On the one hand, we should respect our parents. There is a famous saying in psychology: "If you want people to believe that you are right and act according to your opinion, you need people to like you first, otherwise your attempt will fail." As a class teacher, we can't make parents like ourselves in a short time when we are in contact with parents, but we can pay attention to our way of speaking and let parents have the desire to communicate with you. Therefore, before communicating with parents, we should fully prepare students' materials, such as students' test scores in various subjects in recent days, homework completion, teacher comments and so on. At the same time, anticipate the problems that parents may encounter in their minds and try to be accurate when answering their parents' questions, so as to enhance their trust in themselves. For a few parents with high education level or rich experience in educating their children, we communicate with them and humbly ask how to manage their children, which not only facilitates our work, but also makes parents feel that we are more democratic, easy-going, honest and credible, so we are more willing to communicate with the class teacher.
On the other hand, understand parents. In the process of communicating with parents, learn about some faults caused by parents or the contradiction between children and teachers. In fact, we get all kinds of information about students from parents, and teachers also give feedback to parents about students' performance in school. If teachers and parents form a harmonious, mutual trust and cooperative education alliance, it will guide children to develop well.
Second, be good at communicating with different types of parents.
Because the composition of parents is very complicated and their knowledge structure and accomplishment level are uneven, no family education method is omnipotent. The head teacher should investigate and analyze the students' families, and treat parents at different levels differently, so as to be different from person to person and targeted.
For knowledge-based parents, the class teacher can truthfully reflect the students' situation to parents, fully affirm their reasonable suggestions and put forward their own views in time; For doting parents, the class teacher will generally affirm the advantages of the children first, and then reflect the situation to the parents in sincere and euphemistic language, pointing out the problems existing in the students and the harm caused by doting, so that such parents can fully understand the children with the help of the class teacher and actively cooperate with the education work of the school; For those parents who lose confidence in their children and indulge their children, the class teacher should emphasize the importance of parents in the process of their children's growth and learning, and attract parents to actively participate in their children's educational activities. The class teacher should reflect the students' little progress to parents in time and inspire parents' confidence in their children. For parents who neglect their children because of divorce, they should be advised not to influence their children because of personal grievances and help them fulfill their obligations of educating their children. In fact, no matter what kind of parents communicate with, the most important thing is to treat people sincerely, care for each other and understand each other to ensure the healthy growth of students.
Third, an effective way to establish home-school contact
On the one hand, the contact method is home visit. Through home visits, the class teacher knows the basic situation of students' growth environment, parents' cultural quality and family education, so as to have a more comprehensive understanding and understanding of students. It should be noted that during home visits, the class teacher should discuss with parents the methods of educating students and establish parents' confidence in educating their children. It is inappropriate to point out students' mistakes too much and weaken parents' trust in their children. Due to the rapid development of communication and the advantages of mobile communication, telephone or SMS communication has become a new way. It is convenient for the class teacher to call and send text messages to parents, and it is also suitable for emotional maintenance with parents. It should be noted that when communicating with parents by telephone, the class teacher should be kind. Give more affirmation and encouragement to students' recent performance; For the shortcomings, we should express them euphemistically. With the development of modern network, network platform has increasingly become an important way of communication. The head teacher can communicate with parents online by email and online blog.
On the other hand, the contact way is to hold regular parent-teacher conferences. Parent-teacher conference is the dominant and most important way of home-school communication. The definition of parent-teacher conference is an introductory meeting or activity initiated by a school or a teacher for the purpose of communication, interaction and introduction among students, parents and teachers. Generally speaking, it is "a way for schools to contact their parents". The purpose of the meeting is to urge parents and teachers to understand and support each other, so that school education and family education can cooperate better, thus promoting the development of students. However, for a long time, there have been monotonous forms, similar contents and outdated methods in parent-teacher conferences. This requires us to establish a new parent-teacher conference model. First of all, the head teacher should learn to put himself in the other's shoes when holding a parent-teacher meeting, and experience the feeling of being respected, accepted and understood from the perspective of parents. Secondly, the parent-teacher conference should be rich in content. In addition to the traditional report of students' test scores, parents' meeting should also include the improvement of children's moral character, words and deeds, and the improvement of comprehensive quality, so as to remind parents to pay attention to their children's physical and mental health. Finally, the forms of parent-teacher conferences should be diversified, focusing on discussion. Change the traditional form of teachers' concentrated discussion into discussion and exchange, and make it a discussion and exchange meeting between teachers and parents, teachers and students, parents and children, and parents and parents.
Fourth, we should correctly evaluate students.
The contact between teachers and parents is often inseparable from the evaluation of students. Evaluating students in front of parents allows parents to talk about students' performance outside school first, and then the class teacher will talk about students' performance at school. The evaluation of students has the following points:
The first is to evaluate the development of students, that is, whether the students' grades have improved in the process of development and whether they have made progress step by step. In this way, students can be evaluated, and students can get out of the strange circle of scores in the process of transfer, thus improving their comprehensive quality.
The second is to establish a correct "student view". Evaluate every student objectively and comprehensively, so that parents can feel that this is the teacher's mind, and that the purpose and task of school education are consistent with parents' wishes, so as to achieve psychological compatibility and jointly educate students.
The third is to pay attention to the way. Communicate in the same language, pay attention to language skills, and avoid hurting parents' self-esteem. Because parents have the idea of "looking forward to their children's success, looking forward to their women's success" and "crops are good for others and children are good for themselves", in their hearts, children are good. If our teacher says that students are not good in front of parents, that's not good either. If we look down on students, it will seriously hurt parents' self-esteem. After all, the worst student has his own advantages.
Fifth, let parents feel that you are a serious and responsible teacher with noble morality.
In the conversation with parents, the head teacher can always reflect or reflect that the teacher is "all for the students" and "all for the students". Explain that he gave the child to you, and parents trust you very much!
In a word, the communication between the head teacher and parents is very important. The establishment of a good relationship between a class teacher and parents depends on teachers' sense of responsibility, mutual respect and emotional communication, and is based on the correct evaluation of students. The head teacher should learn and summarize the successful experience of others with the spirit of keeping pace with the times, guide the work with innovative thinking, form new ideas and open up a new situation in work.