I met a teacher with postpartum depression during the consultation. According to her description, it is. My husband and I work in different places. My husband is hundreds of miles away from home and can only come back twice a month. This is a second child, so after giving birth to the child, she suddenly had this idea. It turns out that I was so busy every day when I was a child, because now the teacher is also very busy. The 1 th child, age 12, takes the shuttle bus to school every day to help with his homework. Cooking for children, and parents-in-law are over 80 years old, and they can't take care of children at all. If I go to work in a few months, what about my children?
Originally, I didn't want a second child, and I wasn't prepared for it, but my mother-in-law has been nagging me all these years, and no boy's mother-in-law died unsatisfied. Because the idea of son preference is very serious in the south, it has become a heart disease for every woman. Because I used to be a woman, I did all the things at home by myself. Men can only be responsible for paying themselves, and nothing else can help.
So when all the pressure was placed in front of her, she finally collapsed alone. So we know that postpartum depression is to see a sudden change in the situation. Like some young girls, they were princesses before marriage, and of course they were princesses after marriage, but they became aunts after giving birth. If their parents-in-law and men, as well as their own parents, are not much help. Her own psychological gap is great, because newborn children will be particularly fond of crying. Then, for a mother who can usually sleep soundly, a mother who is usually afraid of being disturbed by others, or no one will disturb her sleep, it will make her feel uncomfortable or painful when she sleeps. If her child cries, her man will not take the initiative to help. Her mentality of changing from a princess to a nanny will make her dissatisfied and resentful, and then she will be dissatisfied with everyone, including herself.
Slowly, I will regret myself, why I gave birth to this child. Some even regretted it. Why did I find such a man? Why did I meet such in-laws
Therefore, for patients with postpartum depression, we must first express our thoughts. Most of these people are people who usually care about face. Give others a positive appearance, and at the same time, dare not show your fragile self. Because when you are weak, others will take the initiative to help. When you are strong, others will think that you can't help.
Therefore, no matter what personality illness, we should try our best to change ourselves in life and let ourselves dare to say and do, otherwise a sensitive person will always take care of other people's ideas and suppress himself. We know that thick-skinned people will never have mental illness. There is mental illness, which is the kind of thick-skinned surface. In fact, very sensitive and fragile people.
To love yourself is to take care of your emotions and express your true thoughts. Such a person will get out of depression soon, and I hope my answer can help all depressed patients.
I talk about my feelings and understanding from the perspective of psychology and practice. The essence of postpartum depression is that it can't adapt to the changes of postpartum life and the role of new mothers.
Unable to adapt to the changes in postpartum life, leading to impatience and pessimism in life.
There are two points that need special attention. First of all, parenting tasks require a lot of skills. Because the new mother has no experience in this field or is not very independent at ordinary times, she is physically and mentally exhausted and pessimistic.
In this regard, it is necessary to strengthen the parenting skills of new mothers and improve their independence. At the same time, family members should have more understanding and practical help, such as practical help and guidance from experienced family members, rather than simple verbal guidance.
The second aspect is one-sided exaggerated thinking, that is, taking the immediate difficulties too seriously, because parenting is a long-term task and children grow up for a long time. The new mother thinks of the present difficulties and the future difficulties, which leads to one-sided exaggeration and further pessimism.
In this regard, we should change our understanding, not only to see the immediate difficulties, but also to see the positive side, to see that the immediate difficulties are only a stage of life, to overcome difficulties, to get through this relatively difficult stage, and to have a happier life.
As a family member, especially a husband, we should pay special attention to his wife's postpartum mood, share more housework, share the heavy responsibility of parenting and life, and let his wife relax.
Postpartum depression accounts for about 20% to 30% of pregnant women, and about one in every four people has postpartum depression. Therefore, physiological phenomena have greater influence than psychology. On the other hand, postpartum depression, which was originally very mild, developed more seriously because it was not accompanied by family members, especially husbands.
As for the treatment, it is no different from other treatments for depression. Postpartum depression generally does not directly participate in drug treatment, mainly because it is afraid of affecting maternal breastfeeding, so psychotherapy is particularly important. In addition, the demand for social resources, mainly husbands, will also become higher. If husbands can provide effective social support, postpartum depression will be greatly improved until progesterone gradually stabilizes.
Postpartum depression refers to the obvious depressive symptoms or typical depressive episodes of women during the puerperium, which belongs to puerperal mental syndrome, and the incidence rate is 15% 30%. Typical postpartum depression occurs within 6 weeks after delivery and can recover spontaneously within 3 6 months, but severe depression lasts 1 2 years, and the recurrence rate of the second pregnancy is 20% ~ 30%.
There are many reasons, mainly social function and emotional regulation. After having children, the role of life has changed. As a mother, she didn't prepare for this role as early as possible, thus losing confidence in life and affecting her mood. After a long time, there are many things that bother her, and she will think of all kinds of bad things.
Under such circumstances, as a husband and family, we should give our wife support and encouragement to help her adjust her state as soon as possible, calm her mood and do a good job of companionship.
As a wife, you can also adjust yourself. You can read more relevant books and find some other interesting things to do. After a period of adaptation, you will get used to it gradually.
As a person who once suffered from postpartum depression and now has a slightly stable mood, Xiao Pang sincerely said: postpartum depression is not melodramatic, but really helpless. And those who say irresponsibly that there will be such a big emotional change after giving birth are misunderstandings about postpartum depression. So what is postpartum depression? Why do you get postpartum depression? How to adjust postpartum depression?
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What is postpartum depression?
Postpartum depression refers to obvious postpartum depression. This performance mainly has the following characteristics:
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Why is there postpartum depression?
From a professional point of view, postpartum depression is mainly divided into physiological reasons (such as endocrine factors and personality factors). ) and surrounding environmental reasons (such as family harmony, etc. ).
But Xiao Pang thinks the most important reason is that the demand for women in society is too high now. In the past, women only needed to stay at home and educate their children.
But modern women are required to go out to earn money and take care of their babies at home. If the husband helps with the children, then the husband will be praised to heaven. If it is the mother who takes care of the baby, it is natural. This unequal demand for women has put too much pressure on women.
Many people take it for granted that mothers take care of their babies. Taking care of them is a good thing, but taking care of them badly is a sin. But novice mothers will inevitably make many mistakes. If the family can't understand at this time, and the mother herself has a perfectionist tendency, it will easily lead to postpartum depression.
Also, raising children is not as casual as before. Everyone pays attention to scientific feeding, so it is easy to conflict with the parenting style of the older generation. If the old people in the family are strong, the husband can't solve these problems. It will increase the pressure on novice mothers and make them more prone to postpartum depression.
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How to adjust depressed mood
In fact, the best way in the local area is to find a professional psychological counselor for treatment. However, due to the long-standing concept, many people think that psychological problems are psychological diseases, so it is easy to avoid medical treatment. Therefore, it can be adjusted by the following methods:
These are my views on postpartum depression, and I hope to inspire you.
First of all, Ma Bao should adjust his mentality before giving birth to a baby, get ready for the role change, enjoy the time of confinement and adapt to the new life with the baby!
Secondly, the family should be more considerate of the mother, tolerate some emotions of the mother, and take the mother as the center, so that she can feel psychological comfort! Especially the husband, when he has time, he should take care of the children with his mother and learn feeding knowledge together. Even if the mothers are out of the month, they should keep this kind of care!
I won't suffer from postpartum depression because I don't have the function of childbirth. I am an old man. How can I give birth?
It's true that I have depression!
How to treat postpartum depression? Go to the hospital, see a doctor, consult a psychologist, ask a psychologist!
If you want to ask me what I think, the answer isno. No matter what I look at, I can't talk nonsense! There are special terms. What a professional and precise word it is for post-occupational depression!
Postpartum depression is not terrible, mainly because of insufficient psychological preparation for various problems in childbirth and postpartum. Once you start to face these problems, you don't know what to do, and you can't bear it psychologically, so postpartum depression will appear.
So how to prevent postpartum depression? What psychological preparations do you need to make? First of all, is the production smooth? What's wrong with not giving birth naturally? Is postpartum milk enough? What should I do if the milk is insufficient? How to take care of the baby? The recovery of physical function, the lack of sleep every night after the birth of the child ... all this makes people feel at a loss, at a loss, and then nervous, worried, afraid, irritable ... all kinds of bad emotions appear one after another. If the adjustment cannot be made in time, postpartum depression, depression, insomnia, pain and sadness, and even hallucinations will occur. ...
For postpartum care, we should give more care and consideration to family members, especially husbands, let the baby learn to do his homework in advance, and consult more experienced elderly people. As the baby grows up, the affection between mother and child (female) is cultivated, and the child brings happiness and hope to the mother. Naturally, postpartum depression will not occur.
Postpartum depression needs special attention because it affects not only the mother but also the baby.
Moreover, many postpartum depression actually tends before delivery, especially some couples have bad feelings, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and they are not well cared for and understood during pregnancy. Some people are not good at expressing themselves because of personality reasons and are depressed for a long time. Postpartum physical pain, and may have some impact on work. If the husband is not considerate and the mother-in-law does not serve well, it is easy to get depression and become ill.
Postpartum depression will affect milk secretion, and mother's bad mood will affect endocrine and affect milk. Moreover, mothers with postpartum depression are generally indifferent, do not like to interact with their children, or are unwilling to take care of their children, which will cause psychological trauma to their children. Babies can perceive their mothers' emotions and preferences. If the mother is indifferent and doesn't like her children, it will make them feel insecure, inferior and irritable when they grow up.
At the same time, it also affects the relationship between husband and wife, so if the situation is serious, psychological care is needed to take medicine. Family support is very important, especially the husband's companionship, care and understanding.