1. Communication between parents and children
This is the most fundamental thing. Perhaps many parents and children will have a generation gap and can't figure out what their children think, but as parents, have you ever really communicated with your children? Don't oppress your child by saying that you are an old man or something. This is what children dislike most. You should communicate with your child like a friend. Respect children's parents, don't always stare at their children's weaknesses, and don't compare their children's shortcomings with other children's strengths. When in contact with children, parents should find the advantages of children as much as possible, and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.
2. Learn to really care about your children
If you really care about your children, you should be able to put yourself in the other's shoes, always pay attention to their feelings, remember their birthdays, remember the days when parents' meetings are held at school, give them corresponding encouragement if they do well in exams, and encourage them if they don't do well in exams. Never go too far and blame them. If you do something wrong, you should give him correction and guide the child correctly.
3. Don't always object to what children want to do.
Some parents always treat their children as children. If they don't let them do it, then they won't let them do it. For example, parents should not object to watching TV after finishing their homework. This is also the space that children need to relax. If you ask him not to watch it, ask him to read in his room or something. Although he reluctantly returns to his room, will he watch it carefully? It's no use at all, just let him relax, and he will naturally go back and study hard after relaxing.
4. The influence of family and the inspiration of parents
Parents should set an example. Parents' roles directly affect their children's mental health. Parents must reflect on their personal lifestyle and attitude towards life, pay attention to correcting their bad personality and provide healthy things for their children at any time. Establish a harmonious and pleasant family atmosphere.
5. Give up the right to the child, but it is definitely not laissez-faire.
If you want to go somewhere to play or eat, you might as well discuss with your children, consider their feelings and ask for their opinions. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative. However, some excessive demands of children can't be followed, otherwise he will indulge himself in arrogance in the future, which will be more difficult to educate.
6. Avoid the misunderstanding of "beating" and "cursing".
Some parents beat and scold their children as long as they are disobedient and do something wrong, and always stop them with violence. If this goes on for a long time, the child's young mind will have a shadow, and he will always be afraid of doing something wrong, but not enough to do it, resulting in a timid character.
7. Don't always put pressure on children, and give them some space.
Don't always tell him that he must be admitted to a certain university, and that he should get more or less points in every subject. Give more space to his children and make more friends.