I often watch cartoons with my 6-year-old daughter. When I look at them, my daughter often asks me, Dad, who do you think is the good guy and who is the bad guy? I was speechless for a moment. In the adult world, people have multiple dimensions. Even people who are occasionally understood as bad people do things out of original intention. It's hard to say whether they are really bad. Besides, there is no exact definition of good and bad.

But in the world of children, the understanding of good and bad is too complicated. In Han Han's words, "children only talk about right and wrong, adults only talk about pros and cons."

Ren Zheng Fei's explanation of gray scale

"An important quality of a leader is a sense of direction and rhythm. The real level of a leader is that he can grasp a kind of gray scale, reasonably grasp the appropriate gray scale, and make various factors affecting development harmonious and consistent within a period of time. This harmonious process is called compromise, and this harmonious result is called gray scale. "

Ren said that the process of harmony is called compromise, and the ceremony is called security, courtesy, kindness and order. Lenovo is mutual cooperation, which is called compromise. Compromise is the English of compromise, and commitment is the English of commitment. Composed of come and promise, the original meaning is * * * about.

All music is a combination of different notes, and they make the same promise. Different people in a company make the same promise, and the result of this promise is harmony, that is, compromise, that is, gray scale. The final color does not belong to you or me, but to you, me, him and many others.

There is a very important point in the book "The Fifth Discipline". People can only feel what they want to feel and hear what they want to hear.

This is a bit contrary to our common sense, because we often hear a lot of things we don't want to hear and see a lot of things we don't want to see. However, due to a habitual resistance to things and words that we don't want to hear, a filtering mechanism will gradually form in your thinking and feelings. Even if it cannot be completely filtered out, most, even key factors will be filtered out.

Two elements of leadership

First, feel the elements.

If you are in a high position, you will find that this filtering mechanism is quietly formed around you. The higher the power, the more you want to keep yourself right, and you will unconsciously suffer from a disease called selective deafness. At the same time, people around you know your preferences, so they will filter out a lot of information you don't want to hear in advance, so you will unconsciously live in a world of deception and self-deception.

The second step is to achieve harmony among various elements.

Harmony is a kneading process. According to the ancients, we should pay attention to the golden mean. In our daily work, from the perspective of employees, from bottom to top, don't question the leader's plan, because no plan is perfect. Things are often made because everyone is United in one place and constantly improves and corrects in the process of implementation.

There is no such thing as a right plan. We just worked very hard to make the original plan look right. From the perspective of leaders, from top to bottom, the best plan is not the most correct plan, but the one that can be accepted and implemented by everyone. What leaders need to do is to make people believe and accept your point of view. Ma Yun once said: If you want to believe that people are blind, then this thing will be successful, because it will be particularly executive. So Ma Yun's own practice is to repeat one thing until everyone believes it. Whether top-down or bottom-up, it is a process of achieving harmony.

Conclusion:

When I think of gray scale, I think that educator William Perry studied the changing process of college students' world outlook in cognitive development, which was later simplified into three stages.

The first stage: black and white dualism: everything in the world is black and white, and people are either enemies or friends. The so-called non-race, its heart will be different.

The second stage: relativism? With the growth of my mind, I began to see different dimensions of things, and understood that everything has two sides, and everything has a "degree" consideration. In the mental model, I added the concept of gray.

The third stage: commitment: with the further maturity of the mind, it is rational to think that the understanding of anything is a process of getting closer to the truth. The conclusion drawn through independent thinking is not only responsible for the conclusion, but also willing to change the existing conclusion when new evidence is added, thus achieving a real gray feeling. Gray scale is not to recognize death, but to understand things dynamically with an open mind.

The so-called gray scale is to crawl forward with the maturity of human mind, which is a bit like climbing a mountain. The higher you go, the wider your horizons will be, but before reaching the third stage, the greater the test you will face. The ultimate state is a famous saying: the test of first-class intelligence is whether you can have two opposite thoughts in your mind at the same time and maintain your ability to act normally.