1, the concept of love

Love is the heartfelt mutual admiration between men and women, and the desire to become lifelong partners with each other. Sexual attraction is the natural premise of love. But there is a qualitative difference between love and sexual desire. Love is a social emotion of human beings, and pure sexual desire is only an animal instinct.

Modern sex is essentially different from ancient love;

First, based on mutual love, women and men are on an equal footing; However, in ancient times, love did not necessarily require women's consent.

Second, love often reaches a strong and lasting level. If we can't combine and separate from each other, it will be unacceptable misfortune for both sides.

The characteristics of love are as follows:

① Equivalence. On the premise of loving each other, the two sides are congenial and give to each other.

② Specificity and exclusiveness. Love is a love relationship between a man and a woman, which is exclusive because no third party is allowed to intervene.

3 insist. Love is a lasting emotional life, which requires both parties to be faithful and stand the test of all kinds of hardships on the road of life.

The attitude towards love reflects a person's mental outlook and moral quality.

A moral and cultured person should establish a correct view of love;

Career is higher than love. Love without a career is empty. Career and love are not contradictory, but can complement each other appropriately. Love is just a part of life, not the purpose of life. The noblest and most important thing in life is career. Therefore, we must insist that career is higher than love, and consciously make love subordinate to career. The persistent pursuit of career will also promote love.

(2) Respect each other's right of voluntary choice. In the process from falling in love to getting married and starting a family, both men and women must respect each other's right of voluntary choice in order to get to know each other in an ethical way. Any means of coercion, threat or deception is immoral.

3 Loyalty and single-mindedness. This is the most important principle of love life. Both parties in love should be loyal to each other, keep each other and never change their minds.

④ Responsibility and self-esteem. In the process of love, we should express each other's good feelings in a moral way and control our behavior rationally. During the period of love, both parties should keep chastity, respect themselves and respect each other.

2. Sexual moral standards

The principle of mutual voluntariness. Voluntary is based on the premise of not violating social morality.

The principle of no harm. Don't hurt yourself, don't hurt each other, don't hurt future generations, and don't cause mental pollution.

The principle of love. Physical feelings and psychological feelings are organically integrated.

The principle of marriage contract. There is a famous saying in the Bible that "sexual intercourse is moral only in a married bed".

Principles of scientific family planning.

The principle of sexual taboo. Some genetic diseases and family ethics have sexual taboos.

In addition to legal means, the most important means to restrain morality is to rely on traditional virtue education, including: sense of shame, sense of obligation, sense of responsibility, sense of conscience, sense of public morality and sense of chastity.

Under the moral constraints, the pursuit of high-level human needs for sex and love will be a beautiful poem, a charming painting, an intoxicating song, and a cup of sweet dew, which will be a beautiful time on the journey of life.

The sum total of social norms for human beings to adjust their sexual behavior. In order to maintain the stability of social order and ensure the normal progress of social life, it is necessary to use this norm to restrain people's sexual behavior.

As a moral phenomenon, sexual morality is not only manifested in certain ideas, emotions and thoughts, but also in specific behaviors and various activities.

Therefore, the content of sexual morality can usually be summarized as: one core-sexual morality, three types of sexual morality-love view, chastity view and fertility view, three kinds of sexual moral relations-premarital sexual relations, marital sexual relations and extramarital sexual relations, and one external condition-sexual environment morality.

3. The concept of chastity

Refers to the loyalty of men and women to love. It is a historical product of human survival and development, and it is also a virtue that both men and women need. The modern concept of chastity does not oppose the remarriage or remarriage of lovers after their death, nor does it think it is disloyalty to previous love. On the contrary, it should be protected by national laws.

The concept of chastity should include two aspects:

(1) The conclusion of marriage must be based on love, and it is confirmed that they have the same life ideals and hobbies, and have the personality characteristics of living together; Confirming that you can consciously assume the corresponding obligations and responsibilities after marriage can bring spiritual happiness and happiness in life to both parties. Both sides consciously maintain that the marriage based on this foundation is chaste and moral.

If you lack the foundation of love, but only combine it based on money, status and beauty, it is not chastity and lacks vitality. Only a combination based on love has the power of physical proximity.

Chastity is equivalent and should stand the test of time. The modern concept of chastity has ended the one-sided constraint on women in ancient times and has become an equal requirement for both men and women. They should treat gender relations with a correct outlook on life, cherish and maintain their chastity, and advocate the seriousness of gender relations and loyalty to love.

Marriage is the basis of mutual respect and care, mutual understanding and accommodation, mutual understanding and keeping a happy marriage. The concept of chastity is of great significance for maintaining family happiness, cultivating children, purifying social atmosphere, maintaining social stability and building a healthy and civilized society.

4. The concept of fertility

Refers to the general concept of human reproduction and rearing.

The concept of fertility, on the one hand, reflects the economic foundation, on the other hand, shows that human production is a part of social production and is of great significance to social development. Contemporary China's concept of bearing requires the unity of bearing rights and obligations, and the unity of bearing will and responsibility to society and future generations.

Specifically including:

Starting from the overall interests of the society, we should establish the moral concept of "bearing for the public", and require the bearing people to take the interests and requirements of the society as the driving force of bearing, and avoid taking bearing as a means to achieve personal or family goals. The moral concept of "born for the masses" reflects the socialist nature of China society.

Population reproduction under socialist conditions, in terms of form, fertility activities are carried out within each family; From the content point of view, the child born is by no means a personal private property, but a big issue related to the national economy and people's livelihood. Individual fertility should proceed from the needs of the country and obey the interests of the country.

The purpose, motivation and result of childbearing embody the moral concept of "bearing for the public".

② Family planning and prenatal and postnatal care are the behavioral norms of reproductive morality. Family planning and prenatal and postnatal care are the basic national policies of China, aiming at controlling the population, improving the quality of the population and adapting the population development to the production of material resources. Family planning is to control the time and density of birth by scientific methods, so as to achieve planned birth.

The specific contents include: advocating and encouraging late marriage and birth control; A couple is required to have only one child. Prenatal care is to take artificial measures to make the born children have excellent genetic quality, and at the same time carry out scientific parenting to improve the quality of the population. The ethics of family planning and prenatal and postnatal care put forward corresponding requirements for husband and wife's sexual life:

First of all, people are required to accept the moral concept and behavior of contraception; Secondly, in order to achieve the goal of prenatal and postnatal care, husband and wife should have a civilized, scientific and harmonious sex life.

③ Persisting in late marriage and late childbearing is an important content of contemporary reproductive morality in China. Medical research shows that the physical maturity of young people is generally between 23 and 25 years old. If you get married and have children too early, because your physical development is not yet mature, it will not only affect your physical development and health, but also affect the healthy growth of the next generation.

Early marriage and childbearing in rural areas, "early birth of your son, early birth of your son" is a feudal concept of fertility morality. Scientifically speaking, it is necessary to realize that early marriage and childbearing are not only harmful to physical development and health, but also harmful to the healthy birth of future generations, and will also lead to an excessive population growth, which will affect the modernization process of the country, which is not allowed by contemporary China's reproductive ethics.

Extended data:

trait

diversification

Different social cultures, different nationalities and different regions may have different moral evaluations. Therefore, sexual morality shows his diversity.

Sexual culture in human history can be divided into three categories: anti-sexual culture, pro-sexual culture and intermediate culture. Anti-sex culture regards sexual behavior as evil, pro-sex culture condones sexual behavior, encourages affair, and middle culture selectively prevents unhealthy behavior.

consistency

Most groups of human beings limit human sexual behavior to the scope of marriage, and marriage has the same sex among all human beings. Obviously, this is not only conducive to the continuation of the race, but also conducive to the inheritance of property.

right of succession

In the process of evolution, human beings have always maintained a style that is conducive to their own development and passed down from generation to generation. The moral inheritance of sex is the inheritance of this nature. With the development of the times, taking the interests of human development as the frame of reference, we decide which customs and behaviors should be preserved and which behaviors should be eliminated.

cheat

Disengagement between ideal expectation and actual behavior: idealized control and expectation of sexual behavior, putting forward sexual behavior standards beneficial to society and people, and telling people how to do it. In reality, people's behavior is not always like that. People have their own frame of reference, and the reference point is how to facilitate themselves.

Whether in the old culture or the mainstream culture, or even in modern society, the evaluation of sexual morality is not consistent between men and women.

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