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self-control guide to stop masturbation

------------. Many people, both men and women, have overcome it, and you can do it if you make up your mind. Making up your mind is the first step and the starting point. You must make up your mind to stop masturbation. When you make up your mind, the problem will be solved to a great extent. This resolution must not be just a hope, not just knowing that it is good for you, but a real resolution! If you are determined to heal yourself, you have the power to resist your bad tendencies and any external temptation. After you make this decision, follow the following methods:

Self-control Guide

1. Never touch the private parts of your body except when you go to the toilet.

2. Try to avoid being alone, find some good companions and stay among them.

3. If you have a good friend who has the same problem, you must cut off contact with him. Don't associate with anyone with the same problem. Don't think that two people quit together, it will never be done. You must get rid of this kind of crowd. Because when you see them, you can't help thinking about your problems. This problem must be strictly removed from your mind. Your mind must focus on other or healthier things.

4. Never admire yourself in front of the mirror when taking a bath. Take a bath for no more than 5 or 6 minutes, which is enough time for you to take a bath, dry, get dressed and go out of the bathroom to return to your family.

5. If bed is the place where you are most prone to make mistakes, you should put on your night clothes properly enough so that you can't touch the key parts of your body easily, so it will be difficult and troublesome to take off your clothes. By the time you start to take off protective clothes, you will have enough time to control your thoughts and stay away from temptation.

6. If the temptation seems uncontrollable when you are in bed, you must get up immediately. You can go to the kitchen and get yourself some dessert, even if it is midnight, even if you are not hungry, even if you are worried about getting fat. The purpose of doing this is to divert your attention. It can be said that you can control your consciousness.

7. Stay away from pornographic books. Don't read articles about masturbation. Don't think about masturbation. Remember: "Once you think about it, you will do it". You must change your way of thinking and let that idea leave your mind. Once you do this, you will quit him.

8. Healthy things should always be on your mind. You can read a good book, and it is best to read a book that improves your moral cultivation every day.

9. You can also pray and make a wish. But don't involve masturbation, because it will make you think about it all the time. Pray for sincerity, understanding and your relatives, friends and family. Don't think about masturbation, don't mention masturbation, don't talk about masturbation with others, and don't mention it in prayer, let it leave your mind. The attitude towards this problem determines the difficulty of overcoming it. The key is to promise to overcome it. When a person understands the reasons for doing this, he will create conditions and environment to help put it into practice, and he will have the power to control all this. Masturbation can bring guilt and emotional stress. Excessive masturbation can cause physical harm. It is a completely self-centered secretory behavior, which does not express the reproductive ability of human beings at all. This kind of masturbation will lead to the loss of self-esteem, make a person's faith fragile, feel his responsibility become a burden, and regard his obligation as charity.

Other suggestions:

1. You should do more spiritual exercises to overcome the temptation, instead of waiting for the strongest temptation to pray.

2. Make a powerful daily exercise plan. Exercise can relieve mental tension and depression, and it is definitely the basis for solving problems. When you feel stressed, you can double your exercise.

3. When the idea of masturbation is strong, try your best to stop it in your mind. You can recite famous sayings or sing an inspiring song. The most important thing is to turn your mind away from indulging selfish needs.

4. Make a goal of abstinence, starting every day, then month by month, year by year, and finally achieve complete abstinence. You can't really overcome the temptation until you completely quit.

5. always imagine a changed self, which will make it easy for you to make a complete change in behavior and attitude. Take time to imagine that you have enough ability and self-control every day, and you can easily overcome the temptation of the environment.

6. Make a daily improvement plan. Combine this plan with participating in public welfare activities and improving interpersonal relationships. Try to strengthen your strength and talent in this field.

7. Be friendly to others. Force yourself to work with others, and learn to work and communicate with others. You can learn how to make friends through books, such as how to win friends and influence people by dale Carnegie.

8. Understand the circumstances that make you depressed and feel lonely, bored, lost and discouraged. These mentality will induce you to masturbate to escape. Be prepared for these low moods in advance. You can study, visit friends or do sports and so on.

9. Make a card-type portable calendar, take it with you and don't show it to others. Once you lose control one day, color it red. Your goal is no red. Calendar will be a strong visual signal to remind you to control yourself. You will notice it when you are trying to add red. Keep the calendar until there is no red for three months.

1. You should carefully study when and under what circumstances you are most likely to masturbate. Recall the exact time and specific environment in detail. Now that you know how it happens, you should break this pattern by doing the opposite to liberate yourself.

11. One of the psychotherapy methods is called "aversion therapy". When we associate unpleasant things with pleasant but undesirable things, disgust will offset the pleasant mood. If you associate disgusting things with loss of self-control, it will help you stop masturbating. For example, once you want to masturbate, you can imagine that you have to bathe in a bathtub full of worms, scorpions, spiders and centipedes after masturbation, and you will be swallowed up by them.

12. When you go to the toilet or take a shower, let bathroom door or the shower curtain leave a gap to avoid being completely alone. Take a cold shower.

13. Get up immediately after waking up in the morning. Never stay in bed at any time. Get up and do something. Start each day with passionate behavior.

14. Empty your bladder. Avoid drinking a lot of liquid before rest.

15. Put less spices and condiments in food. Dinner is as simple as possible.

16. Choose pajamas that are difficult to take off, but loose and don't stick to your body.

17. avoid contact with people, environments, pictures or reading materials that can easily stimulate your sexual impulse.

18. It is useful to set a physical exercise goal in the process of overcoming.

19. In a very severe situation, it is necessary to tie a hand to the bedstead, which helps to stop masturbation in a semi-sleep state. Wearing multiple layers of clothes makes it difficult to take them off when you are half asleep, which can have the same effect.

2. Establish a reward system for your success. Not necessarily a big reward. When you reach a quarter of your plan, the reward will cheer you up and remind you to keep improving.

21. Don't put you back into the mode that causes you problems. There are always difficulties. Be careful to remain calm and confident. Keep a positive attitude. Believe firmly that you can win. When you do this, you will feel happy and full of strength, which will make your life radiant and bring you a sense of fullness and satisfaction.

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