Don't depend on others for everything. In this world, the person you can rely on most is yourself. In most cases, the only person who can save you is yourself.

How can you not be angry when you are alive and robbed by the mill? The key is how to get angry, how to deal with it, how to turn anger into strength and so on. You have to understand that success is your own creation.

The little snail asked his mother: Why do we have to bear this hard and heavy shell when we are born? Mom: Because our bodies have no bones to support, we can only climb, but we can't climb fast. So we need the protection of this shell! Snail: Sister Caterpillar has no bones and can't climb fast. Why doesn't she have to carry this hard and heavy shell? Mom: Because sister caterpillar can become a butterfly, the sky will protect her. Snail: but brother earthworm can't climb fast without bones, and he won't become a butterfly. Why doesn't he carry this hard and heavy shell? Mom: Because Brother Earthworm can drill soil, the earth will protect him. The little snail began to cry: "We are so poor, the sky is not protected, and the land is not protected." Mother snail comforted him: "So we have shells!" " We don't rely on the sky, we don't rely on the ground, we rely on ourselves. "

The same is true of being a man. If you want to succeed in any career, you must rely on your unremitting efforts. If you pin your hopes on others, you may never taste the sweetness of success.

There is a Buddhist story:

In the spring. Little novice monk asked the old abbot, "How to enter Zen? Where do I start? " The old abbot was silent, but buried a seed of cordate telosma in the soil in front of the meditation room.

In early summer, the young monk asked the old abbot, "I study hard every day, but why haven't I made any progress?" The old abbot pointed to the cordate telosma outside the door-the seeds had broken out of the ground and sprouted green buds.

In midsummer, the little novice monk asked the old abbot, "How can I be quiet and concentrate under the scorching sun and mosquitoes?"

Without saying a word, the old abbot pointed to the cordate telosma outside the door-under the scorching sun and in the dust, the cordate telosma hung down its branches and withered its buds, quietly facing the reality and quietly preserving its vitality.

Soon, the summer passed, and the little novice monk was disheartened and lost confidence in Buddhism, thinking that he would never be enlightened again. He is going to see the old abbot again, and if he is not enlightened, he will go down the mountain and return to the secular world. That night, he came to the old abbot's meditation room with heavy steps and said in great dismay, "I was so stupid that I failed Master's cultivation and those scriptures. I haven't realized any meditation for so long. Please ask the abbot for mercy. " If I don't make progress, I will go down the mountain ... "The old abbot looked at the little novice monk with concern and said calmly," You can come to me for advice many times, which shows that you have a heart. I think you have made a lot of progress and are quite knowledgeable. Besides, no matter what happens, you can't count on others, you have to rely on yourself. ""how to rely on yourself? " Little novice monk said to himself blankly. The old abbot turned on the light outside the door and led the little novice monk out of the door, heading for the already flourishing cordate telosma. Little novice monk was obviously surprised and blurted out, "How beautiful! Why do they all bloom at night? And there are already black seeds on the branches below! ""No one has ever asked about it since sowing in spring. It grows in the cycle of the sun and the moon, ups and downs, and blooms in obscurity at night ... "Little novice monk smiled thoughtfully and said to the old abbot," I see! Meditation and learning must rely on their own efforts to succeed! "

This is true not only for studying through meditation, but also for doing anything else. We must rely on our own efforts. The so-called "master leads the door, practice in the individual" is the truth. Don't worry about the outside world, don't seek rules from the outside world, and succeed on your own. This is the eternal meaning of life.

Emerson, the father of American civilization, famously said, "Success depends on yourself", which influenced every generation of Americans. Under the influence of typical American personal heroism, the people of a colonial country that was originally independent from British rule quickly built this country into a superpower in the world today. Entrepreneur jim clark also gave advice to young people: Don't rely on others for everything. In this world, the person you can rely on most is yourself. In most cases, the only person who can save you is yourself.

Once, a one-armed beggar came to a family and asked him for money. However, the hostess did not give money immediately, but asked the man to move a pile of bricks in front of the house to the back. One-armed man is very angry. I don't think you are embarrassed. The hostess saw his mind, so she picked up a few bricks in one hand and walked quickly to the back of the house, saying, "Isn't one hand the same?" The beggar was speechless. So he began to move bricks. 10 minute, 20 minutes, half an hour, 1 hour ... Time goes by. Finally, a few hours later, he finally moved out. The woman immediately handed him a towel, and in an instant, the towel turned black. The hostess gave him another 20 yuan, and he said excitedly, "Thank you!" " "The hostess just smiled and said," Nothing, you earned it yourself. " He was immediately moved to tears.

Ten years later, the one-armed man became the president of the largest group in this city.

If a one-armed man can do it, why can't we? Careful observation shows that success comes from those who have a sense of success, and failure comes from those who unconsciously let themselves fail. If you think about success, you can succeed; If you want to fail, you will fail, that is, people's consciousness and subconscious mind are at work.

In the course of life, people's happy life depends largely on their own efforts-on their diligence, self-cultivation, self-discipline and self-control.

Sanov was born into a Jewish family. At the age of 9, he moved to America with his parents. Because of his poor family, he has no chance to study. When I was in primary school, I also had to work in my spare time and holidays to earn some money to supplement my family. When he was about to graduate from primary school, his father died prematurely because of overwork, so he had to drop out of school and work as a child laborer in society.

He didn't complain that his parents had brought him such a life situation. Instead, he worked hard to provide his family with a little money he earned and save a few cents to buy books for self-study.

After many twists and turns, I finally found a job delivering telegrams in the post office. From then on, he vowed to master the telegraph technology and become the boss of the telegraph industry in the future. From today's perspective, the telegraph is out of date, but at the beginning of the 20th century, it was an advanced technology that just came out! Sanov not only has foresight, but also has the determination and perseverance to climb this peak.

He persisted in his efforts for more than 65,438+00 years, saving his salary to the maximum extent. He worked hard during the day and went to electrician night school at night, which won the appreciation of his boss and gradually got promoted.

192 1 year, his boss established "American radio company" for business development, and Sanov was appointed as the general manager. By this time, he is in his early forties and can show his talents. Finally, he finally became a giant in the American radio industry and embarked on a prosperous track.

As the saying goes, "it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others." Open the door of your wisdom, with your dexterous hands, let's work together to create success!

—— Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, Anger is Better than Disappointment.