You can obviously feel that the other person's eyes are beginning to wander a little, so you take out your mobile phone and look at it awkwardly, and unconsciously do the action of fiddling with the straw, look around and look at you again. That feeling is not to mention how awkward it is.
when your mind is blank and you don't know what to do, you can take a few deep breaths first, and you might as well go to the bathroom to wash your face and calm down.
here's the dating chat, which will never be awkward again.
Tip 1: Insert a sentence, "This reminds me of ..."
When you suddenly don't know what to say, you can insert a sentence, "This reminds me of ...".
specifically, you should look around first, and everything around you can be talked about as a topic.
For example, an advertisement played on the big screen, the decoration of a nearby clothing store, the delicious food you just ate, the place you just passed, and so on, as long as you can see it, you can use it as a topic.
Then naturally say, "You know, it reminds me of ..." and then add it as appropriate.
Give me a chestnut:
You see the KTC advertisement playing in the store opposite:
Then you can say, "Do you like fried chicken? Fried chicken with beer is as happy as a fairy. When it comes to fried chicken, it reminds me ... ".
Later, you can talk about what interesting things you have experienced related to fried chicken or other interesting things, then the girl will share her experience according to the topics you throw out, and then continue to talk about more topics.
or you don't know what to say after someone else has finished her story, so it's good that you can add this sentence at this time, because people are always attracted to people/things similar to themselves, and birds of a feather flock together. When the other person thinks that you are the same kind of people, then others will naturally have a good impression on you.
We can see that this sentence is very suitable for opening a new topic. When your brain is short-circuited and blank, we can move out this sentence!
Coup 2. When you ask questions, you should ask as many open questions as possible.
Most of the reasons for chatting to death are because your questions are too limited. When you set boundaries for each other's answers, people often answer some "hmm". Yeah, oh, oh, with this limitation.
For example, you ask, "You are from Guangzhou. Do you like being in Guangzhou?" At this time, girls can answer in one word, like it, ok, just like that, and then you will fall into awkward silence.
Why not change this question to "You are from Guangzhou? What do you think of Guangzhou? I'm curious. Can you tell me something about it?"
When you are inviting a girl to share something she likes, then the other person will naturally lead to more topics.
In addition, you can use children's common conversations to ask girls "Why?" This is a typical open question, and any topic can be answered.
For example, you say, "Then why did you come to work in Beijing?" Or "Why did you choose to be an industry?" Wait, sometimes a simple "why" can open the other person's chatterbox.
Of course, you shouldn't keep asking questions like "1, whys", just ask them appropriately.
Such open-ended questions will help you get to know each other better and build a deeper emotional connection with each other.
coup 3. Try to repeat the old saying when you have to
When your chat is completely at a standstill, try to repeat the old saying when you have to.
For example, when you are sitting together staring at each other, you can ask her, "Tell me something about you." At this time, the girl will feel puzzled and feel, "Where should I start?".
Because this question is too open, girls' answers often lead the conversation to the topic they want to talk about.
Girls usually ask "Are you asking me about my hobbies or my emotional past" or something else.
In this way, you can not only know the topics that girls are interested in, but also extend more topics from her topic, killing two birds with one stone, isn't it beautiful?
No one can succeed casually. All success in this world requires time, energy and even money, and chasing girls is the same. There will be no pie in the sky, let alone a sister Lin.
you said you couldn't chase girls, didn't know how to chat, and didn't know how to get in touch with her on a date.
you said you did, but you never did it.
you learned how to chat without chatting, learned how to date without dating, and added a personal profile emblem XIN without chasing girls, and got a cheat sheet, so that you could chat and know how to date.