Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) was the third president of the United States. In 1785 he served as ambassador to France. One day he visited the French foreign minister in his apartment.

"You replaced Mr. Franklin?" the foreign minister asked.

"To succeed him, no one can replace him." Jefferson replied.

Jefferson’s humility left a deep impression on the world. The purpose of humility is not to make us feel insignificant, but to understand ourselves and our contribution to the universe in terms of our power. In addition to Jefferson, these great men, such as Einstein and Gandhi, were all humble people. Of course, they are not inferior. They are full of confidence in their knowledge, their goal of serving people, and their desire to make the world a better place.

Humility is not self-denial. It is self-affirmation and trust in our integrity and dignity as human beings. Humility is a blend of success and failure; we are wary of past failures and grateful for present successes. We cannot let success or failure control us. Humility has a balancing effect, neither making us greater than ourselves nor making us inferior to ourselves; nor does it make us superior to others or inferior to others. Humility is tranquility, which prevents us from being weighed down by past failures or arrogant due to today's successes. Humility is an emotional regulator, allowing us to stay true to ourselves and remain youthful.

Humility has the following 8 components.

(1) Sincerity: Treat yourself and others with sincerity.

(2) Understand: Understand your own needs and understand the needs of others.

(3) Knowledge: Know your true nature without having to imitate others.

(4) Ability: Expand the ability to listen and learn.

(5) Integrity: Establish your own inner sense of value and be loyal to this feeling.

(6) Satisfaction: Peace of mind is established through understanding without making a fuss.

(7) Desire: Seek new realms and new goals, and put them into practice.

(8) Maturity: Maturity is the gold at the end of the rainbow. You can understand humility through maturity and achieve success through humility.

Humility does not mean humility. It takes time to cultivate, but it is worth it because it is a source of joy. Perhaps the words of the British novelist James Barrie are most pertinent: "Life is a continuous learning of humility."

Sir Chester Field pointed out: "Learning is rich, but correct judgment is lacking." , it is very likely that you will be devalued as worthless, and secretly derogated as 'vulgar', 'fake Taoism', etc. Although you already have some knowledge, in order to avoid being criticized by others, you will avoid falling into the trap of others. It’s easy to fall into traps, so you might as well start paying attention to this from now on!”

True wisdom is always connected with humility, and a true philosopher must be as generous as the sea. The more a person knows, the less he realizes he knows. This is a law of human understanding. A student of Trinity College thought that he had "succeeded in his studies" and went to say goodbye to his teacher. The teacher knew the details of this student well. Looking at this student who had "succeeded in his studies", the gentleman said with emotion: "In fact, I have just entered the family."

Half a bucket of water is too big, but a bucket of water won't be enough. Shallow people always think they know everything, but wise philosophers realize that there is no limit to the sea of ??learning, and diligence is the only way. Newton once felt this. He said: He was just a child who picked up a few shells on the seashore, and he had not yet touched the sea of ??truth.

People who are knowledgeable are probably not easy to accept other people's opinions because they are overconfident in their knowledge. Not only that, they often force others to accept their own judgments or make decisions without authorization. Once this is done, what will be the consequences? right! People who are suppressed will feel insulted and hurt, and will not obey willingly. They may be angry and defiant. More seriously, legal action may be taken. Sir Chester Field's advice was to be knowledgeable and humble.

Sir Chester Field pointed out: To avoid the above situation, as the amount of knowledge increases, you must become more humble. Even if you talk about something you are sure of, you should pretend to be less sure. Don't be too assertive when stating your opinion. If you want to persuade someone, first listen carefully to what they have to say. This level of humility is indispensable. If you hate being criticized for being hypocritical or imbecile, and don't like being thought of as uneducated, then the best way is to stop trying to show off your knowledge and speak in the same way as those around you. Don't elaborate on the wording, just express the content purely. Never allow yourself to appear greater or more learned than those around you.

Knowledge is like a pocket watch, as long as it is kept quietly in your pocket. There is no need to take it out of your pocket just to show off, or to actively tell others the time. If someone asks you the time, just answer that time, because you are not the guardian of time, so if others don't ask, you don't have to take the initiative to tell it.

Knowledge is like an indispensable and useful decoration. It would be embarrassing if you were missing something like this. However, great caution must be exercised in order to avoid making the aforementioned mistakes that could lead to defamation.

The medieval religious scholar Campis once said: "A humble person who does not take success seriously is very remarkable." This sentence is a wise saying.

It is indeed extraordinary not to be arrogant in victory and not discouraged in defeat. Compis emphasizes living actively every minute, being happy with yourself and sharing it with others.

The opposite of modesty is grandiosity and vanity. Grandiosity and vanity corrode human nature, but few escape their temptations.

Having thoughts of vanity can easily lead to complacency. In the dream of vanity and complacency, you think you are successful, but in fact you know that you are still far from success. In the self-built ivory tower, you put on pretense and want to attract attention, but it is like scratching an itch on marble, it has no effect. When you understand the truth of the matter, you will hate yourself and lose yourself.

····Vanity and exaggeration have nothing but failure. Before you join the arrogant club by playing a game that is doomed to failure, you'd better consider that vanity and grandiosity will turn you into a tyrant who is bound to lose and cannot relax.

The secret to avoiding vanity is: don’t be harsh on yourself and don’t emphasize success. Be a good friend to yourself, and you will become a good friend to others. As Compis said: "If you are not proud of your own glory, you are truly extraordinary."

When When you experience jealousy, you are bound to be involved in some kind of competition. Your goal is to defeat your "opponent," but you often don't know who or what your opponent is. Is it your work colleague? Or the time colleagues spend in the office? Is it your friend’s new clothes, or the way your friend looks in her new clothes? Or is it your friend? Is it your next door neighbor? Or maybe your beautiful backyard garden next door?

You may think you are jealous of someone, but later on, if you look closely, you will find that it is not the person you are jealous of, nor what he does, nor everything he has. In fact, jealousy comes from your own interest and self-destructive tendencies. You become jealous because you compare yourself with others, see your own performance, and find that others are better, more abundant, more attractive, etc. What you are participating in is a one-sided war, and your opponent is actually yourself.

Jealousy is often called the green-eyed devil. If you are jealous of someone, you can be sure that it will not only hurt the person you are directing your feelings towards, but you may be hurt even more than they are. Jealousy is like a disease, it damages you and eats away at you.

You feel uncomfortable for what others have in career or life. How much pain does this feeling bring to people? How much marital violence is caused by jealousy? How many marriages have been ruined by jealousy? Sometimes people's jealousy is real, but sometimes it's just fantasy. How many suicides are the product of jealousy? How many people commit crimes because of jealousy of others and end up in jail? Beyond that, being jealous of someone you don't even know can get you into big trouble, cost you money, and even cause damage to you and your reputation. Generally speaking, jealousy often brings serious consequences.

(1) Murder.

The reason why Cain, the son of Adam, killed his brother Abel was because he was jealous of his brother.

(2) Betrayal.

The reason why Joseph's brothers sold him to Egypt as a slave was because they were jealous that he was his father's favorite son. They could not bear to see the splendor of the coat he wore.

(3) Friendship breaks down.

There was a middle-aged journalist who was very jealous of a famous novelist friend of his and the books his friend had published. On the other hand, his novelist friend was jealous that the journalist had been nominated for a Pulitzer Prize for a piece of well-known reporting, because this award was an honor that the novelist had no chance of receiving. As a result, the two friends never spoke again.

Detroit is often called the Car City, just like New York is the Big Apple. One of the most successful record industries in the United States started in Checheng, that is, Checheng Records. Checheng has made famous many singers, such as Summit, Diana Ross, The Jackson Family, Robinson, Stevie Wonder and Marvin Gaye, etc. It would be reasonable to assume that these performers are likely to be the targets of envy and envy from others in the entertainment industry. In fact, actors, singers and dancers may face less jealousy than others from their peers. This may be due to their high incomes, the admiration of their fans and the vast influence they have.

However, from time to time some entertainers who have been popular for 20 or 30 years publicly express their support for some new singers, dancers and actors. The leaders of the older generation have carried forward this virtue, and they understand that envy and jealousy of the new debutants will not help. Those who are new to the scene will of course have to pay a considerable price in order to become famous, just like those who have already become famous did in the first place. Regardless of where it manifests itself, talent is what matters most; and the emotion we feel about other people's achievements should be nothing but pride for them.

As you work your way to the top, turn envy of others into pride in their achievements. Don't just say: "I hope to be like him or her." You should be down-to-earth and do something to make yourself as successful as him or her.

Since feelings of envy and jealousy cannot make you a bench player and become a main force on the court, why do you sit on the sidelines and let these emotions overflow?

If you are constantly worrying about what others are doing and how they are doing it, you will find that your path to the top will be difficult. When you see someone else doing really well, seeing their success or enjoying the fruits of their victory, take a good look at what they have that you can learn from. It could be just a smile, or it could be his attitude, a kind word, a sassy remark. Before you know it, you've put your jealousy to rest and built up your skills.

Here are some effective ways to get rid of jealousy.

(1) Think about the good sides of others, especially successful people who are prone to jealousy. Like someone not only because of who he is, but equally important, you must realize that not everyone likes him. This way, there will be no room in your heart for jealousy.

(2) Make yourself immune to some contagious words, such as jealousy. Think of a scar on your arm or thigh. It is your vaccine against jealousy of others, or the possibility of becoming a victim of someone else's jealousy.

(3) In order to get rid of a bad habit, the method is to replace it with a good habit. You can also deal with this problem in the same way, which is to replace these vicious words with other words. For example, in your mind, replace jealousy with appreciation or joy when you see the achievements and successes of others.

(4) Always imagine what you should do instead of thinking about what others have done. If others deserve their achievements, think about what you can do to be like them, rather than resenting what they have achieved.