Because people always give wrong comments, it is almost impossible for you to get satisfactory comments. Evaluation disappoints you, but it becomes a matter of course. Therefore, in order not to make yourself angry, don't care about your reputation or word of mouth, and don't care about other people's ideas. Otherwise, you will be satisfied with the pleasure and peace of mind given by the title of "section chief, director and director", but you have become a thorn in everyone's side.
-"Human Nature, Too Human Nature"
Before Nietzsche went crazy, he wrote Look! The man declared, "Listen, that's who I am. Don't confuse me with anyone else."
Have we ever complained about other people's misunderstandings and denials? Have you ever been complacent because of others' recognition and praise?
"You this dress is really ugly. Can make you old 10 years old! "
"How did you write this article? Language is primitive and lifeless. "
"This plan is simply not feasible. I really don't know what you have been busy with this month. "
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When you hear similar abuse, criticism, accusation and abuse, will you immediately feel depressed, depressed or even change your choice?
"Your performance at the meeting yesterday was really great!"
"Fortunately, you made this choice, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable."
"You are very talented in color. It's a pity not to be a painter. "
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And when you hear some positive words, are you complacent when you have no time to distinguish between true and false?
In fact, what we often care about is not our affirmation of ourselves, but what others think of us. These views are labeled by others' subjective initiative, but they have greatly affected our mood. Positive comments let us fly high, while negative comments will crush the fortress of will that we have built hard.
Louis Bienstock, author of The Power of Faith, said: "Everyone, whether a pawn or a hero, will be criticized from time to time. In fact, the more successful people are, the more they will be criticized. Only those who do nothing can avoid criticism from others. "
Mark Twain once invited a writer to dinner. This writer is not famous, and it is his first visit to new york, but there are more than 30 people present at the dinner, all of whom are local dignitaries. When he came to the table, the young writer became more and more afraid and trembled with fear.
Mark Twain approached him and asked with concern, "What's the matter with you? What's wrong? "
"I'm ... I'm scared to death." Young writers said timidly, "I know they will definitely talk to me in the future, but I don't know what to say." I am afraid of making a fool of myself, so I am scared to death at the thought of speaking in the future. "
"Ha ha," Mark Twain smiled. "Young man, you don't have to be afraid. I just want to tell you that they may ask you to speak, but no one expects you to make any amazing remarks. So don't care about other people's opinions, you just need to do your best! "
More often, your behavior is irrelevant to most people, so why do you feel wronged and compete with yourself in order to satisfy others' feelings?
You know, 99% of what happens to you is not important to others at all, so it is very unwise to choose to sacrifice for what others say. You are an independent person with your own thoughts, logical behaviors, opinions and ideas. Proper entanglement is normal, but don't let other people's opinions become your shackles.
1786, Mozart's opera The Wedding of Figaro premiered. After the curtain, King ferdinand iv of Naples frankly expressed his feelings: "Mozart, your work is too noisy, you use too many notes."
French novelist Mo Bosang was once criticized as: "The writer's stupidity is obvious in his eyes. Half of the beads are trapped in the upper eyelid, such as looking at the sky and urinating like a dog. When he looks at you, you will slap him a hundred times because of his stupidity and ignorance, and still feel cheated. "
Ernst Maha is a professor of physics at Vienna University. He said: "I don't recognize Einstein's theory of relativity, just as I don't recognize the existence of atoms." Einstein didn't care about the above criticism, because as early as when he was in primary school in Munich, the teacher said to him, "You won't succeed in the future."
Renard, a French writer who is famous for his diary literature, said in his diary of 1896: "First, I may not know Shakespeare; Second, I may not like Shakespeare; Third, Shakespeare always bores me. " Renard said in his diary 1906: "What do you think of Nietzsche? I think there are too many redundant words in his name. "Even the name has problems, so the article is self-evident.
These once ordinary people have suffered numerous criticisms and denials, but they never care about other people's opinions and attitudes. They believe in themselves and are determined.
Louis Beanstock said, "True courage is to stick to your beliefs, no matter what others say." Goethe once said, "Everyone should stick to the path he has blazed for himself, and not be intimidated by rumors or bound by other people's opinions." It is impossible for each of us to live in this world in isolation. Almost all knowledge and information comes from the education of others and the influence of the environment, but how you accept, understand, process and combine it is your personal business, and all of this must be viewed and chosen independently. Who is the supreme arbiter? It's not someone else, it's yourself!
As long as you have a clear conscience, you know everything in your heart.