What is the abuse of compassion? Is indiscriminate or excessive use of compassion.
Many times, we unconsciously abuse compassion.
For example, some people's suffering is their own homework. If we sympathize with them and try our best to help them solve some problems, we think we have done something good, but in fact we have deprived them of their right to self-growth. This is indiscriminate mercy.
For another example, some people are used to courtship or security. If we give them what they want, they will inevitably form a strong dependence and cannot grow up independently. This is an overuse of compassion.
From this perspective, abusing compassion and giving our love blindly is not doing good, but doing evil.
How to avoid abusing sympathy? We should open our eyes wide, see the essence of the problem through the appearance under the observation of wisdom, and then provide targeted help.
For example, if you need to finish your homework by yourself, we can only provide suggestions and not participate in specific affairs. If he doesn't listen to our advice and sticks to his guns, then we should do nothing. Hit the south wall, and he will naturally turn back.
For another example, it is useless to accompany a person who lacks love and security. It is necessary to help him return to the inside. Only when his inner love awakens and his sense of security is established can he fundamentally solve the problem. This is a long process. We need not only enough patience, but also wisdom.
Our energy is limited. We should make good use of compassion and put love where it should be used, so as to really help others.