Sometimes, we are often too confident, and when we are at a loss, we still brazenly say that it is better to ask for help than to ask for help. We reject others, thinking that we are right. As a result, we failed, just a little
Independence is very important. Do your own thing, yes. But you can't guarantee that everything can be done independently. You still have to force yourself to do what you know you can't do on your own, and there is only one consequence of doing so-being in a desperate situation. At this time, the wisest thing to do is to find someone who can help you.
Once upon a time, two hungry people were blessed by an elder: a fishing rod and a basket of huge fresh fish. One of them wants fish, the other wants a fishing rod, and then they go their separate ways. Those who get the fish build a bonfire with dry wood and cook the fish. He wolfed it down, but he didn't taste the meat of fresh fish. In a flash, he ate all the fish and soup together. A few days later, he ate all the fish. Soon, he was starved to death by the fish basket.
Another man who got the fishing rod walked towards the sea with it. He walked for a long time hungry. When he could see the blue sea in the distance, he exhausted his last strength and couldn't walk any further. Finally, he fell down beside his fishing rod and left this world with endless regrets.
Two hungry people were also blessed by their elders: a fishing rod and a basket of fish. But they didn't go their separate ways like the previous two times, but agreed to look for the sea together. The two of them embarked on a journey with fish and fishing rods. On the way, they only cook one fish at a time. After a hard journey, they finally came to the seaside. Since then, the two began to make a living by fishing. A few years later, they built their own house, had their own family and children, had their own fishing boat, and lived a stable and happy life.
Similarly, facing the fishing rod and the full basket of fish, the four people performed differently. The first two kinds of people only care about immediate interests, and only get temporary satisfaction and long-term regret. The latter two are very thoughtful, knowing that the wisdom of life is to aim high but be based on reality, so they cooperated and played the dual roles of fishing rod and a basket of fish, and finally lived a happy life they expected.
This story tells us that cooperation is very important. A person who only cares about immediate interests will eventually get short-term happiness; One should aim high, but face the real life. Only by combining ideal with reality can you become a successful person.
Mr. Adler said: "Our biggest goal is to cooperate with similar people on the earth where we live to prolong our life."
Of course, there are preconditions for others to cooperate with you and get help from others. This condition is: you should be generous and share your achievements with others. Because only by sharing their own achievements with others can others get benefits and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. Otherwise, why should others help you unconditionally? Therefore, after success, we must know how to give back and share our achievements. After all, your grades are often achieved with the help of others.
The following story is often quoted to students by professors at Harvard University.
A state in the southern United States holds a pumpkin variety competition every year. There is a farmer who has achieved excellent results and often won the first prize and the first prize. After winning the prize, he did not hesitate to distribute the excellent seeds to his neighbors.
A neighbor was surprised and asked him, "Your prize is hard-won. You spend a lot of time and energy on variety improvement every season. Why are you so generous in giving us seeds? " Aren't you afraid that our pumpkins will surpass yours? "
The farmer replied, "I will give the seeds to everyone and help them. In fact, I am also helping myself!" " Every year when I ask you questions you don't understand, you always help me unconditionally, and even you tell me your own experience. Now that we have won the prize, we have cultivated excellent varieties. I will give it to you, so that you will be willing to help me further and I can cultivate better varieties. Isn't this helping myself? "
Yes, sharing your achievements is to help others and also to help yourself. Moreover, a person who knows how to share is often a generous person and a popular person. And a popular person, others will be willing to help him, he can make himself like a duck to water, and only in this way can he climb to the top of the pyramid.
Seneca also said, "The best way to benefit yourself is to benefit others." So if you want to have a good result and a good karma, you must pay, serve and help others. Sharing and giving back is like lighting a small candle in the dark. It can light up the darkness like sunlight, make people in the darkness get light and warmth, and at the same time make themselves get warm and bright.
If you achieve others, you can also create yourself; When you create yourself, you should also know how to share with others. When a person usually develops the habit of "not living in success" and is willing to share his achievements with others, then your achievements will become more dazzling because of sharing them with others.
Confucius said, "If you don't suffer from people's ignorance, you don't know people." It means: don't worry because others don't know your skills, but worry that you don't know that others are better than you. Knowing the skills of others is enough to motivate yourself to work harder and keep improving; After knowing the strengths of others, you should be respected as a teacher and friend or invited as a colleague.
As a famous Harvard saying goes: "If you have a happy thing and share it with others, then you will reap two happiness;" When you meet something sad, tell it to your friends, and you will only be half sad. "
A passage in Laozi's Tao Te Ching: "Those who can live a hundred years can live forever because heaven and earth are not born by themselves. It is based on the sage's body and body first, and the body is outside. Not because of its selflessness and evil! So you can settle it. " It means that heaven and earth can last for a long time because all its movements are not for themselves. Therefore, saints are humble and patient everywhere, but they can win love; I don't care about gains and losses in everything, but I benefit a lot. Isn't it because of his selflessness that he achieved himself?
This passage vividly illustrates the dialectical relationship between public and private, altruism and self-interest with the principle of self-operation and long-term harmony between heaven and earth. Learn to share your own achievements, and you will gain happiness; And hiding every day will only make you tired.
Of course, knowing how to share is not unreserved sharing, but selective sharing. The so-called selective sharing means sharing what should be shared to help others, and those confidential things should still be kept. As for what is confidential and what can be shared, it depends on personal circumstances.
In this special era, almost every family is an only child, and children often lack the opportunity to get along with their peers day and night, and naturally lack the experience of sharing and cooperating with their peers. Today's society is not an isolated society. People support each other, and no one can live without anyone. Many things need us to finish with others.
It is very important to learn unity and cooperation in our life. In school, you should learn to unite and cooperate with your classmates when doing tasks. In our daily life, we should also unite our friends and family. If you are always alone, some things will be harder to do;
Today's children have a strong sense of "self" since childhood. If this "self" consciousness is internalized, it is likely to form selfish, paranoid and other bad characters, which will become a stumbling block on their growth path. Therefore, only by cultivating children's team spirit well and improving their cooperation ability can children know from an early age that only by uniting and cooperating and knowing how to share can they get twice the result with half the effort and have a bright future.