In recent years, news of various children committing suicide have emerged one after another, causing parents to tighten their hearts. Some people can't help but ask: Why are children becoming more and more vulnerable as living conditions get better and better now? In fact, this has a lot to do with frustration education.
Most of today’s children have grown up soaking in sugar water. It was too late for his parents to love him, and they wanted to hold it in their hands all the time, for fear that they would accidentally fall and hurt him, and they were unwilling to let him suffer at all. Not to mention frustrations and criticisms, even if they are serious, I would not let them go. Children who grow up in such an environment have always had smooth sailing since childhood. Naturally, they panic when they encounter any setbacks and don't know how to deal with them. Frustration education cultivates children's adverse quotient. But now everyone is focusing on cultivating children's three quotients, namely financial quotient, emotional quotient and IQ. There is very little about cultivating adverse business. So, why do parents want to cultivate reverse quotient in their children, and how should they cultivate it?
1. The importance of adversity quotient
The so-called adversity quotient refers to a person’s ability to solve problems when faced with adversity. Psychologists believe that when the IQ is almost the same, a person's adverse quotient will determine whether his career can be successful. Because people with high adversity quotient are better at handling setbacks and have a more comprehensive and complete grasp of things. It allows people to maintain an optimistic and positive attitude in adversity and find ways to cope and solve it more quickly. In today's society, there is pressure almost everywhere. Don't think that children won't face any pressure when they are young. In fact, they face no less pressure than adults. The dual pressure from school and family can easily crush a child's immature mind. At this time, the cultivation of adverse business becomes particularly important.
2. How to cultivate reverse quotient
After a child is born, parents can’t wait to arrange everything for him, from school, major to work, to small things in life. Bit by bit. For example, help with small things like brushing teeth, doing laundry, and serving meals. But the child is growing. He cannot always be a baby in swaddling clothes without the ability to take care of himself. He will slowly grow up and learn to be independent. What his parents did was tantamount to depriving him of his independence and making him develop the habit of looking for his parents for everything. Children who do not have the ability to be independent will find it difficult to enter and exit society no matter how high their IQ is when they grow up.
2. When you encounter setbacks, don’t help immediately
In "Beauty's Scheming", there is such a plot. The story is about the Queen Mother choosing a good wife for the Prince, but when they met, she found that she had no opinion. No matter what he asked, he acted like he would "obey the Queen Mother's orders in everything", which disappointed Dou Yifang. But when someone in the palace suddenly fell ill with the W epidemic, she saw Liangdi in the dark acting neatly and calmly.
Parents always feel that their children are still young and not that capable. But in fact, don’t underestimate your children. If parents want to solve the problem immediately when they encounter setbacks, they will never know their children's abilities. The child should be allowed to try to solve the problem first and practice his handling methods. If he really can't, give him a helping hand and tell him how he should handle it independently next time. In this way, his adverse quotient will become higher and higher. But one thing to note is that frustrating education does not mean suppressing education, which will make children lose confidence.
There should be setbacks and criticism, but at the same time, don’t forget to affirm and appreciate!