Lao Du pondered that it is more scientific to observe people from four aspects.
Let's talk about credit first In the process of interacting with others, people who trust each other are generally positive and willing to associate with them. What is keeping promises? Lao Du's simplest understanding is keeping promises. For example, Lao Zhang found Lao Li and said that he was in a hurry and wanted to borrow 10 thousand yuan from Lao Li for turnover. 10 days later, he will definitely pay it back. Lao Li trusted Lao Zhang and happily lent him the money. On 10, Lao Zhang brought the money and returned it to Lao Li. This is Lao Zhang's promise. Next time Lao Zhang borrows money from Lao Li, Lao Li will definitely lend it to him again, because he has the credit of Lao Li. Credit is the foundation of a person's standing in society. If someone has no credit at all, it's best to stay away from him or her. In life, we often meet some people who talk nonsense and forget what they said immediately. Over time, habits are formed, just like women's habitual abortion. For example, people in China like to invite people to dinner and communicate with each other. Lao Du once met a man who said, Long time no see, I'll invite you to dinner next week. Next week passed, and the man made no movement. After that, nothing happened. It's not that you want to eat someone's food. No one will starve to death because no one invites you to eat. However, we can see whether a person is trustworthy through this detail. People who are unreliable like this can't make friends, let alone entrust them with important tasks (if you have the right to use cadres).
Moreover, this is bureaucracy. Bureaucracy, of course, is the kind of "gas" that comes after being an official. Fart people have no bureaucrats. However, fart people are not without the possibility of promotion. I'm not sure if I'm a citizen today, but I'll wear a small official hat tomorrow. A man said that he used to work in a county unit with a buddy of the same year. Usually they are too good to tell you from me. Even if there are walnuts, they will break them, half for each person. A few years later, the buddy became the deputy section chief, which was different. Once, the buddy walked in front, the buddy called him by his first name, and the buddy didn't look back. The buddy knew where the buddy was "sick" and shouted "a section chief". The buddy turned around at once, all smiles. The buddy said that since then, he has distanced himself from the buddy and directly blacked him out of the "buddy" list. As the man said, Lao Du has seen such people more than once. A buddy came down from the office to be the main leader in the county. When I saw Lao Du again, I stood there softly when shaking hands, as if the butcher had skinned the bones and talked bureaucratically, as if he was the only one who was the most revolutionary. Later, this kid became corrupt and fell off the horse. He became friends with Lao Du when he met him. Lao Du has recognized its essence and is too lazy to pay attention to him. Being an official can't change a person's nature, but it can expose a person's nature. For those bureaucratic guys, it's better to stay as far away from him as possible. Not a good person.
The third is to be organized. Whether speaking and doing things in an orderly way actually reflects the question of whether a person is confused. It is difficult for mental patients to make him speak in an organized way. It is difficult for a person with countless hearts to grasp the main contradiction and solve the problem from the key point. Do things in an orderly way, and some can enhance their skills through training the day after tomorrow. For example, the optimization method promoted during the "Cultural Revolution" is to solve the organizational problems of things. Hua once gave an example. Guests at home should make tea for their guests, starting from scratch. They should wash cups, find tea and boil water. Where do these things start first? Of course, sit in the water first, then wash the cup, and then put the tea. Because in the process of boiling water, these things can be done well without wasting time. We encounter more than just boiling water and making tea in our life. Some people always do things with a hammer in the east and a stick in the west, which makes people at a loss. If we put these people in a higher position and deal with things according to their unorganized thinking, we will certainly get twice the result with half the effort and make mistakes in our country and people. If the current inspection cadres can regard organization as an important content, then it is impossible for many people who do things out of order and disorganized to occupy an important position.
Fourth, talk less and talk big. Old people often say "don't talk big". It seems that people may still talk big occasionally. People who talk big are around everyone. What is boasting? Actually, it is boasting, that is, in the eyes of onlookers, someone can't do it, but he praises himself. For example, Gaddafi doesn't know where he has fled at present. A friend around you said that he could catch Gaddafi. This is a big talk, and you even think he is drunk. But the brother later came back with a photo of Gaddafi and said that he had captured him. Haha, that's interesting. People who brag often use what I can do and what I can do. There seems to be nothing he can't do, and there is no problem he can't solve. For this kind of big talk, you just need to smile, because you know another person and know another person through his words and deeds, so be especially careful when dealing with this person, otherwise, you will be cheated.
Lao Zeng's four methods of recognizing people can't sum up all the essentials of recognizing people, but on the whole, they still have certain reference value. It's up to you
One:
Dignity and massiness are your faces, and humility and tolerance are your faces.
It is rich to keep things in your heart, and it is rich to return them to their original owners.
Two:
Evil is looking at the eyes and nose, and true and false look at the lips. Fame depends on ambition, and career depends on spirit.
Shouyao sees the claws, and the storm sees the heels. If you want to ask about order, it's all in the language.
One of these four sentences is "Dignity is the most important". He believes that if this person is dignified and heavy, this person will be noble and have a position in society. In the past, dignity was to be an official. Now our dignity can be broadened, that is, to win people's respect in society. "Dignified and heavy", he emphasized this point very much. He wrote to his son, criticizing his son for not being heavy and walking a little lightly, but walking too fast and talking too fast. So he often says, have you been walking slowly recently? Is the pace a little heavy? Do you speak a little slowly? He will ask him with concern. He just wants his son to be a son who prefers boys to girls.
He criticized Prince Gong. At that time, Prince Gong, who was in charge of the real power of the imperial court, was the foreman of the Ministry of War, equivalent to Premier the State Council today. He is the younger brother of Emperor Xianfeng. He said that Prince Gong is very clever, and his biggest shortcoming is that he is not heavy. He is in the position of the Duke of Zhou, but because his weight is not heavy, he may not be able to shoulder this heavy responsibility. He believes that if a person wants to be noble, he must be dignified and heavy, and it is not enough to be frivolous, let alone frivolous.
The second sentence is "Humility and tolerance are precious". One should be modest and tolerant. "Humility" As we all know, what is "tolerance"? "Containment" means tolerance, and "capacity" means appearance. Is that a person's emotions should be hidden in his face. If there is something on his face, then this person can't be a very noble place, and it can't be a big official.
The third sentence is "having money in your heart means having money." Having "economic things" in your heart is liberation, and "things" are external things and physical things. China said "things", usually things outside, expressed by "things". Don't just think about yourself in your heart, you should care about people outside you, others, society and vulnerable groups. That's what we said today, you should have love and a kind heart, so that you can make a fortune. The "rich" of "rich phase" means having money and wealth.
The fourth sentence is "money is money if you get something in return." "Back" means back, and summarizing "back" and "holding" means landing. Is to have a place to work, then such people will make a fortune. If you do things without a head or a tail, or if you cast a big net when you do things, you won't get rich. These things are not innate, but can be achieved through self-cultivation. We can call it identifying people from cultivation.
Zeng Guofan's knack of knowing people is roughly as follows: "Evil is looking at the nose and eyes." He believes that a gentleman's nose is first of all positive, thick and full. The second is to look at the eyes. Eyes. eyes. He thinks yellow light, white light, green light and weak light are not good. Distraction, swimming, floating, etc. None of them are good. Bright eyes are better. I also have a good eye for positive colors. Speaking of eyes, stable eyes are the best.
Look at the mouth. Zeng Guofan believes that a good lip is thick. In Ceng Gong's diary, he said many times that "the face is straight, the mouth is crooked, but the heart is not very straight". Anyone who mentions that his lips and nose are not straight usually has a bad impression. Too thin lips are not good for Zeng Guofan.
Look at the heels Whether a person has an opinion depends on his heel. It's better to be big, thick and straight. Fame depends on gas. Whether a person can achieve fame in the future depends on whether this person is handsome or not. Qi can be understood as the overall embodiment of external performance and internal cultivation.
Career depends on spirit. Whether a person can achieve his career depends on his mental state. People who are energetic are better.
Zeng Guofan has a famous saying, "If you want to see order, you are all talking." There is also some truth. People who speak incoherently must also think incoherently. Zeng Guofan doesn't like people who talk a lot and speak fast. In fact, a very important element in China culture is that it does not advocate talking more. "Do things quickly and speak slowly."