Charm magnifies a woman's life.
If you ask many women if they love beauty, the answer is yes. Yes, what woman doesn't love beauty? Walking in the street, you can see at a glance that someone loves beauty. You know she did a lot of things for beauty, such as makeup, dyeing hair, buying beautiful clothes, losing weight, breast enhancement, rhinoplasty and so on. But some people, you can't see her love for beauty, leaving behind dull skin, chapped lips, messy and dry hair, lax body and sloppy clothes, not to mention elegance.
Didn't you say that "everyone has a heart for beauty"? Why don't these people who can't see beauty love beauty? In my opinion, it is mainly a matter of concept. There are two reasons. First, most women don't really realize the importance of beauty and charm to a woman's life happiness. Second, women who are not beautiful enough or are no longer young and beautiful will lose interest in beauty and charm. They will subconsciously think that they have left this attractive and radiant thing, so they unconsciously give up the pursuit of beauty. Although I sometimes wear lipstick and buy some new clothes, my passion is gone and my efforts are gone.
A soul who loves life should not be indifferent to beauty and charm, and the pursuit of beauty and charm should become a part of life. There is a classic line in the movie Titanic: "Enjoy every day of your life." What is the life you enjoy every day, even every minute? "Enjoy life every day" is to challenge yesterday's self, improve today's self and create a brand-new self tomorrow; "Enjoy every day of life" also represents the lifelong desire and pursuit of beauty and charm.
"Charm" is a special word, so we might as well look at it separately. The first is the word "charm", and the interpretation of Ci Yuan is "the wonder of wood and stone, the confusion of ghosts". The left part is a "ghost" with infinite ghosts and invisible power; The right half is the word "Wei" in the future, and the word "Wei" is added to the "ghost", indicating that "charm" can affect the future. More importantly, the attractive word "force" is interpreted as "interaction between substances" in etymology. Any material phenomenon that changes the static or uniform linear motion state of an object and deforms it is called force. I have experienced that when you see the word "strength", the words "strength, motivation, strength, motivation and pressure" will flood into your mind, making people feel full of progress. This made my thinking complete, and I realized that charm is a kind of power. If you acquire and own it, you will have the power to infect, influence, even drive and control others, and you will have control over your future life.
The word "charm" is enough for women to ponder, study and toss for a lifetime. If you are really interested in charm, you will benefit for life, and charm will enlarge your life.
Cultivating charm is on the road every day
If we follow the philosopher's famous saying: "Destiny is in our own hands", then the key to charm must be in our own hands.
"Do you want to be attractive?" If you ask every woman this question, the answer must be affirmative and clear. In fact, the word "think" is not as simple and easy as the answer. There needs to be a "hard" project behind the word "think", which needs to be completed in a woman's life. When women answer this question, they subconsciously think that charm is innate, such as beautiful eyes, charming figure and smooth skin ... I like to call these godsend things beautiful or beautiful. Many women subconsciously think that they have no beautiful part, or when youth is gone forever and there is no youth and beauty, they often lack or even lose the motivation and passion to pursue beauty. This is a big misunderstanding for women, especially women in China. Beauty can form part of charm, but beauty is not equal to charm. Charm is a charming force, which needs to be excavated hard the day after tomorrow.
When I was studying at the Hollywood Institute of Cosmetic Modeling, I often communicated with those teachers. I like to observe the details of their lives. One of the makeup teachers, Cherie, is proficient in English, French and Japanese, which is really charming. Tuition in this school is very expensive. The tuition fee for a three-week course is about two thousand dollars. My study time was very limited at that time. I hope to find a high-level and efficient school. I visited many places and finally decided to choose this school. Honestly, it's because of her charm.
When I first came to this school, I met Cherie, a middle-aged woman in her forties. Her makeup, dressing and temperament attracted me at once. I still clearly remember that she was wearing clothes with lavender as the main color. The overall dress gives people the feeling of elegance and fashion, especially the professional purple blush and exquisite three-dimensional lavender lip shape, which represent the taste and professional level of this school. Sure enough, this is a great school. She is also an excellent teacher. She taught me a lot, and I learned a lot from her. Once I asked her how to grasp the world fashion trend, and she told me, "The easiest way is to watch the advertisements of big brands." She said: "No matter where you are in the world, you should know the fashion trends and pay attention to the advertisements of big brands."
She is a beautiful and tasteful woman every day. The more she looks, the better she looks. She is very particular about diet, exercise and lifestyle. After that, every time I went to America, I liked to meet her. Every time she gave me a surprise and a refreshing feeling.
Not long ago, I went to America again and found that Cherie had changed a lot. Her bright eyes are brighter, her symmetrical figure is slimmer and more delicate, and the outline of her whole body is obviously reduced by one size. I asked her in surprise, "How did you lose so much weight at once?" She told me cheerfully, "I'm much thinner, but I'm also much healthier." She has always been healthy. I don't know what she means by healthier, but I obviously feel that she is more energetic and energetic. I invited her to dinner as usual, and her answer puzzled me. She said, "Thank you, thank you very much. However, my eating habits have changed, and now there is nothing I can eat in the restaurant. "
Self-cultivation: Nourishing the Flowers of Women in Full Bloom (2)
Because of my career, I have the opportunity to meet many women with different styles. When I observe these women, I have a strong feeling. Among the women I met, those who are particularly attractive must have made extraordinary efforts for their charm. Charm is in your hands, but have you worked hard enough for it? Can you insist on grooming yourself every day? Can you insist on controlling diet and exercise every day? Can you keep learning how to improve your charm? Can you adjust or even change the lifestyle formed in your life? If you can, you will continue to gain charm, just like those attractive women in life who attract us.
Most women who are eager for success know how to make enough efforts for their education, knowledge and skills. Similarly, if you want to be attached to charm, you must be full of energy in your life, just like if you love literature, photography or painting, how can you create any good works without energy?
The present situation of people is more due to the accumulation of living habits from childhood, especially in charm. The desire to have charm is simple, but to really gain charm and enhance charm, you need to have the consciousness and habit of cultivating charm. Figuratively speaking, if you want to be an attractive woman, you have to regard cultivation as an arduous life project and practice hard on the road every day.
French women are recognized as the most elegant women in the world, and they have a sense of cultivating charm from generation to generation. French mothers attach great importance to their daughters' posture, hair, facial expressions and attitudes, and are keen to let their daughters participate in dance, music, performance and other art learning and training courses. They will be gratified and proud of their children's outstanding performance in this regard.
A French beauty expert said, "Don't underestimate a woman who can keep a beautiful figure for a long time. This is usually a tenacious and self-controlled woman. " In other words, behind a woman's beautiful figure, it is not only a physical problem, but also a beautiful problem for a woman to enhance her charm, which also reflects the connotation and quality of many women. The subtle aesthetic education handed down from generation to generation in France has created the elegance of French women from generation to generation.
Due to the limitation of different national traditions and concepts, most women in China failed to provide the conditions and environment for receiving aesthetic education when they were minors. Therefore, compared with women in developed countries, there is a big gap between the "innate" quality and the "acquired" quality of female charm, and there is a lack of awareness of cultivating charm. However, this situation is slowly changing now.
I believe that in the near future, charm will become a central word of aesthetic education, and the times will give it more humanistic connotation and humanistic glory.
Charm only comes from you.
In this book, I especially want to tell my female friends that beauty and beauty are perceived through vision, and charm is the result of female cultivation. Years of beauty work experience and life experience tell me that charm can be cultivated and acquired continuously, and every woman can be more attractive today than yesterday and tomorrow. What matters is whether you realize the importance of charm, whether you are willing to constantly learn and practice ways to enhance charm, and whether you can make it an important part of your life and make unremitting efforts for a long time.
Over the years, I have been advocating the concept of "cultivation" and spreading it in many universities, institutions and enterprises. Maybe I gave Charm too much content and space, so that every time I talk about Charm and see Charm, I feel happy and kind.
In fact, I am a big beneficiary of charm. I am a "middle-aged woman" who has passed the best age for women. However, before I was 30 years old, I hardly heard any praise for beauty and beauty, but after I was 30 years old, it was not false, it was true.
I am a girl who has been called a "wild child" since I was a child. I love sports and am good at climbing mountains and trees. I'm not interested in knitting sweaters and bows that girls like. Swimming in summer is like a briquette. I like killing and fighting in the snow in winter. I have nothing to do with ladies, and I really have no chance with beautiful women.
After that, I became a soldier. When I was in the army, I was a hard-working and strict soldier. At that time, living conditions began to improve. Other female soldiers always have some clothes, such as dacron, leather shoes and sweaters. I always wear uniforms: coarse shirts, thick socks, military cotton velvet clothes and military rubber shoes ... In addition to buying some books and simple daily necessities, I also insist on leading the whole class to save two or three yuan a month.
At that time, I was a class cadre, outstanding in the military academy, and my height and appearance should be said to be good, but strangely, there were almost no admirers and suitors of the opposite sex around me. Now that I think about it, it is not feminine, let alone feminine. Later, my first love with my husband almost ruined the love of my life because of "chicken ribs", which touched me a lot. We grew up in the military compound, and he is smart and handsome, which can be regarded as the ideal prince charming in girls' feelings.
At that time, out of the wishes of both parents, I shyly prepared to have my first blind date with my mother. Mom took out her leather shoes, of course I won't wear them; Mom curled my bangs with an electric comb, and then I messed them up on purpose.
You can imagine how embarrassing the blind date scene is. I saw a charming and natural man. What he saw was a rustic, effeminate "country girl". Later, my husband told me that my pants were not sewn straight and one leg was exposed outside the military underwear. For this, I paid the price and experienced four years of hard pursuit and hard waiting. Many years later, my husband and I recalled the scene at that time. He quipped: "Your spectrum is too big, and a pair of military rubber shoes crushed me to death?"
Is this the first enlightenment to my charm? I think so, too. Of course, the real beneficiaries of charm will eventually be engaged in beauty work and begin to study the topic of charm in life. I was surprised to find that as the years passed, my age increased, but people gave me more praise.
Self-cultivation: Nourishing the Flowers of Women in Full Bloom (3)
Sometimes, I will take photos of my childhood, girlhood, youth and present, especially the photos of the past 10, and divide them into groups every one or two years. Therefore, the latest set of photos is always more charming and attractive than the previous one. This is not just my experience. As early as 1993, I met a famous beauty stylist in Singapore. She arranges photos every three years. At that time, one or twenty people in the beauty industry agreed that the latest photos were the most attractive. That was 10 years ago. I was shocked at that time. I can't believe that women will become more and more attractive. I envy her too. I envy women for having such a beautiful myth. I envy her expensive cosmetics and exquisite clothes for realizing this attractive reality. Who knows 10 years later, this is no longer a myth, and I have such personal experience. But the difference is that 10 years later, I understand that expensive cosmetics and expensive clothes are not the most important factors, but the most important thing is self-cultivation and hard work.
Here, I really want to tell every female friend that charm will not abandon anyone, only we will abandon it. Whether to throw it away or not, the key is whether you want it or not, whether you really want it or not, and whether you have really worked hard for it. Every woman can try. Starting today, as long as you really want to, really work hard, 10 years later, you will live a more wonderful, charming and praised life.
Education comes from the heart.
It is said that women should be educated. What is education? Education is the norm of civilization and the moral cornerstone of civilized society. Proper education will help people gain social recognition and live a happy life, establish positive and harmonious social relations among people, and show a good public image. The basis of education is to understand and respect others, while not interfering with others. Education is also the embodiment of good social norms, not arbitrary and not self-centered.
Education is to be kind to others and to yourself. Be an educated person, pay serious attention to others, listen to others sincerely and feel others truly, and you will find that respecting others means respecting yourself. Educated people don't talk loudly in public places. Educated people will take the initiative to flush when using public toilets. Educated people, even in unattended outdoor public areas, will not litter at will.
Real education is not for others to see, but from the heart, not for others to see you, nor for anyone to see you. Real education comes from a heart that loves itself and others. There is an old saying in China that "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" may be the best interpretation of "education". Education and habits are closely linked, and good habits will become a conscious action and internalize into education over time. To get an education, we should start from cultivating good habits.
When you work and live with educated people, you will feel harmonious and happy, and often you will be sublimated and moved by human nature. I remember once, I was traveling with some friends in Yosemite Nature Park in the United States, and I was infected by Americans' love for camping. We also simply cleaned up the car and joined the American camping team. This is a large open space sorted out in the virgin forest, with more than 65,438+000 vehicles and almost more than 65,438+000 camping families and partners. In the evening, everyone lit a bonfire and smoked noisily like a big family. People listen to music, barbecue and drink ... The next morning, when I woke up slowly, all the vehicles had quietly left here. I found that there were no traces of 100 cars and hundreds of people staying overnight, and there were no abandoned items on the ground, not even a piece of paper or a leftover bone. There is no residue in the pool used for cleaning, and I was moved at that moment. I know what education is. It is a long-term life taste and habit, a heartfelt demand and expression.
Educated women are respected, pleasant and make people feel like spring breeze. Educated women speak in moderation, are not mean to people, do not bargain for a few cents, and do not take advantage of small things. Educated women are dignified and generous in public, not artificial, not frivolous, caring, good at expressing their feelings, and often praise and bless others, rather than envy them. And educated women * * * always pass like a gurgling stream, so that people around them are nourished.
The education level of women is an important standard to measure the degree of social civilization. As a mother, a woman's civilization directly affects her children and future generations, and a woman's accomplishment determines the accomplishment of a country and a nation.
First love is yourself.
"Perfection" seems to be a common fault in human nature. Everyone wants to be perfect, but this just goes against the laws of the world. It is precisely because of imperfection that the world has many personalities and many characteristics, which makes it so colorful.
No woman is perfect, but every woman can be beautiful, and every woman has her own characteristics of beauty. Even an ordinary-looking woman with an ordinary figure, even if she doesn't have enviable beauty and sexy at a glance, she may have a kind heart, gentle temperament, intelligent mind and magnetic voice, which will infect you and even impress you. In life, we often meet such women. In fact, the visual beauty will become dull after familiarity, but the feeling of beauty will last longer.
Women must really like themselves. Liking yourself is not blind narcissism, but being able to recognize your own shortcomings and accept everything, whether it is advantages or disadvantages. People who really like themselves know that the secret of happiness is not to get more, but to cherish everything they have. You will feel so blessed by God and live happily in this world. This is an open mind and the starting point of your happiness. A woman with such a mentality will naturally show joy to life, the environment and the people around you, touch yourself and influence others.
No one can be sure whether he is really popular, but he can ask himself: Do I really like myself? Psychological research shows that if you want others to like you, you must first cultivate your own characteristics. In retrospect, you must have some friends who are neither beautiful nor rich. These people are very popular in your circle of friends. They just like themselves.