Why is it so painful to love someone? The more you care about what you like, the more fragile you are. You are the same, but there is a difference between wisdom and no wisdom, and the result is different. People live for themselves, and themselves are the most important. If they lose their wisdom and bring unnecessary sadness and pain, why bother? In fact, the answer is very simple, with heart and wisdom. "What you know is happiness, and happiness is not why." "Don't understand is trouble, sadness and pain. Why? Why "? Little sister has no ability to answer your questions from different angles. What you're asking is "if" helps you solve it, but it won't help you much. It will happen again in the future. I'll give you the reason. With direction, you won't lose your way and make the same mistake. We must find the direction of this question before we can answer it correctly. Just like we are psychologists and old Chinese medicine practitioners, we can't know the patient's condition and can't prescribe drugs. First of all, I want to know whether "irony is what you want" or "truth" is hard to hear. Please forgive me if the following reply is not satisfactory or offensive. My little sister doesn't seek success or failure. She just wants to take this opportunity to let you know more about other things that may be helpful to you, find a direction and shorten some hardships. Ignorance will hurt you forever, so teaching and scolding are two sides of an organic whole. Please be considerate of Miss Sister's painstaking efforts, and please be prepared! There is an old saying that it is happy to love a very painful person and be loved at the same time. I will choose the person who loves me first, at least not "lovelorn" and "inner pain" Being loved will be happier and sweeter. Tell him to run east, but he dare not run west. Even if you do something wrong and lose your temper, he will tolerate you. Any vigorous love must be based on facts and reality, so as not to deteriorate. Without the support of facts and reality, love is just a spring dream. There is a famous saying since ancient times: "Love and hate since ancient times" butterfly lovers, a legendary story, finally failed to reach the reality of Ma Wencai, tearing a couple into eternal regret. The so-called "couples who have no money are always sad." Nowadays, in fact, in real life, "money is not everything, and nothing can be done without money." Without love, everything is empty talk, which will only increase the pain. Love cannot be all water. It's not enough to talk in your sleep when you have time. You will have this question, which shows that you are very unhappy in some way, and you have not given me a direction to answer you, so I can only guess and give examples. There was a man who loved a woman deeply, betrayed his parents, career and life. It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to. After three years together, the woman abandoned the man. Men are suddenly unacceptable, heartbroken, helpless, miserable and want to die. Later, he met a female doctor friend, and his new friend told him: If your girlfriend waits for you, her career will collapse, and you will spend all your money until you have nothing. So your girlfriend still loves you, leaving you some opportunities to regret it. The man changed his mind and talked with his new girlfriend for a long time. Now they are a loving couple. Smart, virtuous, gentle and considerate, hundreds of times more than the previous girlfriend, the previous sadness and heartbreak have become redundant. Now everyone says thank you to his girlfriend who broke his heart, so that he can have a better choice in the future. Childishness and ignorance account for only a small part of the growth process of life. It is not so easy for others to hurt us, and it is unforgivable to hurt ourselves. Think about it more. In fact, you are smarter than me and wiser than me. There is a saying that a wise man should not only use his own wisdom, but also use the wisdom of others. Find it yourself. You can simply post a few words online, and then you cut off half my head and write a few more words. Then you have all the experience of my little head! Finally, your "quiet wisdom is stupid" is too harmful. But don't tell me that I fainted! People are aware of the past, as soon as you say it. If you follow the previous method and use wisdom and initiative, are you still afraid that you will not live the life you want or the life others want? Still unhappy? What are the pains and troubles there? . . What is there to worry about? Conclusion: Be careful that your biggest enemy is yourself. Don't be hurt by laziness in your head, laziness will kill your hands and feet and make you tired all your life. This is not an article, this is experience, I did it, it's up to you. Come on! Come on! Both failure and success are in your mind. Destiny and opportunity should be in our own hands. Don't go the wrong way. Remember: act, not just talk, come on! Come on! 2008 is a year of hope, and everyone encourages each other. Someone asked me online, are you a psychiatrist and an old Chinese doctor? Hee hee ~ ~ ~ as a physical object.