In life, many of us are aware of a large number of theories similar to "Murphy's Law" that affect our lives.

But although we know and understand many theories and understand many truths, we find that they rarely help our lives?

Why is this?

Have we thought about this problem?

Each of us knows a lot, but very few of us actually apply the various theories and knowledge we have learned in our lives.

So, what is your answer to the above questions?

My answer is:

Many people know that "to love others is to love yourself"

"It is better to teach a person to fish than to give him a fish"

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"Only sincerity can exchange for sincerity" and other principles.

However, we did not practice it in life, and did it truly, which led to these great famous sayings and theories, and their impact on us can be ignored.

So, what I want to say is that "understanding some theories and principles" also requires us to practice them in our lives in order to have a huge impact on our lives.

Next, please allow me to introduce to you two theories that have a huge impact on our work and life:

The law of reciprocity

The key theory

Emerson said: "One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that when people sincerely help others, they also help themselves. Helping others is also helping yourself."

What you give is what you receive back; what you sow is what you reap.

The more you help, the more you will get; and the stingier you are, the more likely you will get nothing.

"To love others is to love yourself", this very classic saying actually tells the "core secret" of interpersonal relationships - you give others what they need, and they will give you what you need. .

I wonder if you have such true feelings in your daily life.

One day when I was taking the bus, I met a student who didn't bring any change. He asked me for help in time and asked, "Do you have any change?" I forgot to bring my change.

I said I had it and quickly took it out of my pocket and gave it to him. He hurriedly threw the money into the bus ticket gate and immediately thanked me.

When he said "Thank you", I suddenly noticed a warm current flowing in my heart. This feeling was magical and made my whole body feel comfortable.

I didn’t know what was causing it at the time, but whenever I did something good and heard other people’s thanks, I would be very happy.

In the TV series "Jigong's Travels", the old farmer drank tea with Jigong and complained about his lack of good fortune.

Jigong said: Good will be rewarded with good and evil will be rewarded with evil. It is not that there will be no reward. The time has not come yet. If you sow melons, you will get melons, and if you sow beans, you will get beans.

Jigong said: The old man has two sentences for you

The first sentence: If people are kind, although blessings have not yet come, disasters have been far away.

The second sentence: People do evil. Although disaster has not yet come, blessings are far away. Remember that good and evil will be rewarded in the end.

I would like to take this opportunity to share the above words with everyone and encourage you.

The interaction between people is like sitting on a seesaw, with high and low levels alternating.

For a person who is never willing to suffer losses or make concessions, even if he does get benefits, it will only be temporary. Sooner or later, he will be disliked and alienated by others.

Receiving benefits or kindness from others and repaying them in a timely manner can show that one is a person who repays kindness and is conducive to further mutual interactions.

In the journey of life, we have been sowing kindness. Perhaps a kindness we inadvertently show will receive unexpected gratitude.

Of course, we do not pay in order to get something in return, but life is like this. If you sow, you will reap something. For us, it may be just a meager effort, but for those who need help, it may be A new starting point in life.

In psychology, we usually say that we are the lock and the object is the key. This is the key theory.

There are many ways for people to communicate with each other, and the most desirable ones are "irreconcilable friends".

Everyone hopes that others can understand them and have close friends in life, but to get these, there is a major prerequisite, that is, you must treat others sincerely and give your sincerity to others. Only then can you gain other people's sincerity and understanding.

Sincerity comes from the heart, without any falsehood. It does not require too many means, as long as it is sincere, it is enough.

A true heart can break through a copper wall or an iron wall, and can defeat thousands of armies. The most important thing in communication between people is heart-to-heart communication.

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Don’t complain that the world is too bad and there are too few good people. No matter who you are, you will treat them sincerely and you will see another blue sky.

In interpersonal communication, in communicating with others, and in communicating with others attentively, we will not feel lonely.

It also has this power in writing. The most beautiful articles that can touch people's hearts are articles that reveal true feelings.

The most touching performance is a demonstration full of true feelings;

The most unforgettable image is a character full of true feelings.

The most touching thing is "true feelings".

True feelings are an attitude, a performance, and a character. Only those who are full of true feelings can touch the hearts of others.

There is a movie about a very cute little girl who achieved success in the most serious circles of law and politics.

The reason why she was successful was that she never forgot the most fundamental things about human beings, and moved everyone she interacted with with her true feelings.

In the film, lawyers often do whatever it takes to win the case, and officials often risk everything for personal interests, but the heroine taught them a lesson, moved them with her true feelings, and awakened their Conscience.

There is also a Korean movie "The Defender"

In 1978, Song Youshuo, who only had a high school degree, finally passed the judicial examination after years of hard work and quickly changed careers after becoming a judge. Become a lawyer.

In the 1980s, South Korea’s struggle for democratization intensified. Youshuo didn't care about anything outside the window and continued to make money behind closed doors.

However, the great changes in society no longer allow him to stay out of it. Song Youshuo, because the landlady helped him when he was in the most difficult time, so when he achieved something, he often visited a restaurant seven years ago with a grateful heart. A small restaurant where I used to eat.

One day, the small restaurant suddenly closed down, and the owner's son Zhenyu was imprisoned for unknown reasons. Song Youshuo, who went to visit, was shocked to see Zhenyu covered with bruises. At the request of Shun Ai, Song Youshuo decided to defend Zhen Yu after experiencing some ideological struggle.

Park Jin-woo, the son of a hotel aunt, was arrested because the Busan Reading Union to which he was affiliated was accused of being a left-wing society. He was also brutally abused and unfairly accused.

Although he loves money, he values ??feelings more, and thus embarks on the road of defending democracy...

Lawyer Song single-handedly defeats the seemingly incomparable power.

He worked day and night, tried his best, and exhausted all methods within his capabilities, including studying the law, using foreign media, and taking risks to find evidence...

Let the prosecutors and judges Caught off guard. Just when Lawyer Song found the police medical officer as a witness, thinking that the medical officer's certificate would make the defense successful, reality dealt a heavy blow to his unremitting efforts: the witness was taken away, the testimony was deleted, and the defense still failed.

After the defense failed, the landlady said to Lawyer Song: "You have tried your best."

Indeed, for an ordinary lawyer with no power, he did his best.

But the story does not end here. Lawyer Song became a democratic fighter in Busan and became the "fed college student" whom he despised back then.

He organized demonstrations again and again, and was eventually put in court as a suspect for violating the laws on gatherings and demonstrations.

Surprisingly, 99 of the 142 lawyers in Busan attended the court as defenders to defend him. This is the last scene of the movie, a bright ending that is shocking and heart-warming.

There is also a movie "I'm Not the God of Medicine" made in China

The film tells the story of a drugstore owner who made a discovery after starting to make money selling medicines from India.

Cheng Yong, an ordinary middle-aged man, runs a health care product store and is frustrated and divorced.

The arrival of the uninvited guest Lu Yiyi opened up a new business of going to India to buy medicines as a "purchasing agent". Although there were many difficulties, he found business opportunities on this "road to buy medicines". Out of control, he became the exclusive agent of Indian generic drugs for the treatment of chronic myelogenous leukemia.

While making money, he also met several patients and their families, including Sihui who was forced to become a dancer to save her daughter, Pastor Liu who spoke fluent "priestly" English, and the violent " "Huang Mao", several people started a business together, and while the profits doubled, they were also surrounded by risks.

Police officer Cheng Yong’s former brother-in-law Cao was ordered to investigate the source of generic drugs. Counterfeit drug dealer Zhang Changlin and Swiss genuine pharmaceutical representatives were also eyeing him, and the business gradually turned into a tug-of-war about redemption.

Cheng Yong finally decided to help those patients and continued to buy medicines on behalf of others. As a result, he also went into the abyss. However, he brought gratitude and support from the patients, and thus aroused the attention of the whole society. Making cancer drugs covered by Medicare has helped thousands of patients.

The film was released in China on July 6, 2018. In July, Premier Li Keqiang issued instructions in response to the heated public discussion caused by the movie "I'm Not the God of Medicine," requiring relevant departments to speed up the implementation of relevant measures such as reducing the price and ensuring the supply of anti-cancer drugs.

With its sincere emotions and true story, the film moved many audiences, aroused heated discussions in society, and won the support of a large number of audiences, resulting in the final box office of the film reaching 3.1 billion. Douban received a score of 9 from 1.54 million people, making it the highest-rated domestic film in the past 10 years.

Finally, the law of reciprocity and the key theory tell us that helping others is helping ourselves, and only sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity.

Every story and every movie expresses that sincere emotions and mutual help will vividly demonstrate the brilliance of human nature and inspire audiences and readers unconsciously.