems and not blindly pursue the number of recited poems, because blindly pursuing the number of recited poems will be harmful to children's intelligence. Choose Tang poetry and Song lyrics that are short, popular, interesting, rhythmic, and picturesque. The content of the expression is something that children can understand. It can be supplemented by expressions and movements, and it should not be too exaggerated. Naturally, it is most important.

Parents’ simple explanations are very important. Avoid asking children to memorize by rote. Forcing children to memorize by rote will increase the child’s mental burden, cause the brain neurons to expand, and reduce or cut off the connections between brain cells. Contact makes children stupid. There used to be a saying that don't worry about whether the child understands it or not, just memorize it first and then the child will understand it later. This statement is actually taken for granted and is seriously misleading. It ignores the present moment and ignores the child's physical development, brain development, Basic laws of thinking development.

③In connection with early childhood, should we teach our children to start writing?

Unless parents are sure that the posture, stroke order, and stroke strength you teach your children to hold the pen are correct, do not teach writing to children who are still in the upper class too early. At this time, the child is not yet able to connect the sounds, shapes, and meanings of Chinese characters. Even if he can write the character, it does not mean that he has really learned the character, because learning Chinese characters requires not only being able to read and write, but also Understand its meaning. How to combine these three, life experience and real life situations are very important for children at this stage. Parents cannot set high standards in writing.

Parents should be aware that in the first semester of first grade, children are required to be able to write 100 words and recognize 300 words. In the next semester, children are required to write 200 words and know 400 words. It is recommended to read more, increase life experience, and be in life situations. and language environment, unconscious literacy is the best way.

④ Should children be taught Pinyin in advance for the transition from early childhood to primary school?

It is not recommended that non-professional parents teach Pinyin to avoid pronunciation errors and to prevent children from becoming afraid of difficulties and even starting to hate learning before they go to school.

We must know that Chinese Pinyin is only an auxiliary tool for learning Chinese characters. Even if the child's learning ability is weaker and he has not caught up with the big team, it is not a big problem. Through experience and observation, the child's Pinyin learning will always improve. It doesn’t take too long to master, and it doesn’t take too long to catch up, so you don’t have to worry too much about Pinyin.

⑤How to help children prepare for mathematics learning in the transition from early childhood to primary school?

The mathematics textbook for the first semester of first grade reflects a step-by-step process. At the same time, it attaches great importance to learning based on children's life experience and learning specific content, which mainly includes understanding the directions of front, back, left, right, up and down, and understanding three-dimensional figures. , plane graphics, understanding clocks, and understanding of numbers within 1-20, addition and subtraction within 1 to 10, and the most difficult addition and subtraction with carry within 20. At this stage, we should focus on increasing the child's life experience and pay attention to the child's life experience.

Children's thinking development pattern develops from intuitive action thinking, to image representation thinking, to symbolic abstract thinking. The calculation of quantity uses numerical symbols to represent the changing relationship of quantity. It is a highly abstract thinking process that requires children to accumulate rich experience in the changing relationship of quantity in real situations. Only on this basis, symbolic operations Ability can be gradually formed and developed.

Do not deliberately raise the requirements or increase the difficulty. Cultivate children's concept of counting in life and games. For example, tell your child, "Go and get two oranges for your mother. Do you want two candies or three?" How many small goldfish are there in the fish tank at home? How many are red? Take your children to the zoo. How many monkeys are there on the mountain? One monkey comes down the mountain. How many more are there? For example, when riding in a car, the father drives in front, and the mother and baby sit in the back, knowing the front, back, left, and right. On which floor does our family live, which floor is the one above us, and which floor is the one below us? Play with building blocks, put together a Rubik's Cube, and exercise your child's finger coordination. In short, in life, accumulate rich knowledge about numbers.

⑥How to help children overcome their fear of unfamiliar environments through early childhood connection?

When it is convenient, parents should accompany their children to the campus of the primary school where they are about to enter, take a look and experience the route from home to school. Parents can also take the initiative to establish contact with teachers, meet, chat, etc. Increase life experience and improve children's ability to adapt to unfamiliar environments, such as taking children to libraries, museums, etc. to help children adapt to unfamiliar environments.

⑦ What preparations should be made for the child’s physical functions for the transition from early childhood?

Children’s wisdom is at their fingertips. Parents teach their children to carefully connect their hands and brains. The hands and brains can participate in some activities together, which plays a very important role in catalyzing the child’s brain development. Function and arousal, such as paper cutting, making toys, etc., to strengthen the coordinated use of hands, brain, and eyes, and encourage children to do more hands-on work. Only in the process of doing hands-on work, will the most creative areas of the child's brain be activated. Otherwise, important developmental periods for children will be missed, and important areas of the brain will never be awakened.

Paying attention to health is the primary job of educators. Children’s spiritual life, intellectual development, consolidation of knowledge, and confidence in their own strength all depend on whether they are optimistic, happy, and energetic, so they must The physical health of your children should be placed in a very important position.

However, in reality, we do not pay sufficient attention to the health of our children. We compare the time and energy spent on children's learning with the part that is actually spent on the child's body. Comparison has become a kind of amateur life, which is at best an adjustment and supplement, and can be ignored to a large extent. Some teachers spend hours tutoring their children, but are not willing to take them to the playground for ten minutes. Some parents can spend the entire weekend taking their children to various interest classes, but they are not willing to take their children. Go to the sports field or play in the swimming pool for half an hour. As long as the child does not get sick, the goal is achieved.

We don’t care about children’s health as much as we care about their studies. In fact, the opposite is true. Many children have poor physical fitness and are prone to colds when the weather changes.

As a general principle, exercise more, do more outdoor sports, maintain a regular schedule, and pursue your child's health just like you pursue high scores.

⑧What kind of stationery should I prepare for my children during the early childhood transition?

In response to this problem, we recommend that parents and friends purchase under the advice of teachers and not blindly pursue high-end products. In line with the principles of environmental protection, applicability, and appropriate amounts, the stationery, schoolbags, and pencil cases purchased must be of high quality. It is environmentally friendly and lightweight, and does not cause harm to children's health and personal safety.

Parents should purchase scented and colorful stationery with caution.

Finally, I would like to give you a message from Kahlil Gibran.

Gibran, a great Lebanese-American poet, painter, and philosopher. He is the author of "The Prophet", "Sand and Foam", etc.

Your child is not your child.

He is the son or daughter of life that longs for itself.

They are born of you, but not of you.

Even though they follow you, they do not belong to you.

Parents can only help their children, but cannot replace them. Children have independent thoughts and life paths. Parents cannot do everything themselves and must respect their children.