Some women shed tears all their lives, and every page has bitterness and tears; Some women are like eating sugar cane from the roots, and the more they chew, the less light they are. But there are still some women who live like the goddess of victory all their lives, and happiness clings to her like candy.
As women, why are their fates so different? It makes people feel good!
Lin Huiyin belongs to the kind of lucky woman who can stand on the peak of happiness and overlook the world!
Jin Yuelin praised Lin Huiyin with a phrase "What words do you want to praise?", which means that if you want to praise Lin Huiyin, any beautiful words are pale and powerless.
With outstanding talent, outstanding appearance, perfect love and happy marriage, Lin Huiyin has almost broken all the impossibilities in this world. She has lived a woman's life perfectly under the care of a group of extremely outstanding men.
Many people regard her as a role model for women, and there is even such a comment on the Internet that "an era without Lin Huiyin is a sad one for both men and women".
However, there are still different "voices". According to textual research, Bing Xin once talked about Lin Huiyin in her eyes in her novel Our Wife's Living Room, in which "Our wife" is a woman who is surrounded by men, likes to show off and is calculating.
Later generations ponder this literary allusion from different angles, either thinking that a talented woman is jealous of another more perfect talented woman, or simply thinking that Bing Xin's comments are not about Lin Huiyin, but about Lu Xiaoman.
after reading this article, I can only amaze myself. Bing Xin is Bing Xin, with keen eyes and penetrating feelings. What Bing Xin saw was just another side of Lin Huiyin who was not known by outsiders.
However, I deeply admire Lin Huiyin, and feel that there are many places for us women to ponder and learn about her life and emotional choices.
A woman who is as delicate as a flower knows exactly what she wants and firmly controls her emotional course. In the end, her ending is different from that of other talented women of her contemporaries. Instead of tears, she gains a "double harvest" of career and emotion.
Some people say that the charm of Lin Huiyin lies in her extraordinary intelligence and learning. However, after reading her works, we will understand what is meant by the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
She lived in an era when talented women came forth in large numbers. Those outstanding female writers of her time, such as Bing Xin, Xiao Hong, Zhang Ailing, Lu Yin and Shi Pingmei, can only be regarded as amateurs. And her achievements in architecture are only accompanied by her husband Liang Sicheng.
However, just because these works are written by a beautiful woman who has been given a fantastic legend, the world takes it for granted that they are tolerant and give her high praise.
Beauty is flattering at any time. With a little talent and hard work, they can stand out immediately. It feels like embroidered large groups of exquisite peony flowers on a gorgeous brocade, and the dazzling degree can erase all doubts about the level of talent. In fact, this phenomenon is also very easy to explain. After all, the base material of embroidery is brocade, not ordinary chemical fiber and cotton and linen!
Apart from the poem April Day on Earth, Lin Huiyin has no works that can be remembered by the world now, but as a woman, she will never be forgotten by the world. She let the women in the world see that not every woman as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade can't escape the word "beauty is unlucky"?
People's evaluation of women is often like this: a woman's talent and achievements must be based on the happiness of her family, otherwise it will be like this woman holding a sharp knife, which, though invincible, makes her life swish with cold light.
The road to love is bumpy. Even if she has made great achievements, this woman's happiness is just a handful of snow in the cold winter, which can't stand the scrutiny of the world and will be dried in the warm sun.
how can Lin Huiyin escape the misfortune? After reading her biography and thinking repeatedly, I suddenly realized a truth: a person's happiness or misfortune depends to a great extent on whether she (or he) can make rational choices at key nodes in life, and Lin Huiyin is a "winner" in love all her life precisely because of her self and rationality in her personality and her control over her emotions.
men who fall in love with her are more or less sad. Xu zhimo was heroic and died in the sky; Jin Yuelin is a little beautiful and watches all his life; Although Liang Sicheng achieved positive results, it was bought with the amazing tolerance and patience of the world.
Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo's ex-wife, once commented on Lin Huiyin with a slightly playful tone. "Xu Zhimo's girlfriend is a lady with more complicated thoughts, more beautiful appearance and completely free feet."
It is said that Zhang Youyi never hated Lu Xiaoman who replaced her as Mrs. Xu Zhimo, but she was not sure about Lin Huiyin all her life, because she loved Xu Zhimo deeply and thought that Lin Huiyin "encouraged" Xu Zhimo to get divorced, but instead of keeping her promise to marry Xu Zhimo, she quietly went back to China with her father.
Lin Huiyin met Xu Zhimo at the age of 16. At the age of 16, what a simple and impulsive flower age it should be, but Lin Huiyin, who was still a "child" at that time, was able to resolutely let go of her fiery first love, making the romantic poet who abandoned her family and children in full swing a "fever".
Many years later, Lin Huiyin talked about why he gave up Xu Zhimo. "Xu Zhimo didn't really love me at that time, but he imagined Lin Huiyin with the poet's romantic feelings, but I was not the person he thought."
What kind of sobriety and wisdom this is, and this sobriety and wisdom comes from a 16-year-old girl, which makes people feel a little timid.
Lu Xiaoman, who dares to love and hate, lacks the wisdom of Lin Huiyin. Like a moth, she has set foot on the road of love that Lin Huiyin has seen at a glance, and fell in love with Xu Zhimo, who lives in the illusion of love and completely doesn't understand real life. As a result, she has paid a bumpy life.
Lu Xiaoman's mother once commented very pertinently, "It is said that Xiaoman harmed Zhimo, but in fact Zhimo also harmed Xiaoman, and the two are mutually causal."
since she gave up, let's give up completely, but Lin Huiyin treated the man who fell in love with her very "self" all her life.
There is an anecdote in the biography. She accompanied her fiance Liang Sicheng to study in the United States. One day, Xu Zhimo suddenly received a telegram from her saying that I was lonely in the United States and hoped to send a long telegram to comfort me. So Xu Zhimo spent a night writing and sent a telegram early the next morning. When he arrived at the post office, he found that four friends had sent a telegram to this beautiful Lin.
I don't know if this "ambiguity" has harmed Xu Zhimo. His affection for Lin Huiyin has become an untouchable weakness in his marriage with Lu Xiaoman. Xu Zhimo's death was also due to the fact that he rushed to listen to a report made by Lin Huiyin on a plane carrying mail regardless of safety, and the plane crashed and died.
In his later years, Zhang Youyi mentioned something unknown to the world with his granddaughter and niece. In 1947, Lin Huiyin asked Zhang Youyi to meet her through a friend. At that time, Lin Huiyin was considered dying because of tuberculosis.
When they met, Lin Huiyin was too weak to speak, just looking at Zhang Youyi and her children, and Zhang Youyi said afterwards, "I was probably ugly and sullen ...".
The dust of the years has gradually dispersed. According to this fragmented text, I suddenly feel desolate when I think about the situation at that time. A woman with apologies can't get rid of her inner guilt after all.
when you are young, you are not crazy about love. In middle age, you can be puzzled by love. How many people in this world can do it?
It is said that Lin Huiyin had an emotional affair in middle age. What was the extent of this affair? Because all the parties avoided talking about it, it became a "case-solving" that made future generations speculate and puzzled.
things in the world are often like this: if you don't know the inside story, you can let the world think with your own imagination.
With malicious imagination, Wu Meiniang became a terrible woman who killed her parents and seized the throne; Well-intentioned imagination, Lin Huiyin's "derailment" has become the embodiment of the noble sentiments of the parties.
According to the recollection relayed by Ms. Lin Zhu, the second wife of Liang Sicheng, Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng lived in Zongbu Hutong after their marriage, and the philosopher Jin Yuelin lived in the backyard, and walked very frequently on weekdays. Once Liang Sicheng came back from other places, Lin Huiyin told Liang Sicheng that she was very upset because she fell in love with two people at the same time and didn't know what to do.
Liang Sicheng was shocked and miserable. He wanted to tell Lin Huiyin all night: You are free. If you choose Laojin, I wish you happiness. Lin Huiyin told this to Jin Yuelin, who replied: Sicheng really loves you. I can't hurt someone who really loves you. I should quit.
As a result, Jin Yuelin never married, and lived in the forest all his life. Every afternoon, report for Lin Huiyin's salon party on time. Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng have a dispute, and he will speak to mediate.
many years after Lin Huiyin's death, one day, Jin Yuelin suddenly invited many friends to dinner, and everyone rushed to ask the reason for the dinner. He said: Today is Huiyin's birthday. I feel sorry for raising my seat.
Was it really Liang Sicheng and Jin Yuelin, two big men, who put an end to this "extramarital affair"? If you think about it carefully, it may not be. Perhaps it was the little woman Lin Huiyin who made her own decision.
I think it's easy to explain. Jin Yuelin, who studies logic, is really a good communicator, but can he really be a good husband?
It is said that Jin Yuelin is an eccentric, and he often does something stupid. I also have a cockfight. Every day when he eats, the cockfight stands by and cranes his neck to grab the food on the table. Who can imagine that Lin Huiyin, who made everyone from a good family, also ate with cockfighting?
It is said that a good woman won't let a man who loves her suffer from hopelessness, while Lin Huiyin has been surrounded by a group of men who love her all her life.
She got romantic passion from Xu Zhimo, spiritual comfort from Jin Yuelin, and lifelong companionship from Liang Sicheng.
Even Jin Yuelin thinks that there is no one more suitable for Lin Huiyin than Liang Sicheng. They belong to a "match made in heaven". Liang Sicheng, with a unique tutor, steady and restrained bearing, and extraordinary talent, loves architecture as much as Lin Huiyin, and they are like-minded. In today's words, he is a standard "lover comrade".
More importantly, Liang Sicheng loves Lin Huiyin deeply and embraces her with all his heart. Lin Huiyin has a strong personality and tuberculosis, but Liang Sicheng is gentle and patient with her, so relatives nicknamed Liang Sicheng "Chimney".
Liang Sicheng had this conversation with his later wife, Lin Zhu, saying that it is not easy to be Lin Huiyin's husband, and sometimes he is a little tired.
Think about it, too. As a husband, he has to face a "rival in love" and live near his home all his life, waiting for him at any time. When the husband and wife quarrel, he will be analyzed and persuaded by this outsider. Faced with a marriage crisis anytime and anywhere, how can you be proud and yell at your wife!
Every woman wants to be happy, so a woman with this "ambition" should take a look at Lin Huiyin's biography, and then chew on her life's emotional attitude, and figure out an ugly son, which will certainly be understood and gained.
Women are always read by men as books. There is a saying that "a good woman is a school". Lin Huiyin also regards men as "schools", treats his emotions calmly and rationally, constantly learns from them and draws closer to them in spiritual realm and academic level.
She deepened her literary accomplishment from Xu Zhimo, and gained philosophical edification from Jin Yuelin, so that her thinking has both the rationality of a philosopher and the spirituality of an artist. She rationally chose Liang Sicheng as her husband, because she knew that Liang Sicheng's mind and love can give her a stable "house", and her same interests and pursuits can accompany her all the way and achieve the same ideal together.
Looking around us, how many people have thought rationally when choosing their partners?
In the face of love, most women are like a "bird" who plunges into love without glancing at whether the environment is dangerous or not, leaving their marriage to fate and the child "Cupid" who shoots and shoots with an arrow, and think this behavior is noble. Because, how can you not disarm in front of love? However, I completely ignore whether the person who disarms for it is worth it, and whether the life I choose in the future is really what I want. So, I was lucky to hit the Universiade, and my unfortunate life was turbulent.
In my heart, I like Jiang Biwei's frankness in treating emotions and respect Zhang Youyi's tolerance in treating injuries, but I have to admire Lin Huiyin: she lives independently of men's emotions, persists in her ideals and struggles, and shines with these men, finally showing her beauty and talent.
Her characteristics may be more suitable as a template for modern women's emotional, career and life autonomy.