The so-called "being able to control yourself" means having enough self-control to push yourself to do what you should do and to prevent yourself from doing what you shouldn't do. Self-control can enable our hearts to be rational enough to resist the temptations of life, enable us in confusion to correctly plan our lives, achieve our goals, and gain the power to move forward steadily in our lives. If you don't want to live a mediocre life and want to achieve something, it is important to control yourself.
There are angels and devils living in each of us. Bad emotions are the devil in our hearts. Once the devil gets out of control, it will be out of control. If we allow our emotions to develop unchecked without controlling them or reflecting on them in time, we will cause inconvenience to ourselves or others, and even cause trouble.
The ability to control our emotions is a key to our success in life. Who has ever seen a person who cannot control his emotions well be respected by others? We must learn to control our emotions instead of letting them control us. People who can control their emotions are the masters of their emotions; people who are controlled by their emotions are their slaves.
There is such a fable:
There lived a bad-tempered turtle in a small pond. He got to know two wild geese who often came to the pond to drink water. They became good friends.
One year, there was a severe drought and the water in the pond dried up. The turtle had no choice but to decide to move to another place. It heard that the wild geese were going to fly to the south, so it told the wild geese that they were going to fly together. But the turtle couldn't fly, so the two wild geese found a branch. The two wild geese held one end of the tree branch and let the turtle bite the middle and fly with it.
The wild goose told the turtle: "When we start flying, you must not speak, because you will fall as soon as you speak."
The turtle nodded in agreement.
They flew over fields, mountain peaks, forests, villages... The children in the village saw the turtle being carried by the geese and found it very interesting, so they clapped their hands and called to their companions to come and see: "Look, look! Look, that turtle is so funny. It’s even learning to fly!”
The turtle was flying triumphantly. When someone laughed at it, it got very angry and started to curse. But when it opened its mouth, it fell down, fell on a stone, and died.
Although Dayan had warned the turtle, the turtle failed to learn patience and failed to control his temper. As a result, as soon as the psychological armor was dispelled, the turtle, unable to control his emotions, fell to his death on the stone. It can be seen that if a person does not listen to the advice of others and cannot control his emotions, it is difficult for such a person to achieve anything.
The wild goose sighed and said: "What a price you have to pay if you can't control your bad temper."
This is a fable, but it vividly allows us to see The self who usually can't control his emotions. Some people say that when the mood is bad, a person's psychology is disarmed, and the rest is probably surrender.
Human emotions are related to but different from emotions. Emotions are like the sea, and emotions are the waves on the sea. The boat of life is destined to move forward in the waves. In other words, emotional control has a very important impact on people.
The most direct impact of emotions on people is the body. Psychologists believe that what kind of mood you have, there will be what kind of emotional reaction. People often say that people feel refreshed during happy events. When you are happy, your emotions can be reflected on the things around you. The continuous rain will also feel poetic to you, and the misty mist will also feel beautiful and moving. However, unsatisfactory things often happen in life, and these things will inevitably lead to negative emotions, such as anxiety, fear, anger, guilt, etc. Many people are not good at handling and resolving these negative emotions, causing themselves to be tortured by negative emotions, which seriously affects the quality of life and even causes illness. Obviously, the impact of emotional changes on health is the primary content that we must understand deeply when understanding the concept of emotions.
Concerning emotions and people's physical and mental health, the theory of traditional Chinese medicine is the most thorough, including the famous theory of seven emotions causing disease. Humans have seven emotions, which belong to the category of mental activities, including changes in emotions such as joy, anger, thought, worry, sadness, fear, and surprise.
Mood swings usually do not harm people's health. However, strong mood swings or long-term negative emotions can cause excessive or long-term mental stress, which can affect people's health and cause some diseases. Fluctuations in the seven emotions can affect the balance and operation of a person's qi and blood. Under normal circumstances, the yin and yang of the human body are in balance, ensuring the normal physiological functions of the body. Drastic emotional changes can cause balance imbalance, affect the normal operation of a person's Qi and blood, and lead to Qi and blood dysfunction.
There is such a saying: "When you are happy but not ecstatic, you will be happy; when you are angry but not furious, you will not be angry; when you are comfortable, you will be able to live longer and longer." When we express our own When you are emotional, you must consider moderation and keep your emotional reaction in the most appropriate state.
The novel "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" describes that Zhou Yu yelled three times after being "angry". It can be seen that Zhou Yu has a bad temper, a strong competitive spirit, a narrow mind, pride and frivolity, jealousy of talented people, and easy emotions. Excited. Kong Ming, who was extremely intelligent, gave Zhou Yu repeated strong psychological stimulation, causing Zhou Yu to suffer from angina pectoris, which eventually led to death from acute myocardial infarction. This shows that excessive anger, anxiety, depression and other negative emotions can cause harm to the human body.
Self-control, that is, the ability to control oneself, refers to the correct control over one's own impulses, emotions, and desires. It is a reflection of a person's maturity. Anyone who has achieved something successful is a person with super self-control ability. Dare to declare war on innate behaviors, not get entangled in the awkward things in life, and be able to correctly deal with work pressure, emotional conflicts, career adversities, interpersonal relationships, etc. Thereby gaining a sense of control and satisfaction in life. This book is aimed at ambitious young people. It mainly starts from the perspective of psychology, focusing on habits and human weaknesses, and guides readers on how to be a person with strong self-control and truly achieve a career.
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