There is such a true story: the boss of a company is complacent about his "compliance", and employees are severely criticized and severely punished if they make a slight mistake. Soon, almost all the employees resigned. The boss still won't accept the lesson. After rehiring the employees, he did the same thing. As a result, all employees left him as before. He can't relax. I am the boss. Shouldn't employees be punished for their mistakes? His company ended in bankruptcy. He doesn't understand that because of various reasons in life, everyone will make mistakes of one kind or another. If you can tolerate others' mistakes and give them a chance to correct them, this is the basis for others to understand and support them. In the history of China, Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, had the honor of "the rule of chastity", which was directly related to his tolerance and good listening to different opinions. The famous minister was originally the vassal of the eldest brother, Prince Jian. In the power struggle within the royal family, he encouraged Prince Jian to kill and staged a coup in Xuanwu Gate. After seizing power, he put aside old grievances and reused quantity, which made Wei Zhi feel that he was "willing to be the master of knowing ourselves and knowing ourselves with all his heart" and faithfully assisted Li Shimin, making great contributions to the creation of the prosperous Tang Dynasty.
In daily life and interpersonal communication, misunderstandings, frictions and contradictions will inevitably occur. In this case, some people abuse, tit-for-tat, and even fight, resulting in both losses. Not the loss outweighs the gain, but there is no "gain", only "loss". Loss of friendly feelings, loss of harmonious relationship, and even loss of life. In fact, there are frictions and contradictions. As long as it is not a malicious attack and the contradiction between the enemy and ourselves is irreconcilable, we should put ourselves in the position, take the initiative to take responsibility and say "I'm sorry". In this way, nervousness will turn into smiles and handshakes, and storms will turn into gentle winds and drizzles. Being strict with yourself and being lenient with others is the virtue of being a man, and it is also the foundation of winning people's trust and ensuring the success of the cause.
Of course, tolerance is not to win a good reputation, not to be harmonious, not to give up positions and principles, not to talk about moral laws, but to be good for you and me and everyone. This is pushing tolerance to the wrong abyss. There is a good saying: Proceed from the desire of unity and achieve new unity through criticism and self-criticism. This is the best interpretation of tolerance.
Tolerance is the highest reward for the tolerant.
The composition about being strict with yourself can be revised. My mother is over 40 years old, tall, neither fat nor thin, with a few shallow wrinkles on her forehead and a smile on her face.
My mother is kind. She taught me to be honest and generous from an early age and cultivated my good character from an early age. I remember one thing, which I will never forget.
It was a hot afternoon, and the sun scorched the earth like a big fireball. I sat in my room and kept fanning, but my sweat kept rolling down.
I said to my mother, "Mom! It's hot, it's hot! I want to eat popsicles. " Mom said, "Come on, I'll take you to buy some popsicles."
He picked up his wallet. When I got to the place where I bought popsicles, I chose popsicles. My mother took out a whole ticket for 50 yuan from her purse and handed it to my uncle who bought popsicles. After my uncle found the money, my mother and I hurried home.
When I got home, my mother counted and said to herself, "Huh? No, a * * * is 7 yuan. How can I get back 45 yuan? " Hearing this, I said happily, "Great! People who buy popsicles are really confused. They are looking for more 3 yuan money. Mom, can I have 2 yuan? " My mother glared at me and said angrily, "send 2 yuan more back, you can't take advantage of small things!" " ! Besides, it is not easy for people to sell popsicles! "Say that finish, my mother braved the hot sun of * * * and sent 3 yuan money to others.
When I sleep at night, I can't sleep in bed. When I think of the things during the day, I suddenly understand that a man should start from bit by bit, and can't do things that are sorry for others because of the small advantages in front of him. This incident gave me a great education. I love my mother and I admire her from the bottom of my heart.
My mother is thirty-four, and she doesn't look old. There are a pair of big watery eyes on the face of melon seeds. They are very tall, neither fat nor thin.
My mother loves me very much and pays more attention to my study. Some time ago, Galen's English teacher told us that there was a national English competition. I hope everyone can actively participate and show themselves.
I signed up for the English song competition. After freshman year, my mother began to look for songs online. After locking the song, my mother taught herself to sing first, whining every day, and began to teach me after singing.
The song my mother chose for me is the English version of Girl with Wings. At that time, it was in the final review stage, and the exam was coming soon. My mother spends an hour every day to help me practice singing and correct my pronunciation, so as not to delay my review.
Many things happen. I successfully passed the preliminary competition of the Stadium Division and the rematch of Jinzhou City, and entered the final of Liaozhong Division. If Liaozhong Division can win, I can enter the national finals, which I have been looking forward to for a long time. Mother is very filial to her parents.
On one occasion, grandma was ill and admitted to the hospital with mild cerebral thrombosis. This really worried my mother. She takes care of her grandmother in the hospital every day, washes her face and helps her practice walking.
Grandma comes home from the hospital, and my mother does housework, washing clothes, cooking and mopping the floor ... Every New Year's Day, my mother never forgets to buy some gifts for her grandparents. I want to follow my mother's example and be a good boy who respects my parents.
Every summer, my mother always says she is fat and only eats two meals a day. Do you know why she did it? Because she wants to lose weight and wear fashionable clothes to make herself more beautiful. This is my mother, sometimes gentle, sometimes severe, sometimes lovely, I love my beautiful mother! My mother is of medium height, fair-skinned, not very beautiful but dignified and generous, and wears clothes just like people, which are not fashionable but elegant.
Mother has a bad personality and often loses her temper. Every coin has its two sides. Do you want to know? Mother is an ingenious person who can make many exquisite handicrafts.
The wind chimes she made are very beautiful, in all shapes and colors. They hang in front of my window. They are very beautiful, especially some decorations under the wind chimes are very beautiful. Whenever the wind blows, they will emit sweet * * *, which sounds like wings and can fly far away. I like my mother's handwriting, neat and clear; She is good at typing with five strokes on the computer. Only urr saw ten fingers flying up and down on the keyboard, which dazzled you. With just a few clicks, a long line of words appears on the computer screen.
Mother likes singing and sings very well. I can hum the songs she can sing, but I don't like listening to songs and I don't want to sing. Mom is also good at conditioning in family life. Her steamed bread is round and white and has a special fragrance. They are delicious. I have a healthy body, and I can't do without those delicious steamed buns.
Mom's cooking is more delicious. I like her snacks best, such as fried cabbage, mutton kebabs, steamed stuffed buns and mushrooms, which are much more delicious than those sold on the road. I don't have enough to eat. Mom is a very serious and careful person.
When she takes something seriously, her eyes are so wide that she won't stop until there is no result. She is more careful when typing on the computer. No matter how wonderful any sound or program appears on TV, she seems to have never heard or seen it.
Mom also has many shortcomings. Usually I dare not say that writing a composition today is a good opportunity. My mother has a bad temper and is always angry for no reason. When she speaks, she often raises her voice by an octave, which scares me. Then the air in the whole room seems to be cold, so I naturally have no good fruit to eat. I think it would be better if she didn't lose her temper. At least I won't be treated as a punching bag.
What's more, sometimes my mother doesn't keep her word. For example, I once agreed to take me to Tianqi Temple on Sunday afternoon. I was very happy and prepared early, but she didn't take me because she didn't get enough sleep in the afternoon. I was really disappointed.
Also, my mother always compares my shortcomings with the advantages of others, which is what I hate most. I really hope my mother can get rid of these bad habits and make our family full of joy forever.
This is my mother, a respectable, lovely person with personality, but people can't understand her temper. I love my mother, forever, forever.
My mother often wears colorful clothes, long hair, round eyes, a flat nose and a smile on her mouth. She looks very gentle. Mom is busy from morning till night. She gets up early every day.
Give me some bread when I get up.
3. About being strict with yourself and being lenient with others, the 800-word high school composition "Be lenient with others" is a simple famous aphorism that really tells us to be tolerant of others.
What is tolerance? Only tolerance can accommodate people, and thickness can carry things. Tolerance refers to generosity and tolerance, forgiveness and indifference to others. Tolerance is an important part of virtue, and we need tolerance in life and study.
Tolerance, known as China's "State of Etiquette", is fully reflected. As early as the Three Kingdoms period, Jiang Wan, the prime minister of Shu, tolerated one of his subordinates: at that time, there was a counselor named Yang under Jiang Wan's account, who was born with unclear words, so even before Jiang Wan, he rarely saluted and spoke. But Jiang Wan didn't blame, and said that everyone should do more things like Yang, and it's nothing to be eloquent.
After listening to it, Yang was very grateful and began to work harder to make suggestions for it. Yes! Didn't Jiang Wan actually help himself by tolerating Yang? A little more tolerance for others will give us more space in our lives.
With the company of friends, there will be care and support, and there will be no loneliness and loneliness; With the help of friends, there will be less wind and rain and more sunshine. Under the guidance of tolerance, we can always move towards a sunny day.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Sun Shuai in the State of Chu. When he was a child, he saw a two-headed snake on the road. He killed it quickly and buried it deeply. At that time, it was said that anyone who saw this two-headed snake would die. Sun Shuaio cried and told his mother. His mother asked him, "Where is the snake now?" He replied, "I'm afraid it will harm people again, and I've killed it and buried it." Mother said, "If you are willing to help others, God will bless you." Later, Sun Shuai not only didn't die, but also became a famous minister of Chu when he grew up.
Sun Shuai 'ao, after his own misfortune, can still think about the happiness of others and do everything possible to avoid it. This spirit embodies the spirit of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" in China's traditional ethics. There is a similar saying in the Bible: "Do to others what you want them to do to you." How did you know? Requirements: self-made topics, self-made themes and self-made genres; More than 800 words; Clear handwriting
5. Writing on the topic of "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" (about 200 words) is an idea and proposition of the ancients.
To build a harmonious society, carry forward the humanistic spirit and explore new ways to cultivate self-cultivation, we must remember to be strict with ourselves and lenient with others. Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others, or be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. This seemingly simple word game is just a rearrangement of combinations.
In fact, the meaning is very different. Nowadays, many of us always like to blame others. This is not that or that, and we always refuse to forgive others even a little mistake.
For myself, it is too generous, and no matter how big the mistake is, it is not a problem. To paraphrase an old saying, Marxism-Leninism is for the people and liberalism is for ourselves.
Nowadays, many people tend to be very demanding of others, but they never ask themselves how they are doing. Look at the internet. Once something happens, everyone will attack it, and the overwhelming abuse has been endless.
However, how many people can remember to reflect on themselves often? Criticism and self-criticism, even this fine tradition, have long been forgotten; Instead, it is praise and self-praise, but the latter is more. Self-praise is self-boasting, which is by no means a sign of self-confidence.
No one is perfect, and ordinary people will inevitably make such mistakes. Forgiving others is actually being kind to yourself. Maitreya, a potbellied Buddha. A big belly can hold things that are hard to hold in the world.
The breadth of a person's mind represents his generosity, which can also be said to be a measure. For a long time, there has been an absurd rumor that "small money is not a gentleman's luxury, and it is said by many people that" small money is not a gentleman's poison. "
This is obviously not an accidental slip of the tongue, but just represents the inner thoughts of many people. Those who have "degree" are gentlemen, while those who have "poison" are villains.
Unfortunately, many people would rather be villains than gentlemen. It may be easy to blame others, but it is really difficult to reflect on yourself! Many people choose not to be strict with themselves and be lenient with others, but to be strict with themselves.
They always look at other people's shortcomings with a microscope, but often turn a blind eye to their own misconduct. This is a very bad atmosphere, and we should still strive to advocate a good tradition of being strict with ourselves and being lenient with others.
Let us be more tolerant. For society, others and the environment, this is the foundation of building a harmonious society. Be a little more harsh. To oneself, to oneself, to selfishness, this is the source of motivation to improve self-ability.
Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. Is it not good to be strict with yourself and lenient with others? .
6. Ask to write an 800-word composition entitled "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others". People should forgive mistakes, but they cannot forgive themselves; We should bear our own shame, but not the shame of others.
We should forgive others' mistakes and faults, but if it is our fault, we can't forgive. We should try our best to endure the difficulties and humiliation we encounter. If they are on others, we can't stand by and ignore them.
I remember when I was in primary school, there was a picture on the classroom wall-be strict with myself and be lenient with others. At that time, I saw it hanging like that every day and didn't think about the meaning of this sentence. In the later growth, I found that this word is like a magic weapon. If used properly, there will always be unexpected gains. Many successful people also abide by this rule in their daily lives.
A famous IT manager summed up his successful experience and said, "In my opinion, life is actually very simple. In the final analysis, it is eight words,' be strict with yourself and be lenient with others'. If you can do this, many things will suddenly become clear! " The manager is talking about the lifestyle advocated by Cai Gentan-be lenient with others and be strict with yourself.
Why be lenient with others? In order to give people a new chance. Why should we be strict with ourselves? Because slackness will relax self-discipline and make small mistakes develop into big mistakes. This is the standard way to treat others, and it is also the most important principle to treat people. Its core is to emphasize that since the enlightenment, we have a transcendental understanding of the standards of things and judge right and wrong as objectively and fairly as possible. A person with this noble character will naturally succeed.
General Xu Da played an important role in the establishment of the Ming Dynasty. When I was a child, I herded cattle with Zhu Yuanzhang and fought together when I grew up. Courage and resourcefulness won Zhu Yuanzhang's love. However, it is such a man who has made great achievements in the war, but he never takes credit, but is very strict with himself.
Xu Da shares weal and woe with soldiers from all over the country. When the soldiers couldn't fill their stomachs because of poor rations, he took the initiative to drink less and eat less, saving rations and distributing them to them. He never takes a break before the troops have set up camp. He will wait until everyone is settled. When the foot soldiers were disabled and sick, he personally asked questions and took medicine for treatment; If a soldier dies, he will pay more attention to it and will be buried in a coffin. Therefore, the soldiers of the Ming army are both grateful and respectful to him.
In life, he also kept silent about the good luck of wine and wine. Historical records say: "women have no love and no treasure, and their integrity is flawless." Zhu Yuanzhang once gave him a good piece of land, but it happened to be in the place where farmers had to go through waterways. Seeing this benefit, the retainer used this land for personal gain and levied "tolls" on farmers. After Xu Da knew it, he immediately turned it over to the government.
Zhu Yuanzhang killed hundreds of thousands of people, including the hero, with severe punishment, but Xu Da died happily. After his death in Nanjing, Zhu Yuanzhang retired from the DPRK and mourned for it. He was made the King of Zhongshan, and his portrait was displayed in the first place in Gongren Temple, calling him "the first hero of Daming". I have to say that I can avoid the butcher's knife of Zhu Yuanzhang, which is inseparable from Xu Da's life style of being strict with self-discipline and lenient with others.
In reality, what do we often do? If you pay attention to observation, you will find that many people take the opposite path. They turned this sentence upside down and turned it into "being strict with yourself." I am very relaxed with myself, I can do anything, I never feel ashamed of doing bad things, but I am extremely strict with others. I will see a little mistake in my eyes and keep it in my heart. I am sorry for a little thing and I will talk endlessly.
"Treat people with saints, treat people with ordinary people", demand others with the standards of saints, but treat yourself with the standards of ordinary people. Such a person, he can't make a few friends, and it is difficult to work smoothly with others. Because he doesn't know what "forgive others" means, he only knows to ask others with the most demanding standards and treat himself with the most relaxed standards. This is a manifestation of serious selfishness. Why don't you think about it? What qualifications do you have to ask others like this? Who are you to indulge yourself like this?
What matters is what kind of person you are, not what kind of person others are ~ live high.
7. Be tolerant of others and be strict with yourself. The title of the composition is "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others".
The ancients said, "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others." The so-called "strict self-discipline" means strict self-discipline, national laws and regulations, and personal "discipline". This "discipline" is a high requirement for self-criticism and self-review. The so-called "be lenient with others" means to face all kinds of misunderstandings and grievances without resentment, and to be virtuous without caring; It is to ask others and allow others to have shortcomings; Give others time and space to improve their own shortcomings; Give others a chance to shield their own shortcomings, do not comment on others' shortcomings, do not publicize others' shortcomings, and do not hold on to others' shortcomings. The ancients said, "See the sage Si Qi, but if you don't see the sage, you will be introspective." This is the truth.
But in life, it is common for some people to be lenient with others and strict with themselves. All brooms are bound to blow their own horn, and all brooms are bound to seek perfection and blame. Sometimes they feel sorry for the world, sometimes they feel sorry for others, sometimes they complain about things, and sometimes they embarrass themselves. In short, I am the only one in the world, and everything in the world is hard to get into his red eye.
In the world, different things have their own advantages and disadvantages: "Mei Xu Xun's snow is white, but there is a piece of plum fragrance missing", "Gao Mei is sensitive but doesn't work, but works like a worker but is not sensitive" ... What's more, no one is perfect. Why should we be limited by prejudice and refuse more tolerance?
In life and work, we should look at people, treat people with strengths and tolerate weaknesses. "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." If you want others to forgive yourself, you must forgive others. Don't criticize others if you don't want others to criticize yourself. Learn to care for others, blame yourself with others' hearts, and love your beloved, and you can tolerate others with an open mind.
Tolerance is understanding with deep love, tolerance is wisdom and strength, and tolerance is insight into life. Tolerance is the mind of civilization, the light of love and the realm of life. Forgiving others is tantamount to forgiving yourself, and at the same time, it creates a better life.
In daily life, how to be strict with yourself and be lenient with others? Students get along with each other day and night, study and live together, and it is inevitable that some misunderstandings and contradictions will arise in their communication. When this happens, we should first be strict with ourselves, think more about our own shortcomings and take the initiative to take responsibility, so as to achieve "reconciliation", enhance the friendship between students and seek understanding. At the same time, we should be tolerant of others and think from each other's point of view. Even if you are wronged, you should consider the overall situation and give priority to friendship.
The attitude of being strict with oneself and lenient with others is a "lubricant" in interpersonal communication, which can reduce many unnecessary frictions and disputes in life. If you always look at people with colored glasses, you will be "pointed" if you disagree, then in a word, a small matter may get out of hand. As the saying goes, "the bottom of my heart is selfless and the world is wide, and people are complacent." Facts have proved that as long as a person can jump out of his personal circle, he can be strict with himself and tolerant of others.
8. "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" The so-called "be strict with yourself" means being strict with yourself and consciously doing self-criticism and self-review. For the students, from the big picture, don't forget the "eight honors and eight disgraces", and ask everyone to fulfill social morality and advocate spiritual civilization; From a small point of view, we should be strict with ourselves, consciously abide by the school rules and regulations, start from the details, develop good living habits and study habits, and comprehensively improve our own quality.
Tolerance includes understanding, consideration and sympathy. Tolerance can solve people's difficulties, make up their mistakes, develop their advantages and forgive their shortcomings. If you are strict with yourself and lenient with others, you can eliminate barriers, resolve misunderstandings, win friendships and make friends. Of course, it is also good for physical and mental health. The mountain forgave the beating of running water on its body and became more handsome; Water forgave the mountain, blocked its own flow, and made the mountain more winding, smart and beautiful. Throughout the ages, how many people of insight who are strict with themselves and tolerant of others have been tolerated. In exchange for a harmonious and beautiful interpersonal relationship and a thriving career. How many ordinary people have traded their tolerance and contentment for health and longevity.
Tolerance is a virtue, but also a kind of life wisdom; Tolerance is a good attitude and a philosophy of life; Tolerance is a confident smile, but also a calm to others. Being strict with yourself will increase the opportunities and motivation for progress; Being lenient with others will add more space and love to everyone's life; Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others, and our life will be faster, more energetic, warmer and more sunny, and make more contributions to building a harmonious society.