One word can reflect who you are.

The modal particles that people often blurt out can often reflect what kind of person this is and what kind of attitude towards life, which is involuntary.

"Alas, I've been working overtime recently", "Alas, I've been criticized by my boss recently" and "Alas, things have always been difficult recently" ... These are words that we often hear and blurt out to express our dissatisfaction with the present or complain to the listener about what happened to us.

Complaining is a psychological effect of self-consolation, which is ostensibly a manifestation of releasing negative energy. In fact, it is also an input of negative energy, blaming all the problems on the outside world, deceiving people and pretending to be victims.

We often complain about unfairness. Have you ever wondered why? Overtime may be because your work efficiency is too low, and being criticized by your boss is because of your lack of work attitude. If you complain to the listener, you are the victim. In fact, the boss is the victim, and you are the perpetrator who harms others and yourself without knowing it.

If you can't find your own problems and can't change the status quo, if it's really someone else's fault, do you doubt your original choice?

I often complain that my salary is not as low as my classmates, but I have nothing to do. I complained that I wanted to find a well-paid job, and I got it, which was several times higher than before. I work 12 hours+,and I have a single holiday.

I began to complain that I worked overtime, the company was harsh, and I didn't have personal time. My friends said me impatiently. Do you want to go to heaven? High salary, no overtime, leisure, why, what qualifications do you have, like a dissatisfied housewife, really incompetent.

At that time, I just blurted it out, and I didn't think it was a complaint, nor did I think it was a talk. Come to think of it, this has actually become a habit of mine. I did encounter difficulties before and sought her sympathy, comfort and help. I gradually formed the habit of complaining as soon as I opened my mouth, but I didn't feel complaining myself, but in the eyes of the listener, you looked like a dissatisfied housewife and a victim.

The audience began to feel that your experience was much worse than their own, and expressed deep sympathy and comfort, and said some inspirational and positive words to help you. You are much better than before again and again, and all kinds of conditions are better than the audience.

Your complaint seems to him to be showing off. In the face of people who work overtime until the early hours of the morning every day, you complain to him that working overtime until 7 o'clock is very tired.

"Alas, the ideal is full, the reality is skinny and the reality is cruel." This is the speech of the weak.

When the weak encounter a little setback, they blame others, don't think about their own problems, and dare not face the setback directly. This is largely the reason why the weak are weak. Complaining to others is actually exposing your own scars. Everyone knows the story of a monkey who only shows his scars. When everyone met him, he exposed his scars, complained about his pity and got sympathy, and his companions gave him some delicious food. Over time, monkeys died of wound infection.

Constant complaining can also make you die, and you won't get any benefits. This way of dying is worse than a monkey.

"Wow, this is an opportunity, wow, this is a challenge, I want to prepare well, I want to work harder." This is the mentality of the strong.

As a strong person, every setback is a challenge to yourself and an opportunity to improve yourself. The boss is willing to point out your mistakes instead of firing you directly, which proves that you have the value and room for improvement.

My colleague who worked with me was fired before the probation period. He left immediately without handing over or staying. The boss thinks he has no training value and doesn't even want to remind him of what he did wrong.

As the person who came in with him, I made more mistakes than him and was scolded more times, which also reminded me to correct my problems in time. I should leave work later than them, watch more, learn more and ask more questions, and sometimes I was scolded badly for asking retarded questions, so I passed the probation period with trepidation.