It is time. She is anxious to take her children to the game. But it didn't happen. The grandmother who came out from the bedroom to send the children slipped and collapsed on the ground and couldn't move. But the old man waved and said that children's games were important.

My friend began to call 120 for emergency treatment. When the ambulance arrived, because it coincided with the departure time, the child was anxiously burying his head in a corner of his clothes, but he was afraid to say anything.

I asked:

"The child is in a hurry. Do you want me to deliver it first and then come back to help you? "

She waved, and then looked back at the child seriously said:

"Grandma is the most important."

Then after a few words to appease the child's emotions, guide him to help and take care of grandma together.

She said to me afterwards:

"In a person's life, there are many opportunities to win, and few people are worthy of love.

In the face of interests and affection, if you compromise on interests from the beginning and cultivate your children into utilitarian baiwenhang, it will definitely be a disaster for your family. "

The tragedy of parents

Is to give everything without raising a grateful child.

This reminds me of the tragedy that my mother was killed at the airport a few years ago.

When he returned from studying abroad, because he was dissatisfied with the living expenses given by his mother, he took out a knife and stabbed his mother nine times as soon as he met.

But in fact, in the past five years, his living expenses and tuition fees have been paid by his mother's monthly income of 7,000 yuan, and sometimes he has to raise money everywhere for him.

Even so, he is not only ungrateful, but also spendthrift. In addition to hundreds of thousands of tuition fees and daily expenses every year, he even spends a lot of time in and out of high-end places.

After parents try their best to cultivate a child, they naturally think that the child will come back to be a pillar and a good family, but they didn't expect that an indifferent child would be even more terrible when he came back.

Closer to home, there is a widowed old man next door. He is over 70 years old this year and sits at the door in the sun every day. Everyone should be proud of their children: "Famous college students work in tall office buildings."

But the conversation turned into tears:

"But what's the use! I don't even visit when I am old. "

I have seen that child, and life is really bright, but he seldom comes back.

As far as I know, his family dotes on him and indulges him because of his good grades since childhood. When I was not married a few years ago, I often yelled at the old people.

We can't help thinking about what the meaning of raising a child is. This reminds me of what Shen Zuyao, president of the Chinese University of Hong Kong, said at the graduation ceremony of 20 14:

In my opinion, the value of a university cannot be judged by the salary of its graduates. It should not be based on the cars they drive and the houses they live in, but on the impact their students have on society and mankind after graduation.

Compared with success in the secular sense, he thinks it is more important to learn to be grateful:

Know how to be grateful One day, parents will start to have gray temples, their memory will decline, and they will stumble, so you will not complain and criticize them. You will take care of your parents and cook and wash their feet.

To put it bluntly, the best education is not to teach children to win, but to love.

The happiness of ordinary people is nothing more than the happiness of father and son. Therefore, no matter how high and far you fly in the future, you should go back to your family and take responsibility for protecting your family.

In the era when utilitarianism, such as successful learning and larded learning, prevails, a parent who is committed to cultivating a child with three views, integrity, temperature, interest and conscience will seem very disobedient, but ask himself, isn't this the foundation of a person's life?

Be careful of your children.

Become a refined egoist.

I remember when I was in middle school, a senior brother and sister were very famous in the school and won the top prize in arts and sciences.

But one weekend, my aunt took me shopping. When I rode through a farmland, I found my brother and sister were helping the family with farm work, covered in mud.

My aunt stood there and lovingly asked their mother:

How can such an excellent child be asked to do farm work on such a hot day?

Their mother straightened up. At first, she was shocked. I guess she doesn't know how to answer. After all, the child's Excellence and consideration for the family are not antagonistic, and then she just smiled politely.

Brother replied:

It's too hard for my mother to be alone. We should.

Yes, whether you are excellent or not, it is right to be considerate of your family.

Understand their hard work of cooking three meals a day for themselves, understand their hard work of providing their children with school, and understand their daily hardships and difficulties. ...

However, observing us, many people have my aunt's idea:

"As long as you get 100, housework is free."

"Take an A, and I will reward you with the latest mobile phone."

"Just mind your study, others don't need you."

……

We all want our children to win at the starting line, but we forget to think:

What can this selfish and indifferent child bring to the family and society once he wins?

Is it a great love that benefits all mankind? Did the incarnation of justice change the world and promote development? Is it the positive energy of society that warms people around you? Or a considerate and warm husband, a responsible father and a filial child?

Neither!

Is a subtle egoist!

The best education

Not how to win, but how to love.

Some people come to the conclusion that the so-called loser is nothing more than having these characteristics:

Lack of ability to learn and make progress, inexplicable self-confidence, deserve to be loved, parents have to breastfeed him as long as they are not dead. Such people are doomed to accomplish nothing.

Because people live in groups, no matter how outstanding your ability is, if you don't know how to be human and love, you are doomed to be lonely.

Therefore, no matter how excellent the child is, there are some things that must be done well:

For example, when eating around the table, it must be the longest elder who takes chopsticks first;

For example, the food red packets handed over by the elders, no matter how many relatives there are, remember to say thank you sincerely;

For example, if you are unhappy in your heart, you can't vent it on the closest person;

For example, if you see that adults are too busy, you should take the initiative to go up and give a hand;

For example, during the New Year, we should greet each other and wish them a happy holiday. ...

Don't think this is red tape. If you can't even do the most basic gratitude and courtesy from an early age, then the children who have worked hard to raise are elites and indifferent to their families.

When "love" exists as a verb, it contains a series of verbs such as "considerate, grateful, considerate and gentle".

Raising a loving child is no less than raising a child with excellent academic performance.

Because there are many bad habits in human nature, including selfishness, greed, inertia and indifference. ...

And a qualified and farsighted parent should be good at guiding and coaxing children to overcome these human weaknesses and shape a good personality.

During this period, I have to experience: I am crazy about my child's "bear", I am confused about whether the education method is correct, and I am confused about my child's future direction. ...

It's easy without parents!

And I believe that most parents' greatest wish for their children is happiness.

Live happily, live healthily, live carefree and live well. ...

In Dear Andre, the child Andre runs to the kitchen and asks his mother who is cooking:

If I am not as good as you expected, not admitted to an ideal high school, not admitted to an ideal university, not finding a suitable job when I grow up, and living a mediocre life, will you be disappointed and hate me?

Mother's answer is:

Andre, the most important thing for me is not whether you have achieved anything, but whether you are happy.

In this world,

Everyone wants to be a hero, but no one wants to help his mother wash the dishes.

Everyone wants to be the first in the exam, but no one wants to send a bottle of water to his father waiting outside.

However, the earth people don't need an elite to stand in a senior office building. What they need is:

A responsible boyfriend, a gentle husband, a filial child or a pair of considerate parents.

Son, you can be bad, but you can't help loving.

Because your ultimate happiness and happiness is at home.