If someone scolds you, you scold him. It's called a fight. When someone praises you, you should pay him back. It's called socializing.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

You are not the Queen of England, so don't disturb everyone when you leave.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

Moderate provocation can definitely make the conversation warm. Because everyone wants their opinions to be taken seriously and discussed, instead of being nodded and perfunctory by an unprincipled person.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

When you meet someone who brings up a topic that you don't want to pick up at all, don't rush to resist, but connect the topic that the other person is keen on lightly to a very life direction.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

The way to make less trouble for others is to solve the trouble in your own hands.

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Dating is dating, it is affectionate. Eating and drinking are all good opportunities for flirting.

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Look in your eyes and put it in your heart. Look at each other from time to time, observe a little, and let the opposite person fully feel her presence in your eyes. Let the other person feel valued.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

You are what you say.

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Leave meaningless victories to the other side, and those who know how to give up will talk.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

? What are you doing? It is interesting in itself, but silence is richer and more memorable than chatter.

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If the topic is stuck, change the topic, don't fall in love with the stack, try to keep it and open another topic. I won't worry if I leave for a while, as long as I have the opportunity to come back. But for people who are naturally defensive or indifferent, they just need to say what they should say politely and then they can leave.

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Everyone wants to talk about themselves when chatting. When you want to be liked by others, you just have to put others in your own position, and it's your turn to play this? The best way? The highest principle of playing such a friend is simple:? Try not to say what I said? . It sounds simple, but you can try. Talk to your friends for ten minutes, not me. Yes, just don't say anything about me. Every time you want to say something about me, change it to your words or his words. You will find that in these ten minutes, I have been talking. Yesterday, I think, I bought these sentences, and suddenly I became a person who kept throwing the topic to each other and let them speak freely.

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All these high-flying people, such as God, King, Boss and President, don't talk to you or complain to you. On the contrary, only those who will complain to you will treat you as an equal and be willing to make friends with you.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

By studying and speaking, you will fundamentally understand your relationship with others, what you are thinking with others, and most importantly, what kind of person you are.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

Only when talking to friends, every time you say a few words, pause to see if friends will ask:? Then, if you ask this question, it shows that the way you talk about things is attractive; But if you pause, but your friend doesn't think it over, and then change the topic to another place, it means that what you say is boring, so that the other person doesn't care about what happens later. You can find a chance to say the same thing in a different order and see if your friend will ask:? then

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Unfortunately, some people are defensive or indifferent. No matter how hard you try to find a topic to talk to him, he just gives you a faint answer. Really? These are the answers that will get you stuck. Such a person, if you have no intention of falling in love with him, then I suggest you make it clear, euphemistically, and similar? Did the teacher say to meet at the station at nine o'clock? Or? So I'm sorry, so I won't bother you this time? , then you can flash. But if the conversation with someone you care about gets stuck, there's no need to save it. Just open a topic: little brother:? I rented a film yesterday, telling the story that people's memories in the future can be faked? Goo goo:? It sounds hard to understand, doesn't it? Brother (immediately start a new stove): Later, I saw Lin Chi-ling buying fried chicken chops on the road? . Gugu (eyes lit up):? Is Lin Chi-ling beautiful in person?

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In business, when I have to ask a sharp question, I suggest taking? An abstract third party? Be a scapegoat. ? Boss, the dealers in the whole province asked me to ask you, your poster is so big, where will they put it?

There is also a saying that you can try to use some harsh words, which have the taste of trial? What's the specific statement? , such as:? Professor Cai, my colleagues told me that your paper was plagiarized. ? Can be changed to:? Professor Cai, we have received this British academic journal. The paper on it overlaps with the one you published last month, with about 5000 words. ? . Although there are many words, they are also more specific, not like directly accusing each other, but asking each other to talk about things.

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Honestly, if you're not the kind of person who always thinks? I am a normal person. I am the backbone of society, okay? You won't take it for granted that you will always treat dropouts, addicts and vulnerable people with a contemptuous attitude full of superiority, and you won't be too rude to ask others some sharp questions directly, but you will try to understand each other's situation through conversation.

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If you meet someone with a clear love and hate, you are required to stand on the same side with him, and you can only let the other person vent their dissatisfaction. But you should control it, don't get carried away, and don't exaggerate' attacking others is too good for each other'.

As long as you try to ease the other person's mood, the other person is more likely to regard you as a friend. As for what you shouldn't say, it will become his gossip handle in the future.

When the other person is full of resentment, he would rather be a harmless and lovely clown than a hero. Because all he needs is confidence? Feeling? , not the difference between life and death.

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I don't want to say simply, which mines should I avoid?

My suggestions are: first, the other party is prone to difficulties and it is not convenient to tell strangers, such as financial situation, illness, emotional situation, children's grades and so on. Second, it is easy for the other side to take a tough stance, and it is easy to argue about it, such as supporting the team, which star player they hate, what religion they believe in, attacking eating meat or taking turns eating meat to attack vegetarians, and so on.

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No matter how much you want to get rid of that place, don't show cold eyes. Show it anyway. I'll talk to you later, okay? Passion, things are different, who knows what role this person will play in the next round of life? Even if you just want to get rid of him at the moment, you can still make fewer enemies. Because the enemy is the most horrible asset. The more you have, the faster you die.

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Everyone has secrets that they don't want to tell except 250, who can say anything. It may be the secret that there is something wrong with the quality of the milk powder produced by the company, the secret that the boss took a red envelope and sat down to make an illegal decision, or the secret that the uncle arranged it himself. The other person may not want to tell you, but he is hiding something. His words, attitude and eyes may reveal clues to you. At this time, you must seize the clue and find out the reason. If you always answer? So? It's hard to understand. At best, it can only be regarded as a competent toilet that flushes after pressing the handle.

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A more useful way to apologize is to filter out your mistakes and troubles in your mind, and then think about what remedies you can take. Then bravely explain to each other what mistakes you made, how clear your mistakes are, how much trouble and trouble such mistakes have brought to each other, and then, of course, you are waiting to be scolded, but because of your apology, it is full of? Self-reflection? Rational atmosphere, maybe the other party will not be completely out of control, give you a slap. When the other party reaches a stage, you can put forward the solution you want to make the other party feel that you are not 100% Handan. Although it is inevitable to be scolded, at least the other party will not completely lose trust in you.

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Don't worry at all. The problem is not deep. Everyone who speaks needs the encouragement of the obedient party to speak more freely. As long as your reaction is an encouragement, no matter how important and profound the other person is, he will be encouraged. Go ahead. Don't pretend to have depth, as long as you know how to appreciate the depth of others, it is already a virtue.

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? Chattering? And then what? Good eloquence? , is completely different. It is boring to spend an hour with a taciturn person; But ten minutes with a chatterbox should make you want to strangle each other. People who talk like machine guns and are very proud may try to use older weapons: bows and arrows. Leave room for the listener to digest. As long as your words are worth mentioning, don't worry, the other party will also see your strength.

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People like their names so much that when others write emails to you and talk to you on the phone, if you mention your name from time to time, your concentration and recognition will be greatly improved.

The way Cai Kangyong in Cai Kangyong speaks.

If someone scolds you, you scold him back, which is called quarreling; When someone praises you, you respond with praise. It's called socializing. If someone praises you, you just say politely:? Thank you? This is natural and graceful, which is also very good. If it is not enough, it is usually more suitable for the world's first beauty or the world's first richest man. Such people are often praised to paralysis.

If someone scolds you, you can respond with a compliment. What will happen?

I really seldom see this phenomenon. If it really happens, I think the other person will be very surprised, and you will have a halo on your head immediately. Is it to consolidate your mind or increase your indifference?

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When you disagree with the other person, if you don't insist on letting the other person admit defeat and admit his mistake like Gu Gu, an argumentative colleague. This is not helpful to the progress of things. You can keep the words, a gentle reminder. If the other person is not too stupid, you should recognize your position. On the other hand, when you meet a very strong person and have to force you to give up, if you admit that losing won't hurt you, I suggest you laugh it off and give that meaningless victory to the other side. This will show that you are very measured and the other party will be happy to cooperate with you further.

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