What is friendship?

It seems to be FRIENDSHIP in English.

I think FRIENDSHIP can be understood as "crossing in the same boat" in Chinese. Because the real purpose of being on a boat is not just to enjoy the scenery on both sides of the Taiwan Strait, there is always a time to go ashore. Now that we are ashore, everyone has their own goals and must have gone their separate ways.

So, Westerners say: A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED!

So, "There is no eternal friendship, only eternal interests." became the famous saying of former British Prime Minister Churchill.

We Easterners don’t think so. Our ancestors said that when communicating with friends, we should pay more attention to "righteousness" than "profit". Therefore, there is a saying that "a gentleman is compared to righteousness, and a villain is compared to benefit." And he left an immortal poem: "Life is so precious that we know each other, so why bother with money?"

As a result, there are some more names for "friends", such as friendship, friendship, friend in times of adversity, friend in adversity, friend by cutting off one's neck, and so on. ?

But in real life, I was surprised to find that real friends are actually fair-weather friends.

In modern society, all social situations, almost without exception, rely on wine to play the leading role, whether it is red wine, white wine, national wine, foreign wine, real wine, or fake wine, as long as one end of the wine glass, Everything is easy to say and everything is easy to handle. So, you bring a glass of wine, I bring a glass of wine, and we "cheers" together, we become "buddies and brothers."

In ancient China, although there was wine, it was mostly yellow rice wine, turbid wine, rice wine, etc., so people seemed to pay more attention to eating meat. Even Master Confucius paid his tuition with a bunch of meat (meat). It is calculated by drying), so you take a piece of meat, I take a piece of meat, and we "dry the meat" together, there is friendship. Such people are, of course, friends. As long as you have a little common sense about Chinese hieroglyphs, you will naturally understand why "friend" has such two words.

Up to now, although I no longer have too many extravagant expectations for friends, and I have learned to achieve the state of "having one confidant in life is enough", if I use the standard of friendship to measure it, I actually Not even a real "friend".

Friendship, I believe everyone has had it and lost it before. The reason for the loss is very simple.

Simple, that is, they do not understand the true meaning of friendship. What exactly is friendship? Friendship is a friendship established between people who get along with each other for a long time. It is established on the basis of mutual trust in communication.

We all have friends. In fact, you can choose who you want to be friends with. It depends on whether his personality is compatible with yours. Do you feel harmonious with him? ? Because to establish friendship, one must be whole-hearted and cannot be "fishing for three days and drying the net for two days" without sincerity.

People often use the word "inseparable" to describe the relationship between good friends, which is really appropriate. However,

it is inevitable that there will be some friction or contradiction between good friends. As long as both parties understand,

tolerance and forgive each other, the small unpleasantness will disappear and the friendship between them will disappear. It will also be deeper

thicker.

Lu Xun and Qu Qiubai, under the white terror of the 1930s, forged a noble and touching friendship. After the two had an in-depth conversation, they were both deeply attracted by each other's noble personality and profound knowledge, and soon became like-minded friends. At that time, Qu Qiubai went to Lu Xun's home several times to live as a refuge. During the days when *** lived together, they commented on articles and exchanged knowledge

which reflected their sincere friendship.

True friendship does not contain jealousy. When a friend achieves something,

You should learn to appreciate his success. Because jealousy will not only hurt your friends, but also make you lose your friends. When your friends need help, you should do your best to help them eliminate their worries and overcome psychological barriers. If it is study help, you should regard it as responsibility and righteousness.

Do your duty, never look down upon others, nor be afraid that others will surpass you. Friends should

learn from each other, help each other, and improve together. Talking about your heart is a way to express friendship. Tell your friends about your happiness and worries. One person's happiness becomes the happiness of several people, and one worry is all that remains. The next half worries. I also found that some students have a "strange" view: to be friends

you need to be "buddy loyal". If you don't talk about "buddy loyalty", you are not friends enough. This kind of

The perception is wrong.

A philosopher commented on friendship this way: "Those who do not have friendship will be pitifully lonely throughout their lives. A society without friendship is just a prosperous desert." It can be seen that, Friendship plays an important role in the path of life. I hope everyone will cherish the friendship around them.

Friendship, I believe everyone has had it and lost it before. The reason for the loss is very simple.

They do not understand the true meaning of friendship. What exactly is friendship? Friendship is a friendship established between people who get along for a long time. It is established on the basis of mutual trust in interactions.

[The Friendship of Forgotten Years]

He Xun, a poet of the Liang Dynasty, could write good poems at the age of 8 and was a scholar at the age of 20.

The famous poet Fan Yun admired him very much and became a close friend with him, forgetting that they were 20 years apart.

[Incompatible friends]

"Intimate friends" means that they have the same thoughts and feelings without any conflict.

During the Warring States Period, Zi Sanghu, Mencius Fan, and Zi Qin Zhang had the same thoughts and views, and

became "immortal friends."

〔The Cutting Off of the Neck〕

During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru was worshiped as Shangqing, but the veteran general Lian Po was not convinced.

He repeatedly made things difficult for Lin Xiangru. But Lin Xiangru gave in every time, which moved Lian Po, and they became "a close friend".

[Jinlan Friendship]

During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, Ji Kang and Ruan Ji despised the powerful Sima family,

However, the high-ranking Shan Tao was good friends with them.

Their friendship is as strong as gold and as fragrant as orchids. They are the "friendship of golden orchids".