My friend's daughter loves painting since she was a child, and she is quite talented. As a result, this friend gave all his money to send his daughter to learn art from a teacher. After studying for several years, the technique is great, and his works have won many awards in influential competitions across the country. So the media swarmed in and asked them to introduce the process and experience of cultivating children to become talents. In the following month, the father and the daughter did almost nothing, receiving reporters, talking, recording and eating all day. They have received more than 50 media, and some newspapers have never even heard of their names from central to local.

Supposedly, at a young age, it doesn't hurt to let the media publicize it. Now is the information age, and the fragrance of wine is not afraid of the depth of the alley. There are so many restaurants that you don't even know if they are good or not. However, everything must be measured. If you are surrounded by reporters all day, it will not only affect your normal work, but also make people feel complacent and self-expanding. Especially for a child of 14 years old, his psychology is not mature enough. Every day, when he is interviewed, appeared on TV, and signed autographs, adults will get carried away. How can children ensure that they will not be self-expanding?

But this friend doesn't think so, but one of his good neighbors witnessed this fact, thought about it and warned this friend. But this friend was very disapproving and asked his neighbor, "Do you know why the media are rushing to interview?" Because she 14 years old. If she won the prize at the age of 24, it would not be news. I'm afraid she won't even come to them. So I want to seize the opportunity and make full use of the power of the media to make her famous. Didn't Zhang Ailing say that it was too early to become famous? "

The neighbor sighed and said nothing more.

Needless to say, Zhang Ailing's article is naturally good, but some famous words she said still need to be discussed. If nothing else, the phrase "become famous early" misled many people in the world. As we all know, Zhang Ailing became a popular writer in Shanghai at a young age. The best works in her life were written before she was 25. For her, "becoming famous early" is a truth. However, if we further explore, we will find that Zhang Ailing's 25 years old is different from ordinary people, and her psychological age is even over 50 years old.

Anyone who knows Zhang Ailing knows that she is the granddaughter of Zhang Peilun, a famous representative of Qing school in the late Qing Dynasty, and the great-granddaughter of former Qing minister Li Hongzhang. Such a distinguished life did not bring much joy to her childhood. After years of discord, this buddy's father and his mother, who were deeply influenced by western culture, finally parted ways at the age of 10. Zhang is stubborn by nature and his stepmother doesn't like him. He was framed by his stepmother and beaten by his father. He was kept alone in the basement for more than ten days, and he tasted the world at an early age. So it is not difficult to understand that she looks at the world with suspicion at the age of one. He read A Dream of Red Mansions and Romance of the Three Kingdoms at the age of eight, published his first essay at the age of 13, and became popular in the literary world in his early twenties. On the surface, she did become famous early, but if you look deep through the surface, you will find that Zhang Ailing has never been young! What is beating in her young body is the heart of an old man who sees through the world of mortals! It is precisely because of this that she is not tired of fame and fortune, but finds a quiet place in the noisy world, settles down and walks alone on her quiet path.

At all times and in all countries, there are really too few people like Zhang Ailing who are not tired of fame and fortune. Most talented young women are not in her mood. They can't control themselves well, or they are frivolous and arrogant, or they are greedy for enjoyment, so that fame destroys them.

Fame is a heavy burden. If you get it too early, you can't carry it. On the contrary, you will overwhelm yourself and fall to the bottom of your life. Even if you can climb out, you will be scarred and lose your strength. So, let's calm down and respect nature. Life is like four seasons: young people are unrestrained like spring, young people are hot like summer, middle-aged people are mature like autumn, and old people are cold like winter. Every season has its mission and scenery. If you want to hurry up and skip a season, that kind of life is a tragedy, if not a disaster.

—— Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, "Being a Low-key Person and Doing Things with High Standards"